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October 12, 2018 at 7:48 am

What kind of activities to indulge in to suppress anger?

October 12, 2018 at 7:53 am

Anger can be suppressed, and then converted or redirected. This happens when you hold in youranger, stop thinking about it, and focus on something positive. The aim is to inhibit or suppress your angerand convert it into more constructive behavior.

July 16, 2019 at 2:25 pm

Anger is something i need to work…  🙂

July 16, 2019 at 2:28 pm

yes you have to… there is always a choic e to make… just hold ur anger and focus on other stuff u like.

July 16, 2019 at 2:31 pm

From my personal experience, I can say that positivity surely helps in staying happy. Just find good in everything and every situation and you will be happy.

July 16, 2019 at 2:59 pm

There once lived a boy who had a bad temper. He would get angry at every little thing. One day, his father gave him a bag of nails and told him, “Every time you get angry, hammer a nail into that front wall.”

And so the activity started. On the first day, the boy hammered 50 nails. The next day, he hammered 40. Each time he used to go there, he repented being angry – it was quite a challenge to hammer a nail into that damn brick wall! Slowly, he discovered that controlling anger was easier than hammering, and the number of nails hammered started going down.

Eventually, a day came when he didn’t get angry, and he felt the joy of it. Now his father gave him another task, “If you do not get angry the entire day, remove one nail from the wall.” After several days, all the nails were removed.

Now his father took him near the wall and asked him what did he see. The boy replied that he can see holes in the wall. The father then explained to his son: “These holes are like the scars that you leave on people when you get angry. No matter how many times you say sorry, the scar does not go.”

So I suggest you two things:
Realize that words once spoken cannot come back. Your anger hurts others and leaves a sour impression that lasts forever.
Each time you get angry, “hammer a nail”. Simplest thing you can do is to carry a pocket diary and put a line each time you get angry. Then at night, count the number of lines for that day. If you make this a habit, each time you would get angry, you would be reminded to note it down. Indirectly, you would also realize that you getting angry. And because you are conscious and aware at that time, you would find it easier to control your actions and subdue anger.
I hope the day comes soon when you don’t have any line in your diary.

November 7, 2019 at 7:09 am

There are many ways to deal with anger. Most of them don’t actually deal with the anger, but end up trying to turn it into a game of hide and seek. They cover it up with something that takes away that anger feeling and changes it to something that feels good, or fun, or happy, or something else. Just anything, but being mad. Nothing suckier than being mad and having nothing to do other than to sit there or stand there or lay there being mad.

It’s imperative that you find something to do, quickly. You need to fill a bucket with soapy water and grab a few clean towels and start rinsing off your car’s wheels and undercarriage. Spend a good 5 minutes on each rim and tire. Rinse after each one. The anger you feel is driving you through this. You keep running it through your mind. Might as well. As long as you’re not flying a passenger jet or performing brain surgery, you can get this worked out. Find something you can do with your eyes closed. Once involved, you’ll be on co-pilot. Keep washing those wheels.

Go back over that which has caused you to be angry. Some believe it’s best to let it go, think of something else. If you have a bad heart, yes. Maybe, try to think of a peaceful grove with a quiet pond and a little frog and a little turtle swim near the surface at opposite ends of the shore. A bird softly calls from a tree nearby. If your heart is strong, it’s best to feel this. Let it run its course. If you don’t it’ll come back and bite you very soon. If you can keep it up on the screen, in all it’s fucked up glory, let it fire you up and keep making those wheels clean.

Go through the reasons that caused the actions, that made you first realize how you were chiefly responsible for the reason you’re feeling this anger. It’s the expectations you made for something that was not yours to control. You aren’t in charge of anyone but you. You may have some belief that people will do things with your expectations in mind. You’re fooling yourself, though. Even things you are in a position to control are not always going to happen the way you see fit.

Did somebody not live their life the way you think they should? Keep cleaning those wheels. Keep going over this again and again until you start feeling some laughter about to seep through the saliva that is flying in all directions from your profanity laced ranting that is being heard by several neighbors. To which you could give a fuck. Stand up tall and face them directly and shout, “What!?!”. Then, continue.

When all four wheels are sweet looking start washing the bumpers. Anything, but don’t drive that car until you have started laughing. Work it on through and get it put where it belongs. In the place where things we can’t control go to die.