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    Abhishek Aiyar replied to the topic How does one overcome emotional detachment/numbness? in the forum Anything is easy if you get used to it 1 week, 1 day ago

    Looks like you dont care too much about other people. Do you care about yourself? That could be the root issue here. Have you got self confidence issues? Do you value yourself? Depending on the answers you should start from the inside to the outside. Fixing any internal issues on this personal relationship with yourself will help relating to…[Read more]

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    Abhishek Aiyar replied to the topic Stop drinking alcohol in the forum General discussion 1 week, 1 day ago

    I was a blackout drinker, Like you, I had no stopping mechanism I would just keep going until i practically became a different person, a person not many people liked, a person i didn’t much like, although I didn’t care so much because I didn’t remember what had happened, and alot of the times especially in the earlier days I used to think it was…[Read more]

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    Abhishek Aiyar replied to the topic How to use logical thinking to overcome emotions? in the forum Anything is easy if you get used to it 1 week, 1 day ago

    In the comment section you say you seem not to feel anything at all anymore. But you recall feeling anger/rage but no fear in the past.
    I suggest you reach out for counselling if you can afford it.
    A decrease in your feelings perception, or the inexistence of the capacity to feel love or joy or a minimum of compassion at all might be the sign of a…[Read more]

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    Abhishek Aiyar replied to the topic Peer pressure in the forum Marriage Life & Relationships 1 week, 1 day ago

    You can get over peer pressure….

    When you know the real reason behind them for pressurizing you at work place.Check whether it is due to your inconsistency in handling the task or is it forceful done to make you an odd one among them to meet their requirement.
    When you are better at standards of approaching the task than your peers and strive t…[Read more]

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    Abhishek Aiyar replied to the topic Be Happy in the forum Be Happy 1 week, 1 day ago

    I feel unqualified to answer this, but I’ve listened to what other people say and selected what I consider to be the best parts:
    Find people who are kind and genuinely care about you, whose company you enjoy. These are not very easy to find, so make sure you hang on to the ones you do meet. This should be the #1 priority in your life. Don’t put…[Read more]

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    Abhishek Aiyar replied to the topic Stress in the forum How to deal with stress? 1 week, 1 day ago

    1. Know what you want. Look ahead and plan what you want to do. Set your life direction. Think about yourself, about what is good for you, and try to achieve it. However, do not want too much, be realistic and flexible, if necessary, make adjustments to their actions. Build both long-term and short-term plans.

    2. Manage your relationships. If you…[Read more]

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    Abhishek Aiyar replied to the topic Relationship advice in the forum Marriage Life & Relationships 1 week, 1 day ago

    She deserves better, at least not me.

    It was 5:25pm, I was glued to the screen, completely engrossed in my work. My whatsapp notification popped up.

    “She deserves better, at least not me.”

    “Where are you?” I quickly replied.

    “Office”

    “Calling you,” I knew he will say no, still I tried.

    “I will call you after reaching home, just leaving offi…[Read more]

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    Abhishek Aiyar replied to the topic students in medical colleges so over-stressed over academics? in the forum How to deal with stress? 1 week, 1 day ago

    Because of 2 reasons, why marks become important!

    High rate of failure in exams. What if you have got 95% in 12th and in MBBS, you are failed in 1st year. You will be 6 months behind in your academic year – you will be in minor batch! We can’t take exams lightly!
    Being a topper in schools, students are habitual to be best. Like from childhood,…[Read more]

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    Abhishek Aiyar replied to the topic What are some ways to relieve mental stress? in the forum How to deal with stress? 1 week, 1 day ago

    I like to discuss what stress does. We all are stressed out at times. Some people are stressed all the time and this is called chronic stress.

