Besides the basics like my health and the health of my loved ones, I need two things to be happy.
I need people around me to be happy. Not in a fake way, and of course not all the time. I have to surround myself with people who view life as I do, with humor and optimism and a down-to-earth personality. I would rather be by myself than be surrounded by the wrong vibe.
I used to think that since happiness is a state of mind, one should always be happy regardless of external circumstances. And it used to bother me a lot because I am definitely not always happy. That used to make me wonder if something is wrong with me, making me further unhappy. Talk about irony!
It very recently dawned on me that it is not just fine to be unhappy, but it is not even desirable or possible to be happy all the time. If we have suffered a loss or say a loved one is unwell, it would be inappropriate to be happy. If you suffer some upset in life, even if as small as your favourite cricket team losing a match, it is quite normal to be a little upset. If you see some injustice, it should make you sad and angry.
Obviously one should not wallow in sadness for very long, but all feelings such as sadness, anxiety, frustration, and even anger, are perfectly legitimate in the right context and within reasonable bounds. Gradually, we should find sensible ways to respond to those feelings and go back to a more ‘normal’ state of mind.
Instead of happiness, what we can always seek is a sense of acceptance and ease in our mind. Even when we are angry or frustrated, maybe we should acknowledge our feelings, and give ourselves the time to overcome it with appropriate action (e.g., forgiveness). I am definitely not an expert or even very good at that.
I now feel better that I don’t have to carry the ‘burden’ of being always cheerful and happy. It was not going to happen anyway 🙂
I feel unqualified to answer this, but I’ve listened to what other people say and selected what I consider to be the best parts:
The funny thing is that most of the items on this list are things that people gradually discover as they get older. That’s why people tend to become happier as they get older.
I am introducing a proven method by which anyone in this planet can be happy all the time everyday,It is applied to 153 people (till 12.10.16) and within two days of practice they are able to choose to be happy.
Yes,Happiness is a choice, but a very few can choose to be happy ,here within two days you will learn, how to make the choice to be happy.
The Happiness Routine :
Plan your daily work before going to sleep and write it in a small note book with time duration of each task you are going to do entire day and start following it from the beginning. 🙂
Because we can only be happy entire day when everything goes like exactly we want. So we must need to write what we want from a day so that we can follow it and get what we want. It gives a happiness boost at the end of the day when you see your copy and you see you have done exactly what you wanted to do throughout the day. 🙂
(IMPORTANT NOTE : WHENEVER YOU FEEL LOW OR SAD PRACTICE THE ABOVE MENTIONED 4 STEP MEDITATION TECHNIQUE ,IT WILL GIVE YOU CONTROL OVER YOUR MIND AND A INSTANT HAPPINESS BOOST in 5 minutes. 🙂
To answer this question though, we’re going to need to better define our terms. I’m going to use the word “happiness” as a positive emotion that is experienced when things go well for us. For example, seeing a cute puppy on the street might make you happy; that person you had a crush on or your spouse/lover paying you special attention might make you happy; doing well on an exam or performance or getting a raise might make you happy.
Spelling the word “woman” itself makes me feel happy and proud for my gender.Many say “Women can’t equal men”.Yes, I agree to that but guys,even men can’t be equal to women in all aspects.With the feeling of boldness I want to express some situations where I feel I’m glad for being a woman.
1.From at the age of 7,I faced a lot of sexual harrasments from many boys and men,teachers.Even my elder and younger brothers used to touch me inappropriately.I didn’t even share with anyone.
2. Being a girl,I have many restrictions from ny family but the one thing that led me positive is living happily with what I have
3. After that god made complete woman by physical changes . No boy can even imagine themselves bleeding for 1 week for every month of their life.
4.We have physical issues many.
5.We face a lot from society regarding marriage,domestic work,friendship with opposite gender,going out after 7pm.
6.I live to make my dreams live.They make me breathe no matter what.
7.Opposite gender friendships are somtimes a curse too.Some of them pretend in front of us..Some of them comment with vulgarity with lust full of eyes and many too.
8.Being a girl and woman,We are sensitive in smaller aspects of life but in bigger aspects of life we just smile and solve with a confidence.
9.After marriage,we do all the domestic work,face a lot from husband’s house,child birth may lead usto our death,still we prefer to give birth and many after that.
10.May many think that women are emotional,lacking confidence,courage but believe nothing is more beautiful than a woman with self confidence and trust that she can conquer this world.
Many think I’m boyish,innocent,immatured,sensitive,dumb etc but I’m actually another inside.I just make them see what they want to see me as. So that they can be satisfied. Only we have this super power.
Being all the multiple roles,enjoying with every thing we have,being complicate to be understood by men,with self confidence and gender obsession makes me happy and actually proud to say that I’m a woman.
And never ever feel ashamed of this. Move with confidence as we can conquer this world.
Having someone to love you unconditionally and loving them back unconditionally in return plays a big part in your happiness. It gives more meaning to your life because you have someone to share every moment of your existence with.
As humans, we have an innate need to feel loved and desired. And just having someone to share your life with can give you a lot of happiness and fulfillment. After all, love does make everything in life more meaningful and special.
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