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October 12, 2018 at 8:38 am

Common Problems in Married Life

October 12, 2018 at 8:40 am

There are many common problems in married life and a lot of them can be avoided, fixed or resolved using many different methods and techniques. Here are different problems in married life that are common.

1. Infidelity
Infidelity is a common problem in relationships. It includes cheating and having emotional affairs. Other instances that are included in infidelity are one-night stands, physical infidelity, internet relationships as well as long and short-term affairs. Infidelity occurs in a relationship for many different reasons; it is a common problem and one that various couples are struggling to find a solution to.

2. Sexual differences
Physical intimacy is indispensable in a long term relationship but it’s also the root cause of one of the most common marriage problems of all times, sexual problems. Sexual problems can occur in a relationship for several reasons. The most common sexual problem within a marriage is a loss of libido. A lot of people are under the impression that only women experience issues with libido, but men also experience the same. In other instances, sexual problems can be due to sexual preferences of a spouse. One person in the relationship may prefer different sexual things than the other spouse which can make the other spouse uncomfortable.

3. Values and beliefs
Certainly, there will be differences and disagreements within a marriage, but some differences are too major to ignore, such as core values and beliefs. One spouse may have one religion and the other may have a different belief. As you may have guessed, this could cause major trouble down the line when one spouse gets tired of doing things separately, such as going to different places of worship. Such marriage problems are extremely common in cross cultural marriages. Other differences include core values. These include the way children are reared and the things they were taught during their childhood, such as the definition of right and wrong. Since everyone does not grow up with the same belief systems, morals and goals, there is a lot of room for debate and conflict within the relationship.

4. Life stages
Many people do not consider their life stages when it comes to a relationship. In some instances, marriage issues occur simply because both spouses have outgrown each other and want more out of life from someone else. This is a common issue among married couples who have a significant age gap whether is it an older man and younger woman or older woman and younger man. Personalities change with time and couples might not remain as compatible as they once might have been. Couples with age difference, who are in different phases of life face this problem in marriage

5. Traumatic situations
When couples go through traumatic incidences, it just adds more challenge in their married life problems. Traumatic situations are other problems that couples may experience. A lot of traumatic events that occur are life-changing. For some married couples, these traumatic situations become problems because one spouse does not know how to handle the situation at hand. One spouse may not know or understand how to function without the other due to them being in the hospital or on bed rest. In other situations, one spouse may require around-the-clock care, causing them to be solely dependent on the other spouse. Sometimes, the pressure is too great and the responsibility is too much to deal with, so the relationship spirals downward until it comes to a complete end.

6. Stress
Stress is a common problem in married life that most couples will face at least once within their relationship. Stress within a relationship can be caused by many different situations and instances, including financial, family, mental and illness. Financial problems can stem from a spouse losing their job or being demoted at their job. Stress from family can include children, problems with their family or the spouse’s family. Stress is triggered by many different things. How the stress is managed and handled could create more stress.

7. Boredom
Boredom is an underrated but serious marital problem. With time some spouses become bored with their relationship. They may get tired of the things that occur within the relationship. In this situation, it comes down to being bored with the relationship because it has become predictable. A couple may do the same thing every day for many years without change or without a spark. A spark usually consists of doing spontaneous things from time to time. If a relationship lacks spontaneous activities, there is a good chance boredom will become a problem.

8. Jealousy
Jealousy is another common issue that causes a marriage to turn sour. If you have an overly jealous partner, being with them and around them can become a challenge. Jealousy is good for any relationship, as long as it is not a person being overly jealous. Such individuals will be overbearing: they may question who you are talking to on the phone, why you are talking to them, how you know them and how long you have known them, etc. Having a spouse that is overly jealous spouse can put a strain on the relationship; a lot of stress will eventually end such a relationship.

October 12, 2018 at 8:41 am

Good one.. well written, Ravi

October 13, 2018 at 10:24 pm

Thanks Seema, I appreciate that 🙂

September 27, 2019 at 5:16 am

Generally it depends on the type of problem which you are facing, secondly are you facing it alone or your spouse is also facing the same problem.

if its the problem any one of you is having, then the best i can suggest is get some courage and make your hands dirty and talk openly about it. Say exactly what is your problem and if other one is having any solution to it or not. Make sure before concluding the conversation, you get the result either positive or negative.
Secondly if you are having problem from someone else, then also you should talk to each other and jointly face the issue.
Make sure anyone of you don’t loud your voice, don’t become physically abusive or keep your mind calm. Best way always is to listen the problem and then according to your situation come to conclusion.

We used to had fight in early times, but now i have become calm and compose, so even if my wife loses her temper then also i shoot her mind down by acknowledging politely.

There might be chances that other person will become rigid due to his temper but you should not lose you patience.

“In a successful married life life a

September 27, 2019 at 9:58 am

You can resolve all your problems when you have mutual understanding between you and your husband…because ideas can solve the problems…so if you have anything share with ur husband….share each and everything with him….be frank and be honest it’s resolve all your problems…if you are loyal responsible honest and well trusted person then definitely you and your husband can live happily and can solve the problems no matter how hard it is…

September 27, 2019 at 10:17 am

I really liked the genuineness of this question. I would say start by ensuring problems donot occur. Being genuine and honest ensures that the problems don’t come up in the first place.

However having said that I know it is not practically possible and however much you try what has to happen will eventually happen. And when you’re faced with such a problem deal with it as genuinely as possible. Be honest with your spouse and ensure that the relationship is exciting.

Feel free to message me if you have any specific question.