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    Seetha Lakhmani replied to the topic What's the best way to react when someone is shouting at you in anger? in the forum Anger can be controlled 1 week, 2 days ago

    Oh, yes…

    I absolutely love when someone is shouting at me in anger!

    Why?

    Because they have lost control.

    And there are 2 things I know:

    I’m important enough to elicit a highly emotional response from this individual, and
    I have the option to stay in control should I choose to exercise it.
    Not that I’m a control freak. Or that I actually love…[Read more]

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    Seetha Lakhmani replied to the topic What is basic duty of wife in a happy marriage life? in the forum Marriage Life & Relationships 1 week, 2 days ago

    There is only one basic duty of any human being in any relationship… to be happy.

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    Seetha Lakhmani replied to the topic students in medical colleges so over-stressed over academics? in the forum How to deal with stress? 1 week, 2 days ago

    (US-centric answer)

    I can only offer my personal experience because the answer probably varies from school to school, since every school has a different culture and environment. I happen to go to a school that encourages its students to work together and learn from each other, rather than see other students as competition. Also keep in mind that…[Read more]

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    Seetha Lakhmani replied to the topic anger can be controlled in the forum Anger can be controlled 1 week, 2 days ago

    I have been through the same position as you are having right now. My friend, my experience has taught me that how terrible foe is anger for a person. I appreciate that you are seeking answers for it. Now let me tell you few methods which helped me:

    Meditation. It really helps. If you do it properly, it gets you rid of sorrows you had. For…[Read more]

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    Seetha Lakhmani replied to the topic Anger in the forum Anger can be controlled 1 week, 2 days ago

    Today I almost had to burst out in anger and kick a guy’s a**.

    But fortunately I did something else which made my day feel special.

    I was taking a power nap in the 15 mins break at my university. Some fellow members were having fun pouring water on eachother. Some water droplets fell on me first time, every guys attention turned on me cuz I used…[Read more]

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    Seetha Lakhmani replied to the topic Relationship advice in the forum Marriage Life & Relationships 1 week, 2 days ago

    I have a guy friend who did all kinds of crazy things for his girlfriend.

    From cutting his hand to buying everything she wanted, he did it all.

    He never wanted to lose her. Despite all that, she cheated on him.

    I have a girl friend who did all kinds of crazy things for her boyfriend.

    From taking his abuse to suffering from his insensitive…[Read more]

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    Seetha Lakhmani replied to the topic Stress in the forum How to deal with stress? 1 week, 2 days ago

    1. Don’t take it personally. Life is a mixture of good and bad. If something bad happens to you-past, present, or future – take it as part of your life.

    This is not the result of malice directed against you, nor is God’s punishment sent down upon you – simply life is multicolored and diverse. If only good things happened to us, we wouldn’t lea…[Read more]

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    Seetha Lakhmani replied to the topic Be Happy in the forum Be Happy 1 week, 2 days ago

    I used to think that since happiness is a state of mind, one should always be happy regardless of external circumstances. And it used to bother me a lot because I am definitely not always happy. That used to make me wonder if something is wrong with me, making me further unhappy. Talk about irony!

    It very recently dawned on me that it is not just…[Read more]

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    Seetha Lakhmani replied to the topic anger can be controlled in the forum Anger can be controlled 1 month, 2 weeks ago

    acknowledgment of why you are angry is more important than using anger. Being aware of the reasoning for the anger is in a way using that anger. Going through the emotional breakdown internally through quiet meditation or alone time away from everyone that you can potentially harm by saying or expressing yourself.

    It is perfectly normal for us to…[Read more]

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    Seetha Lakhmani replied to the topic Peer pressure in the forum Marriage Life & Relationships 1 month, 2 weeks ago

    Peer pressure is not always bad.

