Seema Malhotra replied to the topic Emotions in the forum General discussion 2 months, 1 week ago
Today I realized, I don’t love her and I never really have. I care about her safety and don’t want to hurt her, but I have no connection to her and I never have. Listen from someone who doesn’t feel, what ever you’re going through, it must suck, I could relate, but you don’t want this. I constantly wonder, whats wrong with me? Am I a sociopath? I…[Read more]
I’m not evil or something, I get angry when I hear about child abuse or murders, but I don’t feel sympathy. Just today my girlfriend was a mess in tears because her parents are divorcing. I comforted her and tired to make her feel better, but I didn’t feel any connection, in fact at times I just wished she’d stop because her sobbing was annoying.
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Seema Malhotra replied to the topic anger can be controlled in the forum Anger can be controlled 4 months, 1 week ago
Not by trying to repress it or control it .. .BUT by learning to open to the underlying pain and helplessness that is the TRUE trigger for our anger .. and then relaxing into that pain, feeling compassion for the presence of our pain, and accepting that sometimes we DO experience pain and there is nothing we can do about it. And the more we relax…[Read more]
Seema Malhotra replied to the topic Positive in the forum Be Happy 4 months, 1 week ago
The MIGHTIEST LAW of ALL
As the old professor scribbled the day’s lesson on the chalkboard, a brash student could be overheard mumbling: “Why can’t we just skip class and take exams online already?”
The old professor—ever up for a duel—abruptly threw down the gauntlet. “I’ll make a deal with you . . . you saucy rascals.”
He paced a bit with han…[Read more]
Seema Malhotra replied to the topic Stop drinking alcohol in the forum General discussion 4 months, 1 week ago
I started going to AA regularly and found a home group I really like. I got a sponsor and she helped me go through the “big book.” Reading the big book of Alcoholics Anonymous can be a bit confusing on one’s own so it’s nice to have someone who has been in the program a while and helps me understand it. I also got a copy of Living Sober which h…[Read more]
Seema Malhotra replied to the topic What is basic duty of wife in a happy marriage life? in the forum Marriage Life & Relationships 4 months, 1 week ago
It is the duty of a wife to try to make her husband happy.
It is the duty of a husband to try to make his wife happy.
If you are not trying to make your spouse happy, why are you married? If your spouse is not trying to make you happy, why are you married?
The best way to make your spouse happy is to continue to do the things that…[Read more]
Seema Malhotra replied to the topic Stress management in the forum General discussion 4 months, 1 week ago
Depressed mind loose ability to focus, concentrate, thinking, logical reasoning and can not deliver best results in the given situation.
It is also true that body, mind, thoughts jointly perform their best to enter in to state of satisfaction from the state of uncertainty.
In every activity, while thoughts are converted into things, the mind…[Read more]
Seema Malhotra replied to the topic students in medical colleges so over-stressed over academics? in the forum How to deal with stress? 5 months, 2 weeks ago
Once you crack NEET, Life’s all set : I am still searching for the person who quoted this statement. If you can get hold of the one, do let me know. To all the aspirants, LIFE IS ABSOLUTELY NOT SET, not that easily.
Diagnosing patients : People might have seen posters or images of Medicos holding an X-Ray plate and discussing with their…[Read more]
Seema Malhotra replied to the topic How to use logical thinking to overcome emotions? in the forum Anything is easy if you get used to it 5 months, 2 weeks ago
Any description, even that of emotion above, is logical. We are able to make sense, and sense is made logically.
And this logic exists before and after any emotion. Why did you feel a certain way? If you investigate you will find answers, and much more will make sense. What happened after you felt this way? More truth, more sense.
Seema Malhotra replied to the topic Peer pressure in the forum Marriage Life & Relationships 5 months, 2 weeks ago
Peer pressure is something everyone will succumb to to “fit in” with their peers. If you fit in with the people around you, you end up feeling part of a tribe of people who support each other-which is rarely the case.
Seema Malhotra replied to the topic Happy Life in the forum Be Happy 5 months, 2 weeks ago
1. Realize that people don’t think about you as much as you think they do. Don’t waste time thinking about what people may or may not be thinking.
2. Be who you are, no matter who you’re with. Always be true to yourself, even when it makes you uncomfortable.
3. People don’t know how to navigate life. Everyone makes it up as they go along.…[Read more]
Seema Malhotra replied to the topic Relationship advice in the forum Marriage Life & Relationships 6 months, 1 week ago
My husband is not fond of PDA and would rather show his affection for me in private.
One of the things he does that makes me weak in the knees is when his alarm rings in the morning, the first thing he does after pressing the snooze button, is roll over to face me, extend his arm signaling that I put my head on his arms and hug me tightly. He…[Read more]
Seema Malhotra replied to the topic Peer pressure in the forum Marriage Life & Relationships 6 months, 1 week ago
Never let the people around you ruin your peace of mind.Instead look at the bright side of peer pressure.
You should feel lucky to have such people around you because you get to learn many new things from them.
Try to befriend them and if you really find them admirable,inspire from them and try to improve yourself.
Never compare yourself with…[Read more]
Seema Malhotra replied to the topic Problems in Married Life in the forum Marriage Life & Relationships 6 months, 1 week ago
Marriage is basically a bond that two people share with each other, like other things marriage is also gone through from all ups and downs of life .
Its not easy to be with someone happily as maybe the behaviour , nature and priorities may be differ from each other .
Seema Malhotra replied to the topic Healthy relationships in the forum Marriage Life & Relationships 6 months, 1 week ago
There is a developmental concept in child psychology called object permanence. It’s the understanding that objects in the world continue to exist even if we cannot see or hear or touch or smell them.
All healthy humans develop this understanding within the first two years of their lives.
This is the entire concept behind the game of p…[Read more]
Seema Malhotra replied to the topic Stop drinking alcohol in the forum General discussion 6 months, 1 week ago
I’m of the mindset that there is more harm than good in drinking alcohol. I used to drink, it started turning into a problem, I quit drinking, and I don’t miss it.
There’s a lot of baggage associated with drinking, from addiction, health problems, and a tendency to make very bad decisions to major affects such as being a fueling factor to…[Read more]
Seema Malhotra replied to the topic Emotions in the forum General discussion 7 months, 3 weeks ago
Don’t get “too” attached to people.
Because when you get “too” attached, your mind is diverted to them and thus when they are in any negative situation, you get tensed, anxious, worried and what not.
Seema Malhotra replied to the topic Happy Life in the forum Be Happy 7 months, 3 weeks ago
Your life is your reality. You can live it the way you want it, but live it in a way that it will help you truly become a better person — becoming a better person is different for everyone.
Seema Malhotra replied to the topic Emotions in the forum General discussion 8 months ago
You already are! Come on, you are a girl, an engineer and that too mechanical. Believe me, you just need to be stronger to get past the frivolous circumstances.
Everyone under the Sun is having a different problem everyday, but this is what we call life. Just look around yourself, that ant falls down, gets up again, falls again and yet again it…[Read more]