    Acute stress

    Let’s say you were in a minor rear-ender accident. It is annoying, but at least you had no injury. But you have to deal with the insurance company, get the repair done and maybe get a car r…[Read more]

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    Abhishek Aiyar replied to the topic Positive in the forum Be Happy 1 month ago

    Stop watching all other news channels except DD News.
    Be selfish. Think about yourself and your loved ones only.
    Stop advertising your feelings and moods on social media.
    Watch a movie when you are in a bad mood to escape the world.
    Don’t overthink about your past and future. Both are uncontrollable and unchangeable.
    Stop worrying about…[Read more]

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    Abhishek Aiyar replied to the topic Do things differently in the forum General discussion 1 month, 2 weeks ago

    Here’s what would happen :

    New opportunities open up for you and you see things differently from others.
    People – your friend don’t understand you and call you weird just because you are different.
    You might feel disconnected from most people as you do not have herd mentality.
    Life will become much simpler as you would no longer feel the need to…[Read more]

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    Abhishek Aiyar replied to the topic yes in the forum Anger can be controlled 1 month, 2 weeks ago

    As per Psychologists in Bangalore, anger is an ordinary feeling of human brain research, however, it is similarly imperative to monitor your anger. Much the same as some other feeling, anger also fluctuates from individual to individual, and the conditions. Uncontrolled anger can prompt mental and physical pressure. It likewise causes weight on…[Read more]

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    Abhishek Aiyar replied to the topic Peer pressure in the forum Marriage Life & Relationships 1 month, 2 weeks ago

    We always choose the person we intend to love. But rarely does someone else chooses us.

    With this buddy let me tell you story of my dear friend.

    He was deeply madly, head over heels with his childhood friend and later his girlfriend.

    It was a match made in heaven. What else can we expect but happiness from the couple whom we had known through…[Read more]

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    Abhishek Aiyar replied to the topic Stress in the forum How to deal with stress? 1 month, 2 weeks ago

    There are many ways to think about stress and how to manage it. The “kitchen stove” analogy is one I often use to talk about stress management:

    All your life stressors are represented by dishes you’re in the process of preparing on a multi-burner stove. Your dishes are unique to you. Maybe you’re trying to finish a degree. Get a career going.…[Read more]

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    Abhishek Aiyar replied to the topic Happy Life in the forum Be Happy 1 month, 2 weeks ago

    Success is not the key to happiness. Happiness is the key to success.
    Herman Cain

    Happiness is something everyone wants to achieve. While on the surface people may seem to be looking for money, recognition, or other things, what they actually seek is happiness. Unfortunately, many people never reach the level of happiness they desire.
    While I…[Read more]

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    Abhishek Aiyar replied to the topic Stress management in the forum General discussion 1 month, 2 weeks ago

    That state of mind when you are not calm makes you slow at work.

    Stress management is following steps that can calm you down.

    There are several relaxation techniques used to help in case of: headache, anger management, anxiety attacks, high BP, pain management, etc.

    Steps:

    Spending time in nature
    Deep Breathing
    Yoga
    Reading novel
    Getting a…[Read more]

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    Abhishek Aiyar replied to the topic Overcome depression in the forum General discussion 1 month, 2 weeks ago

    The question and brief summary sounds like you need more “me time.” What do you actually do for yourself to have fun daily?

    In addition, it would be prudent to have lab work done on hormone levels and micro-nutrient levels at this point.

    I tweeted this quote today. It was the key to help me get out of my depression period – “The secret of c…[Read more]

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    Abhishek Aiyar replied to the topic How to use logical thinking to overcome emotions? in the forum Anything is easy if you get used to it 1 month, 2 weeks ago

    There is always emotion.

    This question is a desire. It reflects regret, self reflection, and a need to be better.

    And as logical and Vulcan we think our cool thinking selves to be, we’re always happy to be right, and offended when we’re wrong.

    Debates tend to be emotional. That’s because both sides are wanting to be right and not wanting to be…[Read more]

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    Abhishek Aiyar replied to the topic Be Happy in the forum Be Happy 1 month, 2 weeks ago

    Find something you love, and find people as interested in it as you are. Do what you are passionate of and love what you are doing.

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    Abhishek Aiyar replied to the topic What's the best way to react when someone is shouting at you in anger? in the forum Anger can be controlled 1 month, 4 weeks ago

    No one can come out with Best solution for it .

    But A Better Solution.

    When someone is shouting at you in anger , then follow these things,

    Don’t argue back .
    Don’t try to justify anything immediately even if the mistake is not from your side .
    Don’t smile or laugh just for the sake of controlling yourself .
    Don’t look at anywhere . Focus on…[Read more]

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