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    Suman Poonawala replied to the topic Emotions in the forum General discussion 1 month, 1 week ago

    He made me feel horrible whenever I messed up. Even as a child, I often wondered why he’d decided to have kids in the first place. He seemed upset with us far more often than pleased or loving. Aside from instilling in me a near crippling fear of failure, he also unintentionally taught me how to distance myself from my feelings.
    I still remember…[Read more]

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    Suman Poonawala replied to the topic Emotions in the forum General discussion 3 months, 2 weeks ago

    The two dimensions of emotions generate four categories of emotions:

    (1)excitement-pleasant,
    (2) excitement-unpleasant,
    (3) calm-pleasant, and
    (4) calm-unpleasant.

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    Suman Poonawala replied to the topic Motivate in the forum General discussion 3 months, 2 weeks ago

    Things I learnt from my life:
    1. There are people behind you who expect something from you and believe that you can do it.
    2. The society may flatter you when you are successful but will laugh behind your back when you are down.
    3. Don’t let emotions overcome your goal. Trust me I had a very bad break-up a week before entering IIM A.
    4. Take…[Read more]

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    Suman Poonawala replied to the topic Be Happy in the forum Be Happy 3 months, 2 weeks ago

    But when the whole house sort of came together and started to feel like home, it felt surreal. Mine is a very basic and small house . But it is not about how many fancy things you buy, it is the effort that goes into making it your place. Adding even a smallest of things to home like just a poster on the front door made me really happy.
    It’s b…[Read more]

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    Suman Poonawala replied to the topic Stress in the forum How to deal with stress? 3 months, 2 weeks ago

    • Be willing to compromise. When you ask someone to change their behavior, be willing to do the same. If you both are willing to bend at least a little, you’ll have a good chance of finding a happy life.
    • Express your feelings instead of bottling them up. If you don’t voice your feelings, resentment will build and the stress will increas…[Read more]

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    Suman Poonawala replied to the topic anger can be controlled in the forum Anger can be controlled 3 months, 2 weeks ago

    We have time for all those thoughts in that split second because I mind goes quantum in that moment of high intensity emotional reaction. However, there is a Higher part of our mind that can choose not to respond in the old way.
    All the best finding some support and training. If you can’t find it around you, there must be something online that y…[Read more]

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    Suman Poonawala replied to the topic How does one overcome emotional detachment/numbness? in the forum Anything is easy if you get used to it 4 months, 2 weeks ago

    Hearing what you’re saying it sounds like you’re probably very analytical by nature, and there might or might not be an emotional barrier inside you that is influencing the way you express your emotions.
    There is a difference between having a low intensity of emotions and lack of emotions. Low intensity just means that you feel emotions, but just…[Read more]

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    Suman Poonawala replied to the topic What's the best way to react when someone is shouting at you in anger? in the forum Anger can be controlled 4 months, 2 weeks ago

    All the time.
    When I’m teaching, students and parents sometimes accuse me of “showing favoritism” or “picking on their child” or something like that. I don’t consciously treat anyone differently. However, I will admit that I tend to tell the boys in class to stop talking more often than I tell the girls to stop talking. Why? Because I can’t hear…[Read more]

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    Suman Poonawala replied to the topic What are some ways to relieve mental stress? in the forum How to deal with stress? 4 months, 2 weeks ago

    I was interviewing Yuval Harari, maybe the smartest man I’ve ever spoken to. He’s written Bill Gates’ favorite book, “Sapiens” and other great books.
    I am a huge fan of his work. This is not a humble brag. I’m really grateful after years of work I get to interview people like this.
    I would give up any material possessions, investments, etc to be a…[Read more]

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    Suman Poonawala replied to the topic Problems in Married Life in the forum Marriage Life & Relationships 4 months, 2 weeks ago

    If you’re not so concerned and willing to talk to your ex-boyfriend – why break up with him in the first place and marry someone else? And now when you’re facing problems – suddenly you’re reminded of him?

