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    Suman Poonawala replied to the topic Relationship advice in the forum Marriage Life & Relationships 2 weeks, 1 day ago

    There are no secrets in a healthy relationship. If you’re really in this together and you respect one another, everything should be fair game. Does someone have a crush on you? Discuss it. Laugh about it. Had a weird sexual fantasy that sounds ridiculous? Be open about it. Nothing should be off-limits.
    Be open. Talk openly about everything, e…[Read more]

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    Suman Poonawala replied to the topic Problems in Married Life in the forum Marriage Life & Relationships 1 month ago

    I really liked the genuineness of this question. I would say start by ensuring problems donot occur. Being genuine and honest ensures that the problems don’t come up in the first place.

    However having said that I know it is not practically possible and however much you try what has to happen will eventually happen. And when you’re faced with such…[Read more]

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    Suman Poonawala replied to the topic Overcome depression in the forum General discussion 1 month ago

    It is undeniable fact that one has to face depression or underwhelming circumstances in life but remember!! such situations are not the end of the world but are intended to give an even better opportunity.

    Depression can be combat in a variety of ways, first and foremost is challenging negativity. Stop even thinking about if I had done that this…[Read more]

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    Suman Poonawala replied to the topic Problems in Married Life in the forum Marriage Life & Relationships 1 month ago

    See problem are simmillier like your attitude. One can see a problem another can see an opportunity. This is totally depends on your or attitude.

    Change your attitude/ perspective to each other all your problems get solved.

    Try to trust each other. Don’t try to emphasis your dission on each other. Sit and lesson each other.

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    Suman Poonawala replied to the topic How to use logical thinking to overcome emotions? in the forum Anything is easy if you get used to it 1 month ago

    Massively late to this A2A but did not want to let it pass …
    Have you considered the possibility that you are keeping yourself from experiencing painful emotions – I couldn’t help but notice you only mention this type of emotions – as an unconscious ‘withdrawal mechanism’? You might have done it early on as a reaction to a particularly painful…[Read more]

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    Suman Poonawala replied to the topic Motivate in the forum General discussion 1 month ago

    Some people are just born to work hard. If you were not and need external motivation, you are at a distinct disadvantage. Because hard work is one of the most predictive traits of success.

    It is very possible to succeed without working hard. And it is very possible not to succeed even though you do work hard. But working hard massively improves…[Read more]

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    Suman Poonawala replied to the topic Anger in the forum Anger can be controlled 1 month ago

    Forgive. Forgiveness cures anger. If you are angry – forgive.

    Outlets for anger are a band-aid approach. Outlets like venting, yelling, exercise, punching bags are not a cure. That is anger management. Outlets are temporary patches that may or may not lead to forgiveness which cures our anger. An outlet can easily lead to just more anger (not a…[Read more]

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    Suman Poonawala replied to the topic anger can be controlled in the forum Anger can be controlled 1 month ago

    Adopting below methods will definitely work for you. Read attentively and act accordingly.

    Take long breathe, slowly. Repeat at least 5-6 times. Then think, is it really worthy to be so much angry, being irritating, shouting or frowning. If not then please be poised and mull over the issue. Sometimes a normal discussion / actions can solve most…[Read more]

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    Suman Poonawala replied to the topic Healthy relationships in the forum Marriage Life & Relationships 2 months, 1 week ago

    Loving relationships take effort. The experts suggested these tips for making love last.

    Manage conflict. In her clinical work and research on happy couples, Dubinsky has found that all couples have conflict. But it’s how they deal with conflict that counts. When a compromise doesn’t seem possible, the key is to manage conflict and fight fai…[Read more]

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    Suman Poonawala replied to the topic Peer pressure in the forum Marriage Life & Relationships 2 months, 1 week ago

    Peer pressure is the direct influence on people by peers, or the effect on an individual who gets encouraged to follow their peers by changing their attitudes, values or behaviors to conform to those of the influencing group or individual. Peer pressure can affect individuals of all ethnicities, genders and ages, however. Peer pressure has moved…[Read more]

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    Suman Poonawala replied to the topic Stress management in the forum General discussion 2 months, 1 week ago

