Shabaz Azmi replied to the topic What are some ways to relieve mental stress? in the forum How to deal with stress? 1 week, 1 day ago
What Causes Stress In Life?
> Fear of Failure?
> Unmet expectations?
> Fear of not doing a good job and therefore the fear of judgment?
> Fear that you will not be able to handle the situation?
Have you ever considered the possibility that you are complete apart from any event or a person in your life? How would that affect your daily stress…[Read more]
Shabaz Azmi replied to the topic Happy Life in the forum Be Happy 1 week, 1 day ago
1. Realize that people don’t think about you as much as you think they do. Don’t waste time thinking about what people may or may not be thinking.
2. Be who you are, no matter who you’re with. Always be true to yourself, even when it makes you uncomfortable.
3. People don’t know how to navigate life. Everyone makes it up as they go along.…[Read more]
Why is stress even in your life to begin with? What is there to be stressed about?
Inevitable, you will die, most likely painful.
Inevitable to avoid, play along or else you’ll get slapped.
Loss of a spouse? Friend, or relationship?
Life is like a rollercoaster. Good times never last, neither do bad times. Good always follows after…[Read more]
Shabaz Azmi replied to the topic Healthy relationships in the forum Marriage Life & Relationships 1 week, 1 day ago
Here are the David Grason rules for successful relationships.
Place the needs of your partner ahead of your own. If he/she does the same for you, you both are golden.
Establish a strong trust and NEVER BETRAY IT! This includes cheating.
Never bring pornography into your relationship unless your partner is in to the same stuff. Pornography, IMHO,…[Read more]
Shabaz Azmi replied to the topic Positive in the forum Be Happy 1 week, 1 day ago
How much time it takes to know the meaning of life? How much you need assistance in everything you do? Don’t you feel bad ?
All those motivational videos you have seen on net, all those famous people you have heard and read about, what happened to that? Where is that spark in you?
Where is that moment that gave you the urge to change?Didn’t you…[Read more]
Shabaz Azmi replied to the topic anger can be controlled in the forum Anger can be controlled 1 week, 1 day ago
Please ask yourself the following questions & answer frankly
Do You Have a fierce temper
Are there people who can make you angry without doing anything
Are there people who can push your triggers to make you lose your cool
Have you lost anger in a big way & in that angry state took actions that you regret
Do you think anger is bad
Do you think…[Read more]
Shabaz Azmi replied to the topic Anger in the forum Anger can be controlled 1 week, 1 day ago
There are many ways to deal with anger. Most of them don’t actually deal with the anger, but end up trying to turn it into a game of hide and seek. They cover it up with something that takes away that anger feeling and changes it to something that feels good, or fun, or happy, or something else. Just anything, but being mad. Nothing suckier than b…[Read more]
Shabaz Azmi replied to the topic Motivate in the forum General discussion 1 week, 1 day ago
I really don’t know why I am writing my story here :P. But somehow, I felt like writing.
One fine day, life slaps you so hard that u realize u need to be more serious. That day, motivation floods you and you will just feel like a rocket i.e. fire in your ass!!!
I am a small town guy coming from a lower middle class background. Both my mother and…[Read more]
Shabaz Azmi replied to the topic Stress management in the forum General discussion 1 month, 2 weeks ago
Over the years, I’ve read too many books to count about stress, anxiety and depression. Like most people, I’m always looking for tips and clues about how to handle things better.
Some of these books have turned out to be real stinkers. Others, retreads of books and articles that have said the same things over and over again.
I have found som…[Read more]
Shabaz Azmi replied to the topic Positive in the forum Be Happy 1 month, 2 weeks ago
I’m sitting in the train and I hear someone crying, screaming, and howling in the next compartment.
There was a crowd that’d gathered around whoever was crying.
Intrigued, I rushed there.
I see a girl, about my age, on the phone, crying her lungs out.
