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You can read lots of ways to reduce your stress in my book “Distress to De-Stress”. You can search for “Vikas Kakwani” in Amazon or simply click the link provided in my profile. At the end of the book, I also offer a complimentary “My Stress Profile” questionnaire which will help you identify your major causes of stress. Wish you a stress free life.
Here is how worlds most successful people handle stress:
I once met Pune’s top real estate tycoon as he was invited as a chief guest by my uncle.
Fortunately I got a chance to be with him in a room as he and my uncle were having a casual discussion.
He explained about how his company is also working on developing construction equipment which would make the process efficient.
The conversation lasted for about and hour, my key takeaway from the conversation was that he was that he is a master of his field because he has immense knowledge about his domain, a lot of it was completely alien to me and my uncle. We all were blown away by his wisdom.
He was an extremely down to earth person and was selflessly sharing his wisdom with us as if we hired him to teach us.
At the end of the conversation, my uncle asked him:
“Sir, its been an hour since we talked, yet you didn’t receive a single phone call. How do you manage everything ?”
“I have way too less employees and sites as compared to you and I am constantly bombarded with phone calls every hour”
“Its simple, I have strictly warned my staff that they should only call me when something goes terribly wrong, or if there was some big decision to be made”
“I told them to handle small issues all by themselves, I don’t want to spend my energy resolving minor issues”
“For all the important tasks of the day, my personal assistant carries a diary for me and I only focus on those important things”
“Whenever something important comes up, I just make a note of it in my diary so that I know I will have to deal with it later”
I got a goldmine of a tip here, i.e not to worry about the small stuff focus on the big picture.
A lot of stress comes from being worried about the small stuff and its not worth it.
How to practically implement this:
I read a book titled “The art of stress free productivity”, if you have time, definitely read this book.
Although the book is about being productive, it helped my a lot in reducing my stress.
The core concept is to note down everything you have to do, i.e make a list.
When you get to work without making a list, the other things which you are supposed to do will continually come to your mind and will stress you out.
For example, if you are studying but your mind is constantly thinking about you have to go to the medical store, you have to pay the light bill etc.
These thoughts come to your mind because your mind is critical that you might forget them, hence it constantly reminds you of doing them.
The author states that, you must note down the things so that your mind knows that it does not need to worry about them and you can focus on the task at hand stress free.
This method has worked great for me and reduced a lot of my stress, give it a try and let me know what you think.
Hope this helps.
Write it out. It helps me to write out what is stressing me, all the triggers associated with it, and the possible outcomes and its solutions. This allows me to evaluate how serious the events are logically. This usually results in me realizing how futile the problems really are and that there are simple solutions to removing the stress. When I keep these thoughts in my head, however, my imagination runs wild with various negative outcomes that amplifies the stress to exponential levels than it really is.
Avoid Caffeine, Alcohol, and Nicotine – Avoid, or at least reduce, your consumption of nicotine and any drinks containing caffeine and alcohol. Caffeine and nicotine are stimulants and so will increase your level of stress rather than reduce it. Alcohol is a depressant when taken in large quantities, but acts as a stimulant in smaller quantities. Therefore using alcohol as a way to alleviate stress is not ultimately helpful.
There are countless non-chemical means to cope with stress. Some, and this is a short list, are: avoid negative people; don’t rely on your memory – write it down; make duplicate keys; say no more often; simplify meal time; always make copes of important papers; ask for help with jobs you don’t like; break large tasks into bite size portions; smile; pet your dog/cat; don’t know all the answers; say something nice to someone; say hello to a stranger; ask a friend for a hug; practice breathing slowly; stand up and stretch; strive for excellence NOT perfection; don’t worry what other people are thinking about you, because they are NOT thinking about you (you are not the center of the universe); ask someone to be your vent-partner; talk less and listen more; watch a sunset; know your limitations and let others know them too; Always have a plan B; memorize a joke; clean out one closet; write a note to a friend far away; remember that stress is an attitude; remember you always have options; have a support network of people; quit trying to fix other people; get enough sleep; freely praise other people; relax – take one day at a time…you have the rest of your life.
Should you care to read about my battle with anxiety/depression, review the ebook on Amazon Kindle, Rise Above: Conquering Adversities.
All the best to you!
Treat yourself well. Take time for yourself from time to time. Reward yourself, you deserve it. Pamper yourself, you’ve earned it. Give yourself pleasure, you need it. Don’t wait for others to praise you, praise yourself. Don’t wait for others to love you, love yourself. Don’t wait for others to take you somewhere fun, go and have fun yourself. Have more fun. The more relaxed we are, both mentally and physically, the better company we become for others, the better we can cope with life and the more we can help others. The better we treat ourselves, the more likely we are to want to treat others well. When we are relaxed and friendly, others will have more desire to be near us.
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