Megha Bajpai replied to the topic Stop drinking alcohol in the forum General discussion 2 weeks, 1 day ago
In answer to the question; how has my life changed:
I didn’t wake up every morning feeling like shit anymore.
I could concentrate better and be more focused at work.
February 2000, I kicked the abusive asshole to the curb. I had more strength at that point to leave him.
I saved myself a lot of money by not buying alcohol for myself or for anyone…[Read more]
Devesh Srivastava replied to the topic Stress management in the forum General discussion 2 weeks, 1 day ago
Avoid Caffeine, Alcohol, and Nicotine – Avoid, or at least reduce, your consumption of nicotine and any drinks containing caffeine and alcohol. Caffeine and nicotine are stimulants and so will increase your level of stress rather than reduce it. Alcohol is a depressant when taken in large quantities, but acts as a stimulant in smaller quantities.…[Read more]
Arnika Tripathi replied to the topic Anger in the forum Anger can be controlled 2 weeks, 1 day ago
every time u feel to express ur anger just remember one thing that anger ain’t gonna reduce ur problem its not going to sort out ur any problem through any way. So even if things are not going well or according to u just try to swallow the words which are very egerly waiting to come outside. Do not try to understand things at the same place. just…[Read more]
Allen Faria replied to the topic Do things differently in the forum General discussion 2 weeks, 1 day ago
There are many layers to answering that question, but we are answering yours, not mine. Yours is a question I am most familiar with, as well as with the answer.
People will see that your way is the best way and so adopt it
People will see you as a threat for whatever reasons.
People will see you as artistically talented, one of the few groups…[Read more]
Abhishek Aiyar replied to the topic Be Happy in the forum Be Happy 2 weeks, 1 day ago
To answer this question though, we’re going to need to better define our terms. I’m going to use the word “happiness” as a positive emotion that is experienced when things go well for us. For example, seeing a cute puppy on the street might make you happy; that person you had a crush on or your spouse/lover paying you special attention might make…[Read more]
Suman Poonawala replied to the topic Relationship advice in the forum Marriage Life & Relationships 2 weeks, 1 day ago
There are no secrets in a healthy relationship. If you’re really in this together and you respect one another, everything should be fair game. Does someone have a crush on you? Discuss it. Laugh about it. Had a weird sexual fantasy that sounds ridiculous? Be open about it. Nothing should be off-limits.
Be open. Talk openly about everything, e…[Read more]
Shabaz Azmi replied to the topic Be calm and do not react in the forum How to deal with stress? 2 weeks, 1 day ago
It all depends on how much I value their opinion. If they are wrong, then don’t worry too much about making them admit they are. If you examine your own motives and actions and find that the person was right, take steps to change. If you find they are wrong, then no big deal. We are all wrong sometimes. And if the person isn’t someone you can…[Read more]
Seetha Lakhmani replied to the topic Emotions in the forum General discussion 2 weeks, 1 day ago
In the classic art of meditation you put your awareness in one place and as your mind wanders again and again, you just train it to concentrate by putting back your awareness in the same place again and again.
5 seconds rule is usually used to solve your problem of procrastination. But I simply used it in regulating that thought process of yours…[Read more]
Seema Malhotra replied to the topic Peer pressure in the forum Marriage Life & Relationships 2 weeks, 1 day ago
I don’t know any tricks or tips, what has worked for me is my decisivensss. I always hang out with my friends and colleagues. Most of them drink whereas I don’t.
They often offered me a drink saying “Try to karke dekh, ek glass mein kuch nahi hota” ( Just try it once, nothing happens when you drink one glass). I always reply no thank you. No mat…[Read more]
Samual Dean replied to the topic students in medical colleges so over-stressed over academics? in the forum How to deal with stress? 2 weeks, 1 day ago
Stop taunting us about all this and may be we will feel like hanging out with people more. Understand what we go through and encourage us. Boost our confidence. For once accept that we do work a little harder than the other individuals of our age without getting your ego hurt.
