1. How can you improve, stay happy and motivated while living in an isolated place?
It is all in the mind. if you create a strong, calm, non-creative mind and a mind without expectations then you can even live amongst the worst people or in an isolated place. Read books, practice meditation twice a day, enjoy the surroundings irrespective of anything and enjoy the nature around you. Nowadays you can do even normal office work from home itself with the use of technology. Accept the surrounding and situations as it is. Acceptance gives the much needed relief. Spend some time on visualising and write down whatever you want to achieve and do it as if you have achieved it. This will keep you motivated and help create opportunities and sources to make you go towards the achievements.
2. Why do I feel bored even after having everything which upsets me?
Man is greedy. Even after reaching the highest levels and enjoying life, they will think of acquiring more which is not there. So god brings them down to a lower level and makes them realise the higher level they have achieved. So be mute, when you have achieved your goals, don’t enjoy and get excited about it. This way you can avoid being upset when you back to lower level in life. Instead, You will be calm and mute there. Develop a calm mind which should be found in service without expectations, not reacting to unnecessary things and accepting things. Achieving this state of mind is possible using the practise of meditation twice a day. Now with this mind you won’t feel bored in any state.
3. What do I do with my life when I am full of opportunities?
Be happy that you are having so many opportunities in life. You are blessed. Be thankful to God. Meanwhile, prioritise your opportunities. Whatever is worth your time and effort, go for it. Among the busy schedule allot some time for your personal self too. Allot some time to help other people. Ultimately, everyone wants mind satisfaction. Money and fame can get you some satisfaction, But ultimately you will realise helping people is the real mind satisfaction. So go ahead and choose wisely.
4. What can I do to change my life?
Life is not about earning money, popularity and power. It’s overall about the mind satisfaction. You can achieve mind satisfaction through service to mankind. Develop a mind which should be calm, without expectations and accepting everything with calmness. If you develop your mind like this then it’s like you have fulfilled your life. To achieve this mind you have to learn meditation and practise twice a day.
5. How a person can stay happy Instead that person is going through lot of problems?
Face the problems whenever it’s required or at the time when it comes. Till then don’t think about it. In between if it comes leave your mind blank on that. Don’t develop it further. It will fade away by itself. So focus on the present or whatever you do and this attitude will help you stay focused and calm. Calmness is nothing but happiness.
6. How do I unlock more of my brain?
The brain will be unlocked or at its best when it’s calm and cool. You would have noticed the brain will be very calm and active in the early morning after a good night’s sleep. This is because it has had its rest. After a good rest and sleep it will be calm, cool and most importantly creative. So give rest to the mind by doing meditation. It gives the much needed rest for the brain and after meditation it will be very creative and will also be able to give good solutions to your long standing issues. It can give lot of ideas for various proposals and issues. Do regular meditation and you will be able to get more out of your brain and become more knowledgeable also.
7. I’m 25, a girl, jobless and depressed. My aim is to clear the SCC CGL this year. I have attempted the exam twice before. I’m so depressed and I’m losing hope. What should I do?
Try to give your best once again. Spend some time every day on visualising and writing down as if you have passed the SSC CGL. You have to visualise very positive thoughts and not negative about it. This will create the source and the opportunities to go towards achieving the target. Plan out well and find out the success mantra, various techniques from the known and unknown sources and adopt it. Everyday plan to finish some portion and see that you have completed it. Put in your efforts but be without expectations. Expectations gives the stress and pressure. After all your genuine efforts it will give the results and if still you are not able to achieve then you need to accept it. It’s all destined sometimes. Acceptance takes off your stress and gives the much needed relief.
8. What can I do when I want to choose either my dream or my parents? Because if I choose my dream, they told me that they will not support me in doing what I want to.
It’s not right on their part to force. But any how it’s not practically ok to oppose parents and live. So find out what’s their options and see whether it has good prospects. Or start liking it and study. Involve fully in that and after your studies get into employment immediately. Be on your own then start pursuing your dreams. Studying or working towards our passion or dreams can be started at any time I mean even at a later stage in life. Be practical and go ahead with this plan.
