Many people are confused about what a good relationship is and what is not. However, this is a very
subjective topic to deal with as each relationship varies from the other. Different people have faced
different experiences in their life and thus have varying perspective of things. What one couple may find
normal may be completely bizarre to another. There is no right or wrong in relationships, however there
definitely is healthy and unhealthy relationships. It completely depends on each couple on how they
want to make things work with their significant other.
Here are a few tips on how to keep a healthy relationship:
1) Take interest in each other’s lives
2) Acceptance and respect – as a relationship grows, apart from the nice things you will also come
to see the dark side of the person. Accepting and respecting the person for who they are and
loving them the same or more is key to an understanding relationship.
3) Reciprocate – effort in a relationship needs to work from both ends.
4) Positive regard – think positive and talk positive with your partner. Even If there has been a
misunderstanding, instead of pressing the issue, talk about what could be done next.
Many people are confused about what a good relationship is and what is not. However, this is a very
Empty vessels make loud noises. Have you experienced an outburst of your emotions as anger,
frustration or irritability? These could be effects of an empty mind. When you are jobless and have
no work to do, your mind fills up with unnecessary and useless thoughts. This could be called mental
clutter. These thoughts may include reminiscing about your past bad experiences, complaining,
worrying excessively about your unpredicted future or feeling anxiety in the present. These thoughts
tend to become a habit and get bottled up, until one day when it’s full and you will have an outburst.
Few of the simple ways to de-clutter your mind are: Clean up your surroundings, note down your
thoughts by keeping a journal and reflecting on it, Concentrate on one activity at a time- do not
multitask, choose your surroundings and people wisely, prioritize your daily activities and finally
By having a cluttered mind, not only do you give out negative energy, you also invite negativity into
your life. Use these simple and easy tips that will help you live a more peaceful and happier life.
Bring your mind into your control and live a fulfilled life.
What is Karma? According to the Hindu and Buddhism culture Karma is the sum of a person's actions in
this and previous states of existence, seen as deciding their fate in the future. However, there has been
many a debate about if karma really exists or not. Without doubt, Karma does exist. It is just that the
perspectives are seen differently. You must have heard the quote “what goes around comes around”
and “what you sow, you reap”. These are all not quotes taken from the dialects of these religion,
however said out of experience.
You might experience Karma just the way you delivered your actions or words, but it will definitely
bounce back to the exact same frequency as it was given out. There is even scientific evidence to this in
terms of the energies and vibes given out by a person that comes back to them. Thus, when an
unfortunate event happens to us, think before blaming anyone else. Stop and reflect on your own
actions and words. Did you bring this upon yourself? If yes, forgive yourself and move on. And if no, still
move on, revenge is not your job, Karma is waiting to knock on the door of the other.
The word beautiful is often used to describe physical appearances. Have you sometimes been through
this scenario where you have come across someone so attractive, however their appeal dies down in m
inutes after meeting them? On the other hand, there are people who might not be the best example of
good looking, yet are almost always the energy and loved ones of the groups.
The quote “Beauty is not only skin deep” stands true to these situations. While physical features may
grab your attention at first, it is not enough to keep the feeling alive. The vibe of the person speaks
louder than what they look like and that is what goes a long way in maintaining healthy relationships.
Real beauty is from within. When you are a beautiful person within, you tend to radiate good thoughts,
vibes and energy around you, which automatically makes you a desirable person to be around with.
Nevertheless, every person has their dark side against their light, but what is important is which one is
weighed more. So remember, beauty is not in the face; it is in the light of the heart. And also, choose to
see the beauty in everything as beauty is in the eyes of the beholder.
The word Yoga is derived from the Sanskrit word “yuji” which means union. It is a traditional practice that unites the body and mind in alignment and thus making one feel fulfilled. Yoga practices involve breathing exercises, meditation and asanas that need focus and calmness and thus relaxes and reduces stress in your life. Science has backed up evidence that practicing yoga has both physical and mental health benefits.
Let’s take a look at various benefits of this age old tradition has to offer:
1. Yoga for weight loss
Although not immediate, yoga does help lose weight and keep it off in the long run! With regular practice of Yoga, we tend to become more aware of our body and thus sensitive towards it. This is especially with regards to the intake of food that we take. Our body starts taking in only as much as needed and rejecting the rest. This becomes a lifestyle change and thus resulting in weight loss.
