Peter Goodenough replied to the topic Be calm and do not react in the forum How to deal with stress? 1 week, 2 days ago
It all depends on how much I value their opinion. If they are wrong, then don’t worry too much about making them admit they are. If you examine your own motives and actions and find that the person was right, take steps to change. If you find they are wrong, then no big deal. We are all wrong sometimes. And if the person isn’t someone you can…[Read more]
Peter Goodenough replied to the topic Healthy relationships in the forum Marriage Life & Relationships 1 week, 2 days ago
The top 5 components of a healthy relationship for me include (from both sides):
1) Friendship : Sharing a ‘ friends’ like relationship with your partner. You don’t have to fake or act up before them. You can be bare naked with your thoughts with them without feeling guilty or fearful of their reactions.
2) Individuality: Respecting AND…[Read more]
Peter Goodenough replied to the topic Emotions in the forum General discussion 1 week, 2 days ago
When you are absorbed in something due to intense attraction, all the negative qualities of the mind naturally disappear without any effort. But the attraction must be deep. The mind should be completely absorbed through-and-through. In science, absorption is said to be a bulk phenomenon, which means that a solid soaks up a fluid throughout its…[Read more]
Peter Goodenough replied to the topic Problems in Married Life in the forum Marriage Life & Relationships 1 week, 2 days ago
You can resolve all your problems when you have mutual understanding between you and your husband…because ideas can solve the problems…so if you have anything share with ur husband….share each and everything with him….be frank and be honest it’s resolve all your problems…if you are loyal responsible honest and well trusted person then…[Read more]
Peter Goodenough replied to the topic Overcome depression in the forum General discussion 1 week, 2 days ago
Five years ago, I wanted to die.
I remember driving to work and considering putting my car over the bridge with me in it.
I was clinically depressed and felt like my life could never get better.
I had no hope.
Until I made 5 simple changes.
After implementing these 5 shifts into my life, I went from depressed, broke, and hopeless to living…[Read more]
My dad asked me “what type of person are you if you can’t even control you emotions?”
I thought (how will able to make him understand that my depression is not me and I can’t control it in hard times though I told it to be my friend ).
I asked my dad “if emotions are not meant to been shown then Are we alive?”
My dad replied
“If you impatient…[Read more]
Peter Goodenough replied to the topic Peer pressure in the forum Marriage Life & Relationships 1 week, 2 days ago
PEER PRESSURE? Is it a good thing or a bad thing?
Most of us probably grew up thinking peer pressure was bad. Peer pressure is only bad if your peers are doing bad things. Peer pressure is a great thing if your peers are killing it.
When your peers are killing it one of two things happen:
1. You don’t like it. It makes you feel inferior & y…[Read more]
Peter Goodenough replied to the topic Stop drinking alcohol in the forum General discussion 1 week, 2 days ago
I was a heavy drinker for over 30 years. The day my wife left me she said I was an alcoholic. Even though she left, I still quit.
I decided to quit “cold turkey.” I told a friend of my plan. He said I should start eating jelly beans. Every time I wanted a drink, eat jelly beans.
The first few days after I stopped drinking were hard. I gra…[Read more]
Peter Goodenough replied to the topic What are some ways to relieve mental stress? in the forum How to deal with stress? 1 month ago
Your question itself contains the answer. First, brush your study table clean. Take some time to think, see that as preparation, not a “waste” of time. Then make a list of the reasons you think are causing you those “stresses”. Put that list away for 24 hours and don’t think about it. These 24 hours, forget just everything about your studies a…[Read more]
Peter Goodenough replied to the topic Problems in Married Life in the forum Marriage Life & Relationships 1 month, 2 weeks ago
Any problem that has to be solved through collaboration, hard work, and by relying on one another is a good problem to have in married life.
Those are the kinds of problems that bring two people together when they succeed.
Peter Goodenough replied to the topic Emotions in the forum General discussion 1 month, 2 weeks ago
Feelings are senses detecting what you feel through your 11 inputs.
Sense of balance (vestibular)
Peter Goodenough replied to the topic Peer pressure in the forum Marriage Life & Relationships 1 month, 2 weeks ago
I don’t know any tricks or tips, what has worked for me is my decisivensss. I always hang out with my friends and colleagues. Most of them drink whereas I don’t.
They often offered me a drink saying “Try to karke dekh, ek glass mein kuch nahi hota” ( Just try it once, nothing happens when you drink one glass). I always reply no thank you. No mat…[Read more]
Peter Goodenough replied to the topic Happy Life in the forum Be Happy 1 month, 2 weeks ago
Becoming happier means: Starting small, Making progress, Being proactive
Plan a vacation to rejuvenate yourself.
Exercise and sleep: people who exercised felt better about their bodies, even when they saw no physical changes:
Stop comparing yourself to other people
Get in touch with your anchors.
Meditate – Rewire your brain for happiness.
Try to…[Read more]
Generally it depends on the type of problem which you are facing, secondly are you facing it alone or your spouse is also facing the same problem.
if its the problem any one of you is having, then the best i can suggest is get some courage and make your hands dirty and talk openly about it. Say exactly what is your problem and if other one is…[Read more]
Peter Goodenough started the topic students in medical colleges so over-stressed over academics? in the forum How to deal with stress? 2 months ago
Why are students in medical colleges so over-stressed over academics? Why can’t they take life easy and take enjoyment in studying, without being bothered about their marks or exam outcomes?
Peter Goodenough replied to the topic Positive in the forum Be Happy 2 months, 3 weeks ago
Meditation has helped me a lot is staying positive. Just an hour of mediation and my whole day is full of joy and positivity. Just watching the thoughts and letting then rise and fall helps greatly in understating that one is not one’s thoughts. With deeper understanding, one can detach oneself from negative thoughts completely and remain p…[Read more]
Peter Goodenough replied to the topic How does one overcome emotional detachment/numbness? in the forum Anything is easy if you get used to it 2 months, 4 weeks ago
Crying is a good way to release tension and pain. It is better than other ways to relive pain i.e. depression and anger. In that sense, how can it make one emotionally weak?
Peter Goodenough replied to the topic Motivate in the forum General discussion 3 months ago
One can be automatically motivated when one knows that the other person wants him to fall. But that is a negative seedling I guess. The motivation which stems out of this negativity cannot last long.
Peter Goodenough replied to the topic anger can be controlled in the forum Anger can be controlled 3 months ago
Yes, just like Saravanan, I also think that putting your mind to things that you really like, calms you down. Avoid taking on work that you hate to do. Immersing oneself in work that one really loves doing is mediation in itself. Buddhist philosophy is also based on the same thinking.
Peter Goodenough replied to the topic Be Happy in the forum Be Happy 4 months ago
<p class=”MsoNormal”><span lang=”EN-IN” style=”font-size: 16.0pt; line-height: 115%;”>Sharing, caring, giving – all acts are sure to being a kind of happiness that you might not have felt before. Helping others by overcoming greed and selfishness is such a wonderful act.</span></p>