9. What makes you feel on the top?
For example, When you win a match , when you pass the IAS exam, when you get a big business order, when you buy a big house, when you buy a car, when your proposal to a girl/boy gets accepted etc; all these leads to you feeling like being on top of this world. But all these will be short lived, when you don’t have a calm, contented and strong mind, because there will be others always overtaking or overpowering your achievements. So it’s all in your mind. So, develop a mind which should be calm, doing service without expecting, should not react to unnecessary things, should accept even the negatives with a calm smile. If you have this kind of mind then you will be on top of this world always.
10. What do you do when you are bored?
Be focused on the present. Our human mind is greedy. If they get things easily it starts to get boring for them. When you do things monotonously then it’s boring. Change the style of the things what you are doing, then it will be interesting. Leave your mind blank whenever you feel it’s boring. At one point of time it will fade away from your mind. Enjoy, involve with the present in small things. Start helping or doing service to people then life will be very interesting.
11. Why do we get jealous? Is it good? How do we stop being jealous?
Because of insecurity or scared of someone giving more importance or love than you, there the jealousy enters over that person. We should treat everyone equally irrespective of their of status, appearance etc. Then we will also be treated like that. Then have a staunch belief that in front of the almighty all are equal. Then even some one praises you over someone, don’t get excited over that. Be cool and calm over that. And have an attitude no body is greater than anyone and believe always it’s between you and god. If you develop all these then you can control jealousy very easily.
12. Can I get rid of negative thoughts through meditation? If so, then how does it work?
100 percent you can avoid negative thoughts. Because, the core advantage of meditation is to focus on the present and blank the thoughts which is unwanted or unnecessary. Usually during meditation other thoughts will come. But the practise is to come to the present ( mantra) and after some experience you will realise you want to be in the present and blank the unnecessary or negative thoughts. But negative thoughts will come but very easily you can blank or will not develop those thoughts further.
13. I am 36 & I never had any positive elderly influence in my life. My parents and other elder relatives had done nothing but screwed up my life. How do I handle this?
Still there is no time lost. Your time zone will come. Be in the present. Past is a closed chapter. That memory of which is haunting and blocking your progress. Best solution is never think or develop the past. Whenever those thoughts come leave your mind blank on that and at some point of time it will fade away. Now start visualising positive things whatever you want to do or achieve and visualise as if you have achieved that. Spend some time on this every day. Meanwhile start practising meditation every day twice. It will keep your mind calm and helps you to leave your mind blank on the negative thoughts and realise the various facts. For free meditation training write to me at firstname.lastname@example.org
14. What is the secret to a good and a happy day?
Go to bed early the previous night so that you can have a good sleep. Get up early in the morning, do some physical exercise and meditation. Then start visualising and write down the things what you want to achieve and visualise positively as if it has happened. Then write down the activities what you are planning that day with priorities and see that at least you are attempting to completing it.
Be in the present. Don’t think about the problems you are going to face and face it when that moment comes. Only live for the present moment. If you follow all these then every day will be a happy and calm one.
15. Is it necessary to be a topper to be successful?
You need not have to be. In fact statistics shows that most of the successful people are average in academics. There are successful people in toppers too. But most of them are always under pressure to perform and retain the top slot. They are under stress and pressure to be in the top. With that mind set when it comes to job or business career, it will not work effectively. You need a calm and cool mind to perform. So, these average performers have nothing to lose. So, they will be cool and have the tendency to take risks and fast decisions. That’s why there is a good chance in average performers becoming successful.
16. If “money can’t buy happiness”, then why are poor people not happy and why don’t they have anything to take pleasure from? How is that statement justified?
Always human mind is towards what they don’t have or what they don’t get. Since they don’t have money poor people is after it and also by seeing the luxuries what money gets they feel like getting it. It’s all about mind. If you are contented then you can be happy with no money. A person earning Rs.10,000/- can eat 10 idlis, but you cannot expect a person earning 1 crore to eat 100 idlis right? Infact given the health condition he cannot eat even 4 idlis. Imagine a 100 crore worth guy having diabetes he cannot eat sweets. Now his whole life ambition will be to somehow get back to normal and have sweets. His interest is to somehow have sweets rather than earning more 100 crores. This clearly shows the human mind is towards what they don’t have or don’t get.
