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November 7, 2019 at 6:28 am

My book 🙂

You can read lots of ways to reduce your stress in my book “Distress to De-Stress”. You can search for “Vikas Kakwani” in Amazon or simply click the link provided in my profile. At the end of the book, I also offer a complimentary “My Stress Profile” questionnaire which will help you identify your major causes of stress. Wish you a stress free life.

November 7, 2019 at 8:40 am

Here is how worlds most successful people handle stress:

I once met Pune’s top real estate tycoon as he was invited as a chief guest by my uncle.

Fortunately I got a chance to be with him in a room as he and my uncle were having a casual discussion.

He explained about how his company is also working on developing construction equipment which would make the process efficient.

The conversation lasted for about and hour, my key takeaway from the conversation was that he was that he is a master of his field because he has immense knowledge about his domain, a lot of it was completely alien to me and my uncle. We all were blown away by his wisdom.

He was an extremely down to earth person and was selflessly sharing his wisdom with us as if we hired him to teach us.

At the end of the conversation, my uncle asked him:

“Sir, its been an hour since we talked, yet you didn’t receive a single phone call. How do you manage everything ?”

“I have way too less employees and sites as compared to you and I am constantly bombarded with phone calls every hour”

He replied:

“Its simple, I have strictly warned my staff that they should only call me when something goes terribly wrong, or if there was some big decision to be made”

“I told them to handle small issues all by themselves, I don’t want to spend my energy resolving minor issues”

“For all the important tasks of the day, my personal assistant carries a diary for me and I only focus on those important things”

“Whenever something important comes up, I just make a note of it in my diary so that I know I will have to deal with it later”

I got a goldmine of a tip here, i.e not to worry about the small stuff focus on the big picture.

A lot of stress comes from being worried about the small stuff and its not worth it.

How to practically implement this:

I read a book titled “The art of stress free productivity”, if you have time, definitely read this book.

Although the book is about being productive, it helped my a lot in reducing my stress.

The core concept is to note down everything you have to do, i.e make a list.

When you get to work without making a list, the other things which you are supposed to do will continually come to your mind and will stress you out.

For example, if you are studying but your mind is constantly thinking about you have to go to the medical store, you have to pay the light bill etc.

These thoughts come to your mind because your mind is critical that you might forget them, hence it constantly reminds you of doing them.

The author states that, you must note down the things so that your mind knows that it does not need to worry about them and you can focus on the task at hand stress free.

This method has worked great for me and reduced a lot of my stress, give it a try and let me know what you think.

Hope this helps.

November 7, 2019 at 11:48 am

Write it out. It helps me to write out what is stressing me, all the triggers associated with it, and the possible outcomes and its solutions. This allows me to evaluate how serious the events are logically. This usually results in me realizing how futile the problems really are and that there are simple solutions to removing the stress. When I keep these thoughts in my head, however, my imagination runs wild with various negative outcomes that amplifies the stress to exponential levels than it really is.
Breathe and mediate. I’m sure this will be the most common answer that you will receive because it works. It will bring you to the present moment and help you realize that you can only control what you can control. When you are stressed, it is your body’s response to your mind overthinking because it is trying to control things that it cannot. Your mind is having a difficult time identifying a possible solution to a problem that is current and your body is reacting accordingly. Breathing and meditating tells your mind to “chill out.” What I recommend is practicing breathing and meditating daily so that you are prepared for these moments because they will inadvertently and indefinitely come. So, if you prepare yourself by practicing it daily, then it will be that much easier to fall back into that peaceful place when stress comes knocking down your door.
Distract yourself. Stress will continue to stress you out when you let it. Therefore, the best way to stop it is to distract your mind by occupying it with other thoughts and activities. One of the best things that I’ve found is exercise. Run like crazy. Lift weights like Arnold. Not only will this help you distract your mind away from the stress, but when you are done, you will feel much more confident to tackle your life’s problems.
Learn from your mistakes. When I look at the things that stress my life, I realize that some of them have common underlying themes. The events may appear in different ways, but the source of the problem is the same. For example, I put stress on myself because I am not managing my own time well. I would over promise my time to others or to myself. I will set high expectations of what I can accomplish within the time that I really have and then stress myself out at the end of the day because I didn’t accomplish them. I would get stressed out about bills or unexpected events because I was careless with money. When I look at this, I start to realize that I create my own stress. And most of them occur due to the same bad habits that I practice on a daily basis. Therefore, if I don’t take the time to learn from them, then they will continue to appear in my future life.
I hope you will be able to find the best way to manage your stress because there are so many things to appreciate about life and stress really gets in the way of you seeing those awesome moments.