    Don’t do this. You promised you won’t disturb his married life – keep that promise and learn to “face” your problems now! I’m sure you must…[Read more]

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    Suman Poonawala replied to the topic Happy Life in the forum Be Happy 5 months, 1 week ago

    Happy life I argue less with my MGM lion. That makes her happy. My life happy and peaceful too!! Hahaha.
    There was a carpenter’s kid. Studying 5 th standard. He used to come to our house along with his dad and uncle.
    He used to bring his class text books and all also. In-between he would go through them if his dad or uncle scolds. With big face he…[Read more]

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    Suman Poonawala replied to the topic Stop drinking alcohol in the forum General discussion 5 months, 1 week ago

    I was a blackout drinker, Like you, I had no stopping mechanism I would just keep going until i practically became a different person, a person not many people liked, a person i didn’t much like, although I didn’t care so much because I didn’t remember what had happened, and alot of the times especially in the earlier days I used to think it was…[Read more]

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    Suman Poonawala replied to the topic Positive in the forum Be Happy 5 months, 1 week ago

    Discover your true self: Every human born on this planet has some special ability/quality he/she is unaware about. Try to find that in yourself, no one knows you better than yourself. Spend time alone, start loving your own company. Discover the hidden aspect of your personality.

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    Suman Poonawala replied to the topic Problems in Married Life in the forum Marriage Life & Relationships 5 months, 1 week ago

    See every person as an individual. Everyone have their own point of view and they might think differently than you, so consider their opinion don’t take it for granted. Most of the time it happens that if you are working person in your house you might take your office tension and stress at home and you remove your frustration on your family. Which…[Read more]

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    Suman Poonawala replied to the topic Problems in Married Life in the forum Marriage Life & Relationships 6 months, 3 weeks ago

    How to spend all your extra money. What private school to send your kids to. What restaurant to eat out at tonight. So on, so forth. Problems of success, basically. It might seem bad at the time, but when your worst problems come from excess, you’re doing pretty dang good.

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    Suman Poonawala replied to the topic Relationship advice in the forum Marriage Life & Relationships 7 months, 2 weeks ago

    There are no secrets in a healthy relationship. If you’re really in this together and you respect one another, everything should be fair game. Does someone have a crush on you? Discuss it. Laugh about it. Had a weird sexual fantasy that sounds ridiculous? Be open about it. Nothing should be off-limits.
    Be open. Talk openly about everything, e…[Read more]

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    Suman Poonawala replied to the topic Problems in Married Life in the forum Marriage Life & Relationships 8 months ago

    I really liked the genuineness of this question. I would say start by ensuring problems donot occur. Being genuine and honest ensures that the problems don’t come up in the first place.

    However having said that I know it is not practically possible and however much you try what has to happen will eventually happen. And when you’re faced with such…[Read more]

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    Suman Poonawala replied to the topic Overcome depression in the forum General discussion 8 months ago

    It is undeniable fact that one has to face depression or underwhelming circumstances in life but remember!! such situations are not the end of the world but are intended to give an even better opportunity.

    Depression can be combat in a variety of ways, first and foremost is challenging negativity. Stop even thinking about if I had done that this…[Read more]

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    Suman Poonawala replied to the topic Problems in Married Life in the forum Marriage Life & Relationships 8 months ago

    See problem are simmillier like your attitude. One can see a problem another can see an opportunity. This is totally depends on your or attitude.

    Change your attitude/ perspective to each other all your problems get solved.

    Try to trust each other. Don’t try to emphasis your dission on each other. Sit and lesson each other.

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    Suman Poonawala replied to the topic How to use logical thinking to overcome emotions? in the forum Anything is easy if you get used to it 8 months ago

    Massively late to this A2A but did not want to let it pass …
    Have you considered the possibility that you are keeping yourself from experiencing painful emotions – I couldn’t help but notice you only mention this type of emotions – as an unconscious ‘withdrawal mechanism’? You might have done it early on as a reaction to a particularly painful…[Read more]

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