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February 20, 2020 at 10:10 am

1. Always be very mindful of the struggles of your partner, even if those struggles are invisible to outsiders. Always support your partner through his/her struggles. Be the rock your partner needs to survive.
2. Learn your partner’s “hot buttons” and stay the FUCK OFF OF THEM! Only a complete, fucking, dirtbag, mother of all narcissists does a tap dance on them. It is not important how I know this.

March 27, 2020 at 10:11 am

NEVER ever disparage your partner and this is ESPECIALLY true in front of outsiders. ALWAYS MAINTAIN A UNITED FRONT! If you cannot do that, don’t get into the relationship. If you disagree on any issue, ask yourself what is more important. Is winning your stupid, petty little argument more important than maintaining your relationship with someone who has agreed to completely change his/her life to accomodate you? To belittle your partner is tantamount to abuse and this includes gaslighting. If you don’t know what “gaslighting” means, google it. To belittle your partner in front of a crowd should, IMHO, carry the damn death penalty and you’re a dirt bag for commiting such a crime. There is nothing in the world that can cause you to lose the respect of all your friends and family faster than if you dress your partner down in public. DON’T EVER DO THAT UNDER ANY CIRCUMSTANCES! Your outside friends will not think that you are being cool or cute. They will see right through your bullshit and take sides with the partner that you are dressing down. Along these same lines, when outsiders ask about your partner, YOU MUST ALWAYS SPEAK OF YOUR PARTNER IN POSITIVE TERMS. Never let others see what is really going on behind closed doors.

March 27, 2020 at 11:33 am

In relation to rule 4, don’t ever complain to your friends about your partner. If you have to air your complaints, do it anonymously on Quora. The key word is “anonymous!”