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September 27, 2019 at 7:11 am

There are many ways to think about stress and how to manage it. The “kitchen stove” analogy is one I often use to talk about stress management:

All your life stressors are represented by dishes you’re in the process of preparing on a multi-burner stove. Your dishes are unique to you. Maybe you’re trying to finish a degree. Get a career going. Start a family. Manage a chronic health issue. They are all sizzling or bubbling away in pots and pans.

You’re the chef. You’re in charge of all of these dishes…the ones that you’ve started, anyway. It’s hot in the kitchen. That’s stress.

The only time you don’t have stress is when all the burners are off. Stress isn’t a bad thing. Stress lets us know we are alive and provides us with motivation, challenging us to learn, grow, and create. Managing stress so that it can be a positive factor in our lives, allowing us to make all the things in our kitchen, is the goal.

September 27, 2019 at 8:28 am

Stress is a hidden enemy with a constant capacity to wrack havoc on your body and mind. Its actions are insidious, slow but powerful. The consequences can be debilitating on your physical and mental wellbeing. This is even more relevant today, in our extremely complex civilized society where stress triggers are automated by our rushed living.

September 27, 2019 at 9:23 am

For me, the best remedy against stress is exercise. Go running, go to the gym, bike, go swimming, or play your favorite sports with a friend. Whenever possible, exercise outdoors. Exercise produces endorphins that make you feel good and mellow. In addition, it’s healthy.

I would write more, but I have to hit the gym right now. It’ll refresh my mind for the afternoon work.

September 27, 2019 at 9:25 am

Delete some people from your life.
Don’t force yourself to fit into someone’s box.
Don’t procrastinate and keep things for last moment.
Don’t make unnecessary commitments just to be nice.
Don’t try to fix people who don’t find issues with themselves.
Learn to say no.
Avoid overdoing things and unhealthy competitions.
Don’t trade your authenticity for approval.
Be real. Say what you feel. It will save a lot of time and trouble.
Don’t care what others think of you.
Take criticism with grain of salt.
Don’t get attached to anything in life; neither people nor things.
Be with people who appreciate what you do for them.
Serve only those who deserve; serve only what they deserve.
Don’t carry harsh feeling in heart. Keep your intentions pure.
Don’t tolerate unnecessary drama.
Don’t give anyone the power to control your feelings.
Make peace with past. Let it go and live in the moment.
Don’t hold grudges; forgive and be free.
Love yourself. Be confident and believe in yourself.
Never deny your feeling. Accept and acknowledge them.
Vent out your emotions without hurting anyone (including you).
Plan things in advance; foresee the possible outcomes. Be prepared.
Stop regretting, comparing and complaining.
Eat and live healthy.
Make time to do what you love. Have fun.
Spend time with loved ones.
Appreciate the good instead of bashing the bad.
No matter what happens, believe things will work out. Nothing is permanent.
Stay positive. You have come this far. You will make through this too.
Remember there is always something to be happy about 🙂

September 27, 2019 at 9:29 am

Stress is “a state of mental or emotional strain or tension resulting from adverse or demanding circumstances.” According to Neil Shah of the Stress Management Society, a non-profit group, “Recent research shows that the body is designed to experience intense stress two or three times per month.” At some point in our lives we all express stress in one way or another. Stress sucks and can take up so much our time and energy. Here are 5 low-budget ways you can de-stress and live a happier and healthier life.

November 7, 2019 at 7:08 am

1. Don’t take it personally. Life is a mixture of good and bad. If something bad happens to you-past, present, or future – take it as part of your life.

This is not the result of malice directed against you, nor is God’s punishment sent down upon you – simply life is multicolored and diverse. If only good things happened to us, we wouldn’t learn anything, and our lives would be boring. We all get in trouble from time to time. And we all need to deal with it and learn from it.

2. Everything changes. Whatever your current situation, everything will change. There’s nothing you can do about it, you just have to accept that change is inevitable. When we are afraid of changes, try to avoid them, our thinking slows down, a sense of anxiety prevents us from responding adequately to what is happening around. If we accept that change is inevitable, we can respond to it as something exciting, and then the process of our thinking remains pure, clear and easy.

3. Stop trying to be perfect. It is much more conducive to relaxation and is beneficial to accept that we are all not deprived of certain weaknesses and shortcomings. Stop perceiving yourself as a flawed being. If you get rid of everything you see as bad, you lose your identity. Very good to improve themselves, but it is useless to try to be perfect.

4. Take the lead. It’s no one’s fault that you are who you are. If in a critical situation you will be passive and will only blame everyone and everything, then nothing will change. Take the initiative, take positive steps – and you will be able to change the situation for the better. Do not cling to the past – it cannot be changed; think about the future – it can be influenced.