Stop asking us to chill. Because we can’t. We shouldn’t. We will be…[Read more]
Ravi Nigam replied to the topic What are some ways to relieve mental stress? in the forum How to deal with stress? 2 weeks, 1 day ago
Take care of yourself:
You can step away from the kitchen, without coming back to a burnt mess. Taking care of yourself is like having an equally capable chef step in and manage everything. When you return to your kitchen, you can continue your work without a hitch. No mess to clean up. Nothing ruined in your absence. Self-care includes…[Read more]
Peter Goodenough replied to the topic What's the best way to react when someone is shouting at you in anger? in the forum Anger can be controlled 2 weeks, 1 day ago
This situation gives the perfect opportunity to put your ability to control your emotions to test.
I would like to share my experience.
This happened at a client place when I was involved in an internal audit project. The Manager of the business unit was busy and I went and asked for some documents. As auditors I agree we are a pain in the neck…[Read more]
Peter Goodenough replied to the topic What are some ways to relieve mental stress? in the forum How to deal with stress? 2 weeks, 1 day ago
No news (although I never do this)
I’m not ready to meditate two hours a day. I’ve done that before when I was younger. I don’t know if it helped me. But I do like the idea of 60 second meditations: a) stare at the rooftops of buildings when I walk around. They are unusually beautiful. b) imagine each person I encounter, even stran…[Read more]
Megha Bajpai replied to the topic Problems in Married Life in the forum Marriage Life & Relationships 2 weeks, 1 day ago
I really liked the genuineness of this question. I would say start by ensuring problems donot occur. Being genuine and honest ensures that the problems don’t come up in the first place.
However having said that I know it is not practically possible and however much you try what has to happen will eventually happen. And when you’re faced with such…[Read more]
Devesh Srivastava replied to the topic How does one overcome emotional detachment/numbness? in the forum Anything is easy if you get used to it 2 weeks, 1 day ago
I think it’s par for the course, part of the grieving process.
First you were numb and shut off from the full raw horror.
Then the numbness, that temporary protective shield, dissipates like fog on a sunny morning, but it’s not a sunny morning to you; it’s the full darkness.
It’s a long uphill journey and, like most uphill journeys, there a…[Read more]
Arnika Tripathi replied to the topic How to use logical thinking to overcome emotions? in the forum Anything is easy if you get used to it 2 weeks, 1 day ago
I will answer this question with brutal honesty and suggest that your bad logic and problem solving skills may be a lifetime problem that you cannot overcome. Many people, despite being smart and educated, still have problems with basic mental tasks like focus, concentration, memory, spatial awareness, emotional awareness, or logical problem…[Read more]
Allen Faria replied to the topic Anger in the forum Anger can be controlled 2 weeks, 2 days ago
Anger is an unchannelised wave of energy, released by your heart in retaliation to an action which hurts your beliefs or expectations, use the power of your mind to release it by positive actions and not by hurting people.
Abhishek Aiyar replied to the topic Anger in the forum Anger can be controlled 2 weeks, 2 days ago
“You illiterate old man” he shouted at the old saint.
Saint just asked this man not to hit his pet dog.
Hearing these words, saint smiled at the man and said-
“I hope you become literate enough one day to understand the meaning of what you said”
“Get lost or I will beat you up” the man replied-
To this the saint said-
“If beating me wi…[Read more]
itsonlymind wrote a new post, How to gain self-confidence 2 weeks, 3 days ago
What is total self-confidence? Consider the word confide when you confide in someone you should put your trust in them. To have that confidence in yourself you need to trust yourself. When you get up in the […]
itsonlymind wrote a new post, 3 Steps to heal mind through meditation 3 weeks ago
Mind healing is something that we often ignore. That is a field we should concentrate on. To have a strong body, you have to have a strong mind. So many physical diseases are caused by stress. Taking the time to […]