17. How do you get someone out of your mind?
Most of the people and the situations are temporary in our life. We are only creating the attachments and emotions. Forcibly if we are being moved to a new place we will forget the old ones and we get used to the new ones. So if you feel unnecessary to have friendship with someone, start moving away from that person. Out of sight is out of mind. If that person is still coming on your mind, leave your mind blank whenever that thoughts come. Leaving your mind blank whenever that thoughts come will lead to forgetting at some point of time, those unnecessary thoughts will fade away from your mind.
18. Why are we quick to judge someone? Aren’t we all imperfect beings?
Humans, they naturally like others stories and like to gossip around. By finding fault with others and judging, commenting on others they feel like a king. But actually nobody is perfect in this world. Even the so called good people make mistakes. By means of arrogance and self-glory they think it’s not a mistake. So gradually reduce commenting and criticising others because everyone under some situations & circumstances are committing mistakes. Before we criticise we will have to put ourselves into their shoes and find out whether it’s worth.
19. How do I control myself when someone is continuously insulting me in front of my family?
If you develop a strong, calm mind you need not have to react to it. Karma will take care of him. If you are bothered about your self-respect and are lacking a strong mind, call him separately and tell him to stop this. Mostly he should stop it. But you have to develop a non-reacting mind in which you will be calm and not affected by anything. If you skip here and go to a new group then there will be someone else in some other group.
20. Why do we sometimes become sad for no reason?
Mind always has got a tendency even if you don’t have issues it will think like as if we have some problems. Because it will be always filled with plenty of thoughts that will always bring some negativity. So best thing is blank your thoughts or mind when you feel sad in spite of there are no issues. Whenever those thoughts like you feel sad comes, blank it instead of developing or solving it. Over a period of time it will fade away.
21. I am quite emotionless these days. I am not feeling regret, pain, happiness or anything. What should I do?
Only a spiritual guy with calm mind, without expectations and of acceptance nature should get this state of mind you mentioned. Many people won’t get this muted mind-set that easily. If you are okay with it then just leave it. We should have emotions but not to the level of affecting you.
22. How do I control my anger and be more patient?
You don’t have to react. If you react then he comes to know that you are getting hurt. So whenever he wants to hurt you he can do that. Your life will be in his hands then. Just don’t bother. It’s not easy to be calm. But if you develop a calm and non-reacting mind by practising meditation then it’s possible do that. For the wrong things he does, he has to face the karma. Otherwise tell him politely not to do that. Still if he continues to do that then you adopt the non-reacting attitude. To control anger and make your mind calm instantly you can go deep inhaling and exhaling of (Suga Pranayama)for some 5 to 20 minutes.
23. Should it matter what others think of you as everyone talks negative at your back? How can this be avoided?
You are good and others if they talk bad about you, can you change it? Firmly believe your goodness is between you and god and move on. If you react to others comments then they lead your life. When you are happy suddenly they can pass some comments and change your happiness. Your happiness should be in your hands and not others can determine that. So don’t react to others comments or any other thing.
24. How do I overcome extreme separation anxiety? It has been chronic, inherent and I fear it will stay for life.
Anxiety comes in when your mind is disturbed and not calm. The character of anxiety also gives you the much needed relief from anxiety. Make your mind calm by practising meditation regularly. The anxiety level goes down. More over if you develop a calm and strong mind without expectations and of non-reactive nature then you need not have to depend on others. You can live independently, separately and happily with the above mind if you want.
Moreover whenever the separation based anxiety thoughts come, leave your mind blank on that. Consecutively leaving blank whenever it comes will lead to at some point of time it will fade away from your mind.
25. What could I do to keep my spirit alive? I have been feeling sad and lonely (I’m 25). I have been deceived. My parents were not very supportive too. Though I loved my high-paying job, I have left it. I don’t see any other way than dying.