2. Yoga for relieving stress
The postures, techniques and breathing practices used in yoga are definite solutions to reducing your stress levels. A few minutes of yoga every day can help calm your mind and relax your body and thus enable you to manage stress more effectively.
3. Yoga for better immunity
Yoga is a natural way to massage your internal organs and strengthen your muscles. This techniques help correct the irregularities in your body by targeting each organ and thus resulting in a better immune system. A strong immune system is the core in staying healthy and avoiding diseases.
4. Yoga for better concentration
Each yoga pose involves a breathe in and breathe out pattern and thus requires all your attention while you do it. Moreover, complex yoga asanas can give you a muscle cramp or injury if you not done carefully. Therefore, yoga demands your complete attention which in turn improves your concentration and focus.
5. Yoga for flexibility and posture
This one goes without saying. Yoga asanas help improve overall flexibility of the body and also aligns your posture while sleeping, walking, sitting or standing. Many people turn to yoga for correcting their posture which causes pain in the lower back and so on.
6. Yoga for better relationships
The only way you can give love to others is by first loving yourself. Each one of us have several relationships, with our parents, siblings, friends and partners. Yoga triggers a calm, composed and happy mind that in turn fosters a happy and fulfilled relationship with everyone around.
7. Yoga for over-all health
Yoga does wonders to the mind and body, that in turn develops over all good health. Some of the basic benefits that regular practitioners gain from yoga are improved mental strength, better physical strength, protection from injury and detoxifying the body. Other additional benefits include improved posture. Inner awareness can also be achieved if given all focus to.
Yoga requires a lot of patience, but once you get into the habit of practicing yoga the various benefits will have you hooked onto it.
Positive thinking is a mental attitude developed consciously by looking at the positive and brighter side of life and deriving happier results from it.
Not everyone believes in the process of positive thinking. While some believe it to just be a fad, there are an increasingly growing number of followers who believe in it and are following it consciously. A person who follows this concept is more likely to be on the receiving end of happiness, health and success despite any obstacle or hardship that comes their way.
Here are a few tips to adopt in order to adapt positive thinking in your lifestyle and gain from its benefits:
1. Start your day on your positive note
The first thing on your mind in the morning is what fills up your thoughts the rest of your day. A single negative thought or talk can drag on or the whole day, ruining your mood until you go back to bed. Starting your day on a positive note can be as simple as breathing in, smiling and being grateful for the day. Taking it a step forward, you could even pass on the positivity by greeting whoever you come across a great day!
2. Enjoy the little things
Constantly having one sad or bad thought on your mind, can make the so many little things in your day to day life go unnoticed. It is the small things that make up the big picture and it is thus extremely important to appreciate and recognize every small blessing in your life. Every negative action has an equally positive side to it, even if it may be small. For example: If you are stuck in traffic, it just means you have more time to listen to your favourite music on the radio.
3. Avoid negative talks
It is common that negative thought can easily convert into negative talk. This might happen even without much thought or notice. A small negative statement can leave a lasting impression on someone else, and especially yourself. It can cement certain feelings and conceptions about yourself, in turn, affecting many other aspects of your life. This can be avoided by simply neglecting a negative statement and focussing on something positive. Speak out positive words to convert your thoughts into positive ones.
4. Surround yourself with positive
If you hang out with speaks volumes about your thought process through the day. People are easily influenced and affected by the people around them and minute negative vibes from surround around you can affect your moods and thoughts as well. While choosing the people around you during work may not be option, you can always limit your conversation and communication with those that do not fit the bracket of giving out positive vibes. On the other hand, your friends and your socialising spots are definitely your personal choices that can be altered and picked according to your preferences.
These simple tips are easy ways to trick your mind into bringing in more positivity in your life. Follow them now and make the difference in your life.
People who are your age, classmates in school or college and colleagues in workplace, are your peers. Often you may find yourself doing things that you really do not want to do, under the influence of your peers. This is called as peer pressure. Growing older requires you to take some challenging decisions which is when most likely you are influenced by your peers. You are unclear of your choices but take a step forward towards theirs. People of all ages deal with peer pressure. It does not necessarily have to be a bad thing, but almost always isn’t a positive one. Here is a small discussion about peer pressure.