    There are stressors everywhere in our life. As we lead a fast paced life, we hardly get anytime for breaks. We drive our satisfaction from continuously being busy handling our day-to-day chores. When we are always on the go, the amount of stress also goes up! One way to handle a stressful job at work is to stop confusion. When we are faced with a…[Read more]

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    Suman Poonawala replied to the topic Problems in Married Life in the forum Marriage Life & Relationships 2 months, 1 week ago

    You can resolve all your problems when you have mutual understanding between you and your husband…because ideas can solve the problems…so if you have anything share with ur husband….share each and everything with him….be frank and be honest it’s resolve all your problems…if you are loyal responsible honest and well trusted person then…[Read more]

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    Suman Poonawala replied to the topic Stop drinking alcohol in the forum General discussion 2 months, 1 week ago

    What things changed in your life after you quit drinking?

    A lot changed in my life when I stopped drinking. I will add that they were for the better.

    I drank my very last drink on July 4, 1999. What I was drinking was a Bud Light 12 oz can of beer. It was 10:30 at night and I said to myself “I can’t do this anymore. I’m tired of the 2-3 day h…[Read more]

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    Suman Poonawala replied to the topic Emotions in the forum General discussion 2 months, 1 week ago

    It’s extremely hard to control emotions once they get going, so the best bet is to create conditions where they are less likely to inappropriately arise.

    The best way I know how to do this is to rehearse and be prepared. For example, I lecture several times a week to (frequently) resentful groups of people who have been forced by the court to…[Read more]

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    Suman Poonawala replied to the topic How to use logical thinking to overcome emotions? in the forum Anything is easy if you get used to it 2 months, 1 week ago

    There is always emotion.

    This question is a desire. It reflects regret, self reflection, and a need to be better.

    And as logical and Vulcan we think our cool thinking selves to be, we’re always happy to be right, and offended when we’re wrong.

    Debates tend to be emotional. That’s because both sides are wanting to be right and not wanting to be…[Read more]

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    Suman Poonawala replied to the topic Happy Life in the forum Be Happy 2 months, 1 week ago

    Have low expectations but high standards.

    I had two dates tonight.

    They both flaked.

    I always expect things not to work out.

    For people to die.

    For the world to end.

    For Trump to be President.

    I always accept the absolute worse case.

    I expect very little from life.

    Life is capricious, so I treat her as such.

    I am not capricious.

    I am in…[Read more]

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    Suman Poonawala replied to the topic Stress in the forum How to deal with stress? 2 months, 1 week ago

    For me, the best remedy against stress is exercise. Go running, go to the gym, bike, go swimming, or play your favorite sports with a friend. Whenever possible, exercise outdoors. Exercise produces endorphins that make you feel good and mellow. In addition, it’s healthy.

    I would write more, but I have to hit the gym right now. It’ll refresh my…[Read more]

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    Suman Poonawala replied to the topic Overcome depression in the forum General discussion 2 months, 1 week ago

    By acknowledging that times are tough ! By Being resilient and having the belief that life always changes . This is not gonna last .

    By Being kind , self -compassionate , being your best friend

    And then you gotto know what caused you problems . Being self aware of yourself thought patterns can go a long way . IT can be done by…[Read more]

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    Suman Poonawala replied to the topic What's the best way to react when someone is shouting at you in anger? in the forum Anger can be controlled 2 months, 3 weeks ago

    I don’t like being yelled at. It is a diminishing thing to do to someone and it does not yield the results the shouter wants, at least not in the long term.

    Yelling at anyone in an office environment is not acceptable. If you are the boss it’s an abuse of power.

    I can’t think of a single reason why whatever mistake I made cannot be laid out in a…[Read more]

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    Suman Poonawala replied to the topic What is basic duty of wife in a happy marriage life? in the forum Marriage Life & Relationships 2 months, 3 weeks ago

    Here are few –

    Cooking food for her husband

    Washing his clothes

    Doing other household chores

    And after all this…

    serving him in the bed at night.

    Seriously Isn’t this something every one expects from a woman when she becomes a wife?? As if you’ve hired an all time maid, who’s in your service 24*7!

    You’ve asked *Duty* I just can’t b…[Read more]

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