First thing you have to do is to ACCEPT all these. Then immediately the stress level goes down. Most of our life is destined. Only thing you have to accept it and go with the motions. Life is a circle. Your time zone and opportunity must come. Wait patiently for it. Even during these negative times you can lead a calm beautiful life by making your mind calm, strong, without expectations, non-reactive to unnecessary things and accepting everything with a smile. To create this mind you need to practise meditation at least twice a day. Believe that everything is happening for a reason. Firmly believe in almighty and it’s between you and the almighty. Then nothing will disturb you. Live for the present and for the present moment. Don’t think about the past or the future. Live through the motions. Life will be beautiful. Leave your mind blank whenever the negative unnecessary thoughts come.
All the best!
26. Is it normal that I’m going through hell with a lot of emotions on any given day? It’s like one time, I feel like I can win the world or achieve anything I want, the other time, I feel like I have hit the rock bottom and everything seems impossible.
It’s like you think both the sides extreme. Instead of thinking and building castle in the air, why don’t you get down and act. Plan and get in to the act, so that you will be occupied and unnecessary thoughts will not have time to enter. It’s like a scientific theory only, if you are able to think the extreme positive imagination, it will also be able to think the extreme negative imagination. So when these kind of thoughts come, mute your mind and don’t allow it to develop. Meanwhile think, visualise positively and practically for some time and start implementing it. This will lead to the unnecessary thoughts what you get.
27. What do people actually mean when they advise you to not take life so seriously?
Yes life is there to take things casually, enjoy instead of being serious. Be focussed, planned and positive. Start working on your ambitions or works or duties with this attitude. In spite of all these attitude and your hard work if you are facing a negative situation, ACCEPT it. Don’t take it seriously. Any failures or success you learn things from that. If you are able to have the character of acceptance and doing service without expectations then your life will be amazing and you won’t take life seriously.
28. What should we do when the people whom we trust the most and are the only people around us in our life betray us at a point in time?
Expectations always lead to disappointments. Develop your mind to live without expectations. Then you will never have this problem. Do your duties, service but without expectations. Then your life will be amazing.
29. How can I get rid of overthinking? Whenever I decide to do something new, I think too much about it and then I get nervous.
Too much of thinking on a subject will lead to confusion and indecisiveness. So when the mind is calm and creative think about the issue and get a solution. Then implement it immediately. Procrastination will lead to overthinking and you will never get solutions. Because our mind will always have an opposite thought for a solved thought if you do overthinking. Achieve a calm and creative mind by practising meditation regularly.
30. If love is in the air, then why is the world full of hatred and jealousy?
Love is in the air and obviously everywhere. But when it’s connected with expectations and when the people are failing against expectations then misunderstanding enters. Then misunderstanding later on becomes hatred. Solution is love without expectations. Do your duties and service without expectations. This will solve 90 percent of the problems in the universe. Again jealousy is also about ego and insecurity. When you like or love someone you expect him to give the maximum importance to you. When someone else is given that importance, then jealousy on that person enters. Loving without expectations again solves this.
31. Have you ever felt that the face is the reflection of the mind?
Yes, face is the reflection of your mind. When you are happy or depressed it shows. Some people not to feel let down in front of others, they hide it. But it’s difficult. But it’s good to hide when you are in a sad mood. If you hide and practise or act it to be shown in a positive way, sometimes it forgets the sad situation and Change in to a positive one.
32. How do I stop being too sensitive, too emotional, overthink upon a matter and expect less from everything in life?
When your body and mind is calm, it picturises the reality for any issue. The realisation takes place. When the realisation takes place you feel it’s unnecessary to be emotional, sensitive and even you feel like not having expectations. So keeping your mind calm is important. That can be achieved by practising meditation and some breathing based pranayama. For free meditation training write to at email@example.com
33. I’m into a depression since many months because of my personal problems. I feel like running away from everyone. Right now I’m in office but I cannot express what I’m feeling right now. How to get out of this feeling?
I don’t know what kind of personal problem you are undergoing. Put your efforts to solve it. Still if it’s prolonging then accept it. Acceptance gives the much needed relief. It’s all destined, so live in the present. Don’t think about those problems always. Face it when it comes. Never treat those as problems. Visualise those are happening for good and learn from it. Live and enjoy the present moment. Sometimes tomorrow’s problems will never come. Blank your mind whenever these problem related or depressed thoughts come and don’t develop that. Do meditation twice a day to get these kind of attitude easily.