Defining Peer Pressure
Wether you know it or not, you are influenced by your surroundings and the people around you. You learn from them, not just the positives, but sometimes also pick up their negative traits and this is an unconscious and natural process.
It is important to recognize the positives from the negatives and make the right choices. And this may not be an easy task. However, why do so many people give in to peer pressure?
Most of the time, people give in to peer pressure cause they want to fit in to their social surroundings or want to be liked by their peers, while others may get involved simply because they are curious to try something new. They thus do things that are outside their value systems or morally wrong. Although this might be in the back of their mind, the present sways them away.
What can we do to walk away from peer pressure?
Most people are afraid to say “no” to peer pressure with the fear of being disliked or not accepted. At such times, it is important to pay attention to your beliefs and morals about recognizing right from wrong. Internal strength and self-confidence can help you stand strong in your decision, walk away, and resist doing something when you know better of it.
Thus, it is important to choose who you are surrounded with carefully. With like-minded around you, you are likely to have the same kind of thought process and thus avoid having to do things that you aren’t comfortable doing. Similarly in a group, it also helps to have someone at your wavelength in order to be supportive and take the right decision when such situation arises.
Peer pressure is generally faced during your adolescent ages or teenage ages. Peer pressure comes in different forms such as influencing drugs, smoking cigarettes, etc. Getting involved in these habits can take a toss in your lifestyle in the long run and definitely needs to be resisted.
Talking to someone older, who you can trust and get help from is important to consider. Most importantly, it is important to choose someone who wouldn’t judge your choices and are supportive of your decisions.
Powerful, Positive Peer Pressure
Peer pressure is not always a bad thing. An example of a positive peer pressure can be the recent fad of becoming fit. By looking at one other, people are being influenced and striving towards a healthier lifestyle.
Meditation is an old age approach, practiced from years ago in order to calm, stabilize and focus your mind. It is a practice through which an individual focuses entirely on one particular object or thought to stay at peace. Although much spoken about, meditation is not very easy to practice. It takes time, effort and consistency to get a hand over this mind controlling exercise. Here are a few steps for beginners on how to start meditating:
1. Start small
Meditation is a process of stillness and may not be the easiest to conquer in our ever-so-happening brain. Most data studies reveal that beginners start practicing meditation for as less as 3-4 minutes. Although this sounds like a fairly less time, it may seem like really long when you first start out to meditate. The simplest way to start is to concentrate on each of your breath and keep going until you lose focus. It is important to keep bringing your mind back into focussing on your breath.
2 .Understand why you need meditation
Meditation can do wonders to your mind and soul. Although recommended to one and all, people facing mental health issues are the ones who mainly need to practice meditation. Be it stress, anxiety, irritability or something more subtle, like over thinking, Meditation can help you calm down from situations and get relief from these issues in the long run. It reduces your common tendency towards physiological over-arousal and calms and relaxes your nervous system. By focussing your attention on one particular subject, such as breaths or sounds, and bringing it back to attention when you lose focus is a method of strengthening your brain power. It also prevents larger commotions that you may face by blurting out your thoughts or feelings based purely on an irritable state of mind.
3. Find your own space and pace
Each person has their own way of meditation. ; LNJLKLKKKL/ it sitting down straight, lying down on the floor, an outdoor space or indoors, each person has their own comfortable space and you need to find yours! Finding a place where you face no distractions and external influences is key to meditation.
4. You can use a mantra!
A mantra could be a sound, word or phrase that needs to be repeated in order to bring concentration and focus to your meditation practice. Apart from being a point off focus during meditation, they could also have spiritual and vibration benefits. While some prefer chanting them within their minds, others prefer to chant them out loud. The most common mantra chanted all over the world is “Om”!
5. Consistent practice
Be it any kind of practice like eating healthy, working out, etc consistency is key. So is the same for meditation. More than the time meditated per practice, consistency and frequency of meditation practice is more important. Meditating for 5 minutes every day will show greater effects than meditating for 2 hours at a stretch once a week.