    If you are fortunate to get a good peer group, your peers can play a vital role in the shaping of your personality. You can get motivated by those who have similar aspirations and goals as you ! Their way of looking at life may influence you to change for betterment. Some of your peers are your close friends, who…[Read more]

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    Seetha Lakhmani replied to the topic Stress management in the forum General discussion 1 month, 2 weeks ago

    I wouldn’t give it much importance. More important is that you understand you create stress from within yourself. It is not coming from outside yourself, or determined by anything external to you. Therefore, you don’t need to manage it, thinking that you are separate from it. Better is to reach the awareness where you know you are totally free of…[Read more]

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    Seetha Lakhmani replied to the topic Problems in Married Life in the forum Marriage Life & Relationships 1 month, 2 weeks ago

    See problem are simmillier like your attitude. One can see a problem another can see an opportunity. This is totally depends on your or attitude.

    Change your attitude/ perspective to each other all your problems get solved.

    Try to trust each other. Don’t try to emphasis your dission on each other. Sit and lesson each other.

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    Seetha Lakhmani replied to the topic Stop drinking alcohol in the forum General discussion 1 month, 2 weeks ago

    I’m of the mindset that there is more harm than good in drinking alcohol. I used to drink, it started turning into a problem, I quit drinking, and I don’t miss it.
    There’s a lot of baggage associated with drinking, from addiction, health problems, and a tendency to make very bad decisions to major affects such as being a fueling factor to…[Read more]

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    Seetha Lakhmani replied to the topic How to use logical thinking to overcome emotions? in the forum Anything is easy if you get used to it 1 month, 2 weeks ago

    Cognitive dissonance is the internal strife each person has between two opposing notions. The theory says that nobody likes it and that people do all they can to attain a state of internal congruence.

    Cognitive dissonance is extremely common and we are engaging in a lot of the methods without realizing it.

    Well, ever failed a test and decided…[Read more]

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    Seetha Lakhmani replied to the topic Overcome depression in the forum General discussion 1 month, 2 weeks ago

    I have been helping clients/patients out of depression for over 4 decades. I spent 3 years in deep, clinical depression myself. Over the years and from my experiences I have developed a successful therapeutic strategy for helping clients overcome depression. I posted the entire strategy at my blog noted in my credential. It is called, Freedom from…[Read more]

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    Seetha Lakhmani replied to the topic Happy Life in the forum Be Happy 1 month, 2 weeks ago

    1. Don’t overthink, overthinking leads to negative thoughts.

    And also, don’t think too much about “what people will say”. They are cowards. Don’t worry about them. Keep walking on your path (whichever you have choosed).

    2. Your heart knows the way. Run in that direction. Heart gives you intutions and intutions are the gips of soul.

    3. Go easy…[Read more]

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    Seetha Lakhmani replied to the topic Stress in the forum How to deal with stress? 1 month, 2 weeks ago

    Stress is a hidden enemy with a constant capacity to wrack havoc on your body and mind. Its actions are insidious, slow but powerful. The consequences can be debilitating on your physical and mental wellbeing. This is even more relevant today, in our extremely complex civilized society where stress triggers are automated by our rushed living.

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    Seetha Lakhmani replied to the topic Emotions in the forum General discussion 1 month, 2 weeks ago

    You really don’t want this. If others can’t convince you maybe I can. Growing up I was a very sensitive kid and cried at the smallest thing, maybe just someone looking at me funny, this went on for a and only one girl ever talked to me or was nice to me. Long story short, I moved away, got my heart broken and felt like shit. I didn’t have any…[Read more]

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    Seetha Lakhmani replied to the topic Positive in the forum Be Happy 2 months, 3 weeks ago

    The benefits of positivity cannot be underestimated. But it is very difficult to stay positive in every situation. Negativity can seep in fraction of seconds and take forever to go. I think we can train our mind to think positive. It is an attitude than we can develop and strengthen over time.

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    Seetha Lakhmani started the topic Positive in the forum Be Happy 2 months, 3 weeks ago

    How to keep our aura always positive

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