34. Why do we get angry?
Expectations cause you the anger. In every activity you have expectations. When it’s not happening then you get angry. Anything in office work, while playing a game, bringing up the child, talking to someone, your mind expect something to happen favourably, but when it’s failing you get anger. Expectations are natural for a human mind. But you should train your mind to do anything without expectations. If you fulfil it then your life will be amazing. Otherwise another solution is once anything fails your expectations then you accept it. It gives the much needed relief and reduce the stress and anger levels
35. What must I do? I talk to almost everyone about my depression and struggles. Now, I’m feeling like I must isolate myself and nobody loves me.
Why do you go share your depression with everyone? Of course it has to be shared with some very close ones or to a professional counsellor. Because most of the people they will be happy that you have problem. Because they have problems so, they will be happy to know that you have a problem and gets satisfied. About your struggles put your efforts to overcome it. Still if it happens then accept it. Acceptance gives you the much needed relief. More over live in the present. Don’t think about the depressed experiences you have. Whenever it comes to your mind, just blank and don’t develop it. If you are taking a bath or eating or talking to someone, focus and enjoy only on that. Other though will come but comeback to your presence. If this is the way you live in the present then you can live very peacefully. Whenever the problem comes face during that time. If you have this mind set then sometimes the problem may never come. Even the problem comes don’t take or look at it as a problem. Take it as a happening and go with it. In fact you should make your mind in such a way that lot of problems should come, face it, challenge it and solve it. Otherwise accept it. Because, you gain excellent knowledge and experience out of it. Meanwhile do meditation twice a day so that your mind will be calm and it’s the best way to go out of depression. For free training on meditation write to me at firstname.lastname@example.org
36. What is the best way to motivate yourself to do impossible?
Spend some time on Visualising and writing down whatever you want to achieve. You should visualise and write down as if you have achieved like. This will create the sources, miracles and opportunities for you to go towards achieving that. But you should be 100 percent positive.
37. How do I motivate people around me?
First foundation is always important for a building. For humans, it’s our mind. Make your mind calm by practising meditation. Once the mind is calm and now any negativity or emotions will not affect you.
Now about motivation, surround yourself only with positive minded people. So that you will be tempted or forced to do only positive things. Spend some time on visualising and writing down the things what you want to achieve and visualise as if you have achieved like. This will create the sources and opportunities to achieve your goals. Planning is very important. Write down whatever you want to do in a day and see that you are at least attempting to do it.
Do all this, you will be successful.
38. Why am I always feeling like “not good enough for anyone”?
It’s nothing like that. I think you have faced lot of negative things and that has created a nervousness in you. Start visualising you are capable, smart and people are speaking very positive about you. Spend this visualising every day for some time like 10 to 15 minutes and it will change your life. It will create the sources and opportunities for you to achieve your goals. Surround yourself with positive people. All are equally talented. So don’t worry you will be successful.
39. How can you live happily after destroying me emotionally?
That’s a temporary happiness only for the person who destroy others happiness. They have to face the karma. Though they are happy outside right now they will start feeling the nervousness for having done the guilt. But you at least be positive. Don’t think bad for that person. That creates a karma for you also. So you be positive and calm. Don’t think about the negative happened. Just leave blank on those negative thoughts and don’t develop if it repeatedly comes. It will fade away from your mind. Overall karma will take care of people’s misdeeds.
40. How do we be true to ourselves?
Do believe in karma 100 percent. Then you won’t do anything wrong. Karma is 100 percent true. Meanwhile when your mind is calm and clear you can link the connectivity of karma and when the mind is calm you can figure out what is right and wrong. Accordingly you can be true to yourselves. Calm mind can be achieved by practising meditation and breathing based pranayamas.
41. Why is it important to face failure?
Failure gives you more strength and failures are the stepping stones for success. actually you learn from the failures and make it a perfect stage to launch success without any mistakes. if you gain success without any failures then that will not stand for a long time. but if you achieve success after a lot of failures then it will last for long time. because in case of any crisis comes also they know to tackle due to their good experience.