Hope these quick tips and tricks help you get into a good form of meditation ☺
Anger is a completely normal and healthy emotion that everyone experiences. Many people express it in different ways and it becomes unhealthy only when it flares out of proportion. Chronic anger not only affects your personal health and life, but also affects your relationship with everyone around you. It is thus extremely important to control anger if it spirals out of proportion. Anger management involves skills of recognizing the signs of anger, and taking action to deal with it in a positive way. This does not mean the feelings should be suppressed or avoided, it just has to be well-thought out and expressed differently in a healthy way. When you are able to do this, not only will you feel better, you’ll also be more likely to get your work done, goals achieved and be better able to manage conflict in your life, and strengthen your relationships.
Here are a few ways to take a step towards anger management:
1. Explore the root cause of your anger
Habits are generally developed from a young age from what you have learned. In most cases, these habits are picked from what you witness at home. If you have been brought up in a household where your family is yelling at each other, it is highly likely that you are adapted to such behaviour. Traumatic events in the past that cause stress and tension are most common reasons for short temperedness as well. It is important to consider these past experiences and understand and accept them and move on with life. Recognizing these root issues and accepting them, will take you a long way in dealing with them.
2. Be aware of the signs and triggers that lead to your outburst of anger
Although you might feel that you just had a sudden outburst of anger, there definitely are visible physical signs and triggers before you burst. Each one’s body might react differently from the other, and it is important to note the physical signs that your body gives out in this situation. Some of the general signs that people experience that lead to their outbursts are turning red, pounding heart, tension in the shoulders, clenching your fists, headaches, breathing faster, knots in the stomach or having trouble concentrating. Identifying these signs and addressing them before your emotions go out of control, is a definite way of handling your anger in a better way. You could also pay attention to the kind of surroundings you are in or the people you are with, when this frequently happens. Avoiding these situations to your best possibility is also an option to prevent losing your temper.
3. Figure out ways to calm down
Once you are aware of your warning signs and triggers, it is easier to address your anger. Once you feel any of these signs kicking in, you could use several ways to cool down by figuring out what works the best for you. Some common techniques that people use to cool down are exercise, take deep breathes and get a massage.
Hope these simple thoughts help you manage your anger better and lead a peaceful life!
Stress is a psychological pain and is often considered as a minor issue in mental health. Stress is acceptable in small amounts as it might be the motivating factor push and work harder. However, it is when this psychological pain gets out of hand, that it starts to have negative effects on our health, body and mind. Some examples that lead to this unhealthy kind of stress are: relationship problems, financial setbacks, health problems and social difficulties. Here are some quick and easy ways to overcome stress and put it to good use:
1.Avoid certain drinks and foods
Drinks that contain caffeine, nicotine and alcohol are stimulants that will definitely not reduce your stress, instead increase it further. These drinks can be and should be replaced with herbal teas, water or fresh juice. Staying hydrated is an important factor in affecting your moods.
When it comes to food, avoid refined sugars. Most processed, manufactured and packed food are refined and cause a crash in energy levels causing you to be irritable and feel low. Try having a wholesome nutritious meal instead.
2. Get more sleep
Lack of sleep is a significant cause that leads to stress. However, it is a cycle where stress is also a cause for disrupting our sleep. You could take a long shower or read a slow paced book and relax yourself out before heading to bed. It is best to avoid medication to catch some sleep.
3. Keep a journal!
Writing down your feelings is a great way to figure out the root cause of why you are having these troubles. It could be the company you were with or a particular activity that you didn’t enjoy doing much. By writing down your feelings, you will be able to discover a pattern and thus take actions towards the root cause of what is stressing you out.
4. Learn to say No!
A lot of stress is caused due to the fact of taking up work or favours that you technically do not have time and energy for. This usually happens to people who do not know how to decline a favour asked for. You can always reject an offer politely and save time for yourself. This not only reduces your stress, but also boosts your self-confidence to a large extent.
5. Talk to someone
Many a times, stress is induced due to bottling up your feelings. Just letting how you feel out to someone you can trust might be all the help you need. It can make you feel lighter and you may also get some great advice on how to deal with your problem. Sometimes, it may not be a real problem at all. Seeing things from a different perspective is already a step forward in dealing with your stress.
Hope these simple tricks help you manage and deal with your stress a better way. After all, stress is a common visitor to everyone now and then and is definitely not something you cannot cure.