November 22, 2019 at 6:17 am

Avoid Caffeine, Alcohol, and Nicotine – Avoid, or at least reduce, your consumption of nicotine and any drinks containing caffeine and alcohol. Caffeine and nicotine are stimulants and so will increase your level of stress rather than reduce it. Alcohol is a depressant when taken in large quantities, but acts as a stimulant in smaller quantities. Therefore using alcohol as a way to alleviate stress is not ultimately helpful.
Indulge in Physical Activity – These are the “fight or flight” hormones that evolution has hard-wired into our brains and which are designed to protect us from immediate bodily harm when we are under threat. However, stress in the modern age is rarely remedied by a fight or flight response, and so physical exercise can be used as a surrogate to metabolize the excessive stress hormones and restore your body and mind to a calmer, more relaxed state.
Get More Sleep – Rather than relying on medication, your aim should be to maximize your relaxation before going to sleep. Make sure that your bedroom is a tranquil oasis with no reminders of the things that cause you stress. Avoid caffeine during the evening, as well as excessive alcohol if you know that this leads to disturbed sleep. Stop doing any mentally demanding work several hours before going to bed so that you give your brain time to calm down.
Try Relaxation Techniques – For example, try self-hypnosis which is very easy and can be done anywhere, even at your desk or in the car. One very simple technique is to focus on a word or phrase that has a positive meaning to you. Words such as “calm” “love” and “peace” work well, or you could think of a self-affirming mantra such as “I deserve calm in my life” or “Grant me serenity”. Focus on your chosen word or phrase; if you find your mind has wandered or you become aware of intrusive thoughts entering your mind, simply disregard them and return your focus to the chosen word or phrase. If you find yourself becoming tense again later, simply silently repeat your word or phrase.

December 9, 2019 at 10:42 am

There are countless non-chemical means to cope with stress. Some, and this is a short list, are: avoid negative people; don’t rely on your memory – write it down; make duplicate keys; say no more often; simplify meal time; always make copes of important papers; ask for help with jobs you don’t like; break large tasks into bite size portions; smile; pet your dog/cat; don’t know all the answers; say something nice to someone; say hello to a stranger; ask a friend for a hug; practice breathing slowly; stand up and stretch; strive for excellence NOT perfection; don’t worry what other people are thinking about you, because they are NOT thinking about you (you are not the center of the universe); ask someone to be your vent-partner; talk less and listen more; watch a sunset; know your limitations and let others know them too; Always have a plan B; memorize a joke; clean out one closet; write a note to a friend far away; remember that stress is an attitude; remember you always have options; have a support network of people; quit trying to fix other people; get enough sleep; freely praise other people; relax – take one day at a time…you have the rest of your life.

Should you care to read about my battle with anxiety/depression, review the ebook on Amazon Kindle, Rise Above: Conquering Adversities.

All the best to you!

December 20, 2019 at 11:40 am

Treat yourself well. Take time for yourself from time to time. Reward yourself, you deserve it. Pamper yourself, you’ve earned it. Give yourself pleasure, you need it. Don’t wait for others to praise you, praise yourself. Don’t wait for others to love you, love yourself. Don’t wait for others to take you somewhere fun, go and have fun yourself. Have more fun. The more relaxed we are, both mentally and physically, the better company we become for others, the better we can cope with life and the more we can help others. The better we treat ourselves, the more likely we are to want to treat others well. When we are relaxed and friendly, others will have more desire to be near us.

January 28, 2020 at 10:19 am

Spending time in nature
Deep Breathing
Reading novel
Getting a hobby