Suman Poonawala replied to the topic Healthy relationships in the forum Marriage Life & Relationships 2 weeks, 6 days ago
Loving relationships take effort. The experts suggested these tips for making love last.
Manage conflict. In her clinical work and research on happy couples, Dubinsky has found that all couples have conflict. But it’s how they deal with conflict that counts. When a compromise doesn’t seem possible, the key is to manage conflict and fight fai…[Read more]
Suman Poonawala replied to the topic Peer pressure in the forum Marriage Life & Relationships 3 weeks, 2 days ago
Peer pressure is the direct influence on people by peers, or the effect on an individual who gets encouraged to follow their peers by changing their attitudes, values or behaviors to conform to those of the influencing group or individual. Peer pressure can affect individuals of all ethnicities, genders and ages, however. Peer pressure has moved…[Read more]
Suman Poonawala replied to the topic Stress management in the forum General discussion 3 weeks, 2 days ago
There are stressors everywhere in our life. As we lead a fast paced life, we hardly get anytime for breaks. We drive our satisfaction from continuously being busy handling our day-to-day chores. When we are always on the go, the amount of stress also goes up! One way to handle a stressful job at work is to stop confusion. When we are faced with a…[Read more]
Suman Poonawala replied to the topic Problems in Married Life in the forum Marriage Life & Relationships 3 weeks, 2 days ago
You can resolve all your problems when you have mutual understanding between you and your husband…because ideas can solve the problems…so if you have anything share with ur husband….share each and everything with him….be frank and be honest it’s resolve all your problems…if you are loyal responsible honest and well trusted person then…[Read more]
Suman Poonawala replied to the topic Stop drinking alcohol in the forum General discussion 3 weeks, 2 days ago
What things changed in your life after you quit drinking?
A lot changed in my life when I stopped drinking. I will add that they were for the better.
I drank my very last drink on July 4, 1999. What I was drinking was a Bud Light 12 oz can of beer. It was 10:30 at night and I said to myself “I can’t do this anymore. I’m tired of the 2-3 day h…[Read more]
Suman Poonawala replied to the topic Emotions in the forum General discussion 3 weeks, 2 days ago
It’s extremely hard to control emotions once they get going, so the best bet is to create conditions where they are less likely to inappropriately arise.
The best way I know how to do this is to rehearse and be prepared. For example, I lecture several times a week to (frequently) resentful groups of people who have been forced by the court to…[Read more]
Suman Poonawala replied to the topic How to use logical thinking to overcome emotions? in the forum Anything is easy if you get used to it 3 weeks, 2 days ago
There is always emotion.
This question is a desire. It reflects regret, self reflection, and a need to be better.
And as logical and Vulcan we think our cool thinking selves to be, we’re always happy to be right, and offended when we’re wrong.
Debates tend to be emotional. That’s because both sides are wanting to be right and not wanting to be…[Read more]
Suman Poonawala replied to the topic Happy Life in the forum Be Happy 3 weeks, 2 days ago
Have low expectations but high standards.
I had two dates tonight.
They both flaked.
I always expect things not to work out.
For people to die.
For the world to end.
For Trump to be President.
I always accept the absolute worse case.
I expect very little from life.
Life is capricious, so I treat her as such.
I am not capricious.
I am in…[Read more]
Suman Poonawala replied to the topic Stress in the forum How to deal with stress? 3 weeks, 2 days ago
For me, the best remedy against stress is exercise. Go running, go to the gym, bike, go swimming, or play your favorite sports with a friend. Whenever possible, exercise outdoors. Exercise produces endorphins that make you feel good and mellow. In addition, it’s healthy.
I would write more, but I have to hit the gym right now. It’ll refresh my…[Read more]
Suman Poonawala replied to the topic Overcome depression in the forum General discussion 3 weeks, 3 days ago
By acknowledging that times are tough ! By Being resilient and having the belief that life always changes . This is not gonna last .
By Being kind , self -compassionate , being your best friend
And then you gotto know what caused you problems . Being self aware of yourself thought patterns can go a long way . IT can be done by…[Read more]
Suman Poonawala replied to the topic What's the best way to react when someone is shouting at you in anger? in the forum Anger can be controlled 1 month ago
I don’t like being yelled at. It is a diminishing thing to do to someone and it does not yield the results the shouter wants, at least not in the long term.
Yelling at anyone in an office environment is not acceptable. If you are the boss it’s an abuse of power.
I can’t think of a single reason why whatever mistake I made cannot be laid out in a…[Read more]
Suman Poonawala replied to the topic What is basic duty of wife in a happy marriage life? in the forum Marriage Life & Relationships 1 month ago
Here are few –
Cooking food for her husband
Washing his clothes
Doing other household chores
And after all this…
serving him in the bed at night.
Seriously Isn’t this something every one expects from a woman when she becomes a wife?? As if you’ve hired an all time maid, who’s in your service 24*7!
You’ve asked *Duty* I just can’t b…[Read more]
Suman Poonawala replied to the topic Positive in the forum Be Happy 2 months ago
Being spiritual and practising mediation can calm our senses and pave way for positivity. It will be eternal then.
Suman Poonawala replied to the topic Motivate in the forum General discussion 2 months ago
It is ok to use hatred as a motivational factor. It has great energy too. But in fit of vengeance and counter hatred, one can be prone to making careless mistakes left and right. One should make sure that the adrenalin rush does not let you makes silly and avoidable mistakes.
Suman Poonawala replied to the topic Healthy relationships in the forum Marriage Life & Relationships 2 months ago
Clinging to emotions and feelings is a sure way to agitates and perturbed mind. Detach yourself from negativity and inhale positivity for a calm mind.
Suman Poonawala replied to the topic Anger in the forum Anger can be controlled 3 months ago
There once lived a boy who had a bad temper. He would get angry at every little thing. One day, his father gave him a bag of nails and told him, “Every time you get angry, hammer a nail into that front wall.”
And so the activity started. On the first day, the boy hammered 50 nails. The next day, he hammered 40. Each time he used to go there, he…[Read more]
Suman Poonawala replied to the topic Be Happy in the forum Be Happy 3 months ago
From my personal experience, I can say that positivity surely helps in staying happy. Just find good in everything and every situation and you will be happy.
Suman Poonawala replied to the topic How does one overcome emotional detachment/numbness? in the forum Anything is easy if you get used to it 11 months, 4 weeks ago
Then why do you care enough to ask the question? You obviously have solid boundaries and don’t feel a need to bond with others. I’d look into this with a good psychologist because in my opinion, you are missing out on a lot of the reciprocity and fulfillment of relationships. Which I believe is preferable to being so detached. It’s up to you how m…[Read more]
Suman Poonawala commented on the post, Why worry? 12 months ago
Nice Article… Thanks for sharing
Suman Poonawala replied to the topic Do things differently in the forum General discussion 12 months ago
Consistency alone does not work. Have a different idea and different thinking, that is what is more important