On asking around I found out that she’d just lost her father thirty minutes ago, and she’d…[Read more]
Shabaz Azmi replied to the topic Happy Life in the forum Be Happy 1 month, 2 weeks ago
Do not have EXPECTATIONS – Its very difficult! But thats the “Key”.
If something happens as per your wish that’s a BONUS! If it doesn’t… Well! God has planned something better than what i wished for.
Keep things SIMPLE! Do not complicate them especially your relationships
Work hard, spend time with yourself so that you under…[Read more]
Shabaz Azmi replied to the topic Overcome depression in the forum General discussion 1 month, 2 weeks ago
Certainly YES. Many years ago I plummetted into a horribly deep Depression that I couldn’t see a way out of. Later I realised just how much of it was directly attributed to the fact of fundamental spiritual incompatibilties between myself and the person I loved and was by then living with, the truth of which was only fully revealed when we p…[Read more]
Shabaz Azmi replied to the topic How to use logical thinking to overcome emotions? in the forum Anything is easy if you get used to it 1 month, 2 weeks ago
Learn to say “NO”.
Surround yourself with the right people whom you consider as logical. As you will able to learn many things from them. Make you learn only good habits of those people.
Be brave enough to stand alone when everyone is going with the crowd. Its good to stand alone.
Be smart enough to differentiate between what is right and wha…[Read more]
Shabaz Azmi replied to the topic Emotions in the forum General discussion 1 month, 2 weeks ago
I created a diversion “We will now watch a film.” The DVD player jammed. One guy began to yell personal insults (no kidding!). I saw a mix of mob excitement and pity wash across the crowd. To my horror, I got tears in my eyes. I announced “TEN MINUTE BREAK!”
While I was fixing the player, several clients came up but I did the “talk to the hand”…[Read more]
Shabaz Azmi replied to the topic Stop drinking alcohol in the forum General discussion 1 month, 2 weeks ago
We also were going out with a group of friends on New Year’s Eve to see a local band play. All the members of the band were our friends as well. I wanted to ensure myself that I could refrain from drinking any alcohol when this holiday rolls around. For the record; I only had one sip of champagne to toast the new year.
In answer to the question;…[Read more]
Shabaz Azmi replied to the topic Problems in Married Life in the forum Marriage Life & Relationships 1 month, 2 weeks ago
I really liked the genuineness of this question. I would say start by ensuring problems donot occur. Being genuine and honest ensures that the problems don’t come up in the first place.
However having said that I know it is not practically possible and however much you try what has to happen will eventually happen. And when you’re faced with such…[Read more]
Maintain a stress journal
Maintaining a stress journal will help you a lot to deal with frequent stressors in your life. In this journal, you can keep a log of events, when you feel stressed. Soon, you’ll come out with a definite pattern in which stressors affect you.
So, you’ll easily be able to identify:
The factors that cause you str…[Read more]
Shabaz Azmi replied to the topic Peer pressure in the forum Marriage Life & Relationships 1 month, 2 weeks ago
Schools and colleges are the hubs of peer pressure . Have you heard this very often? Are relatives, parents, siblings and everyone constantly reminding you of how fast this can drive you off of your path and hence, it is the one thing you need to avoid? Well, it’s not just that. Let’s start from the beginning.
If it has to be def…[Read more]
Shabaz Azmi replied to the topic Stress in the forum How to deal with stress? 1 month, 2 weeks ago
Delete some people from your life.
Don’t force yourself to fit into someone’s box.
Don’t procrastinate and keep things for last moment.
Don’t make unnecessary commitments just to be nice.
Don’t try to fix people who don’t find issues with themselves.
Learn to say no.
Avoid overdoing things and unhealthy competitions.
Don’t trade your authenticity…[Read more]
My husband was 11 years older than me.
He was more settled, had a steady job for nearly ten years.
He was not jealous.
When we got pregnant he was ready.
Financially he was secure and had savings
He understood when I was going through phases, like wanting to go out dancing and having a drink or two, although he didn’t dance, we w…[Read more]