5. Stop demanding. Let the circumstances guide you instead of trying to subdue them. Change what you can and don’t waste your energy on the rest.

6. Where you going? Think of life as a journey. Enjoy it. Look around. Try to analyze what life has given you. Savor every episode of it. And from time to time allow yourself to do nothing, just watch how things develop.

7. Pay attention to the work of your body. Our body is in need of care and support. Without good sleep, quality food, and regular exercise, it starts to fail early. Listen to its work and fix “problems” without waiting for the whole system to fail. Taking care of your body is not selfishness or a waste of time, but a vital necessity.

8. Don’t hit your head against the wall. If one or the other situation is you have severe depression and inability to change anything –maybe you should avoid her or otherwise to react to it. Instead of taking this situation as a source of frustration, take it as a challenge. You have no problem; you have experience through which you learn. You have no disappointments, you have unique opportunities to improve your skills and abilities. At times, we all feel frustrated when we can’t get what we want or make the situation the way we want it to be. Nevertheless, good mental relaxation can help us cope with disappointment by developing the right attitude to the situation – that is, to perceive it calmly as inevitable.

9. Learn to laugh more, laughter helps to recover faster, allows you to cope better with life dramas and generally improves health. Pay attention to how often you laugh-not just smile or smirk, and laugh heartily, literally to tears. Do this more often, there is no need to be too serious.

10. Express their feelings. Learn to talk more about how you feel. Be honest with other people when it comes to your feelings. Do not try to protect others from them. This applies to both positive and negative emotions. If you feel annoyed, talk about it. If you feel happy – do not hide. Be persistent when you don’t want to do something or when you feel that the situation is hurting you.

November 7, 2019 at 7:51 am

1. Know what you want. Look ahead and plan what you want to do. Set your life direction. Think about yourself, about what is good for you, and try to achieve it. However, do not want too much, be realistic and flexible, if necessary, make adjustments to their actions. Build both long-term and short-term plans.

2. Manage your relationships. If you don’t invest some of your time and effort in a relationship, it will fall apart and fall apart. You need to work in this direction. Take care of your relationships – not only with your loved one, but also with friends, colleagues, acquaintances, family members, relatives, neighbors. At the same time, do not demand too much attention from them to yourself. If the relationship is deadlocked-break them.

3. Use your time effectively. Leave time for leisure, family, love, entertainment, work, travel, study, to be alone. Set aside a place in your schedule for all of these areas of life, and leave a little time to plan for the future and to check how effectively you use your time.

4. Look for choice. There are always at least two ways to influence the situation. When there is a choice, there is a feeling of freedom. In any situation, consider the options. Nothing in life is unshakable – there is always an alternative. It may not be entirely pleasant, or even unacceptable, and we may reject it, but at least we will be aware that we have made the choice, and this gives us confidence.

5. Don’t be afraid of novelty. You change all the time. You get new interests, new friends. If the current situation does not satisfy you, move on. Always be ready to get to explore, new experiences, find yourself in new situations. Learn, try new things, improve your education, read more. Show flexibility of thinking. Don’t get stuck in your daily routine and habits. The more we experiment, strive for novelty, the more we grow intellectually.

6. Set intellectual and moral criteria for yourself. It is not contrary to the Council to have a flexible mindset, not a rigid one. We need such criteria. In the intellectual sphere, there should be a desire to deepen knowledge and acquire new ones, then you will always remain interesting people. Set high moral criteria for yourself, so that there are reasons to appreciate you as a person. In short, you should always focus on the best.

7. Develop comprehensively. We all need to be able to Express our emotions and have a lot of them; we also need to take care of our health, develop our mental activity. In addition, there must be a spiritual component in our life, which does not mean belonging to any religious denomination-it can be, for example, just enjoying the beauty of the world around us.

8. Be aware of your limits. Don’t take on too much. Be prepared for the fact that from time to time you may experience failure. Forgive yourself when things don’t work out. Laugh at yourself more often. Stop making excuses.

9. Look at yourself critically. Look at yourself in the mirror, think about what stage of life you are at. How old are you? What this means? How relaxed are you? How many positive emotions do you get? Are you overworked? What is your relationship with others? Do you like yourself? Are you satisfied with your sex life? Afraid of what?

10. Treat yourself well. Take time for yourself from time to time. Reward yourself, you deserve it. Pamper yourself, you’ve earned it. Give yourself pleasure, you need it. Don’t wait for others to praise you, praise yourself. Don’t wait for others to love you, love yourself. Don’t wait for others to take you somewhere fun, go and have fun yourself. Have more fun. The more relaxed we are, both mentally and physically, the better company we become for others, the better we can cope with life and the more we can help others. The better we treat ourselves, the more likely we are to want to treat others well. When we are relaxed and friendly, others will have more desire to be near us.