42. How do I get control on my desires?
Desire should be there, only then life will be interesting. But fix a limit and be contented with that. Fix some desires and achieve that. If it continues more keep your mind mute on those thoughts. Don’t develop that. Start doing social service to people. Seeing the plight of so many people your desires will be controlled. Have unlimited desire in doing social service. That’s good, but see that it’s not affecting your family life. Spend time with family. That’s also important.
43. How do I stop comparing myself to others for good? How do I practice this? What should I do when my mind starts thinking about it?
Comparison is one of the major causes of depression and unhappiness in human life. Comparing is a stupidity and how come you can compare people with different genetic factors, different brought up under different circumstances, different financial status, different health factors, different moods at a given time, different IQ levels for different subjects? Comparing people with similar nature, qualities, character, brought up, physical stature, finance status, taste etc. Is acceptable. It’s impossible to get people of above specified similar nature, then why to compare? Realise this and stop comparing.
44. How do you handle yourself when you are stressed?
Usually the stress related thoughts will come. I will leave blank on those and I will not develop that. Whenever it comes I will leave my mind blank on that. Over a period of time it will fade.
45. Everyone is hurting my feelings. How do I get rid of them?
Best way is not to react to it. But it’s difficult not to react. Because you create a calm and non-reactive mind to solve this. To create a calm and non-reactive mind practise meditation and meditation and breathing based pranayamas every day. For free meditation training and technique write to email@example.com
46. What are the determinants of a happy and fulfilling life?
We people take happiness is something joy, getting excited, winning something etc. …it’s not that. Being calm, enjoying the calmness, not getting affected due to anything irrespective of whether it’s good or bad is called the real happiness.
Make the mind calm, unemotional and non-reactive to lead a peaceful life. It’s the best way to lead a life. Practise meditation twice a day to get this mind.
The fulfilled life is not about making money, buying a beautiful house and earning fame, it’s about having a calm, non-reactive and unemotional state of mind in spite of repeated failures. And it’s also about serving people without expectation.
47. Will my life be better and happier if I change myself for the world?
Don’t change for others. Then they will lead your life. If people think that you have some bad characters and you also think that it has to be changed. Then change for them and yourself. Always you have to realise that you need to be changed. Then it’s ok, otherwise for others sake alone don’t change. Because, your life should be in your hands and not with others directions. They cannot direct your life.
48. How can one increase his/her concentration power?
Basically if you have a calm and undiluted mind, your focus and concentration power will be good. To get the concentration / focus you have to practise meditation at least twice a day. It basically improves your focus and keeps away from distractions. It gives a calm and undiluted mind.
49. What are some daily habits that can change my life?
Visualise and writing down positively whatever you want to achieve as if it has happened. Practise every day for some time. Write down your plan for the day and see that you are at least attempting to it. This will give an excellent result. Calm and unemotional mind will give creativity and clarity to do things effectively. By practising meditation and breathing based pranayamas you will get it. All these habits will give a different improved life 100%.
50. What are the top 5 Habits to develop which helps someone become a better version of him/herself?
- Be positive always.
- Be ethical. Don’t achieve or get anything by any wrong means.
- Plan and write down the activities what you want to do and see that 80 percent of it at least attempted.
- Involve yourself in some sports activity or do some yoga because health is the second most important thing.
- Keep your mind calm, strong, unemotional and non-reactive by practising meditation everyday twice at least.
- If you make all these as habits then your life will be amazing.
51. Can your words fix my anxiety?
Nothing but your mind and thoughts can fix your anxiety. You need use your mind to visualise or think positively in order to manifest what you want into reality. Learn to let go off what is not in your control and simply give only your genuine efforts into all that you want or need. If you are anxious about something not happening for you, accept it and believe that the Almighty has something better in store for you.
52. Is it possible that my mind can be completely blank for 2 days or more?
This is absolutely possible by simply not entertaining thoughts of any kind. For example: when we get upset or angry over something, we tend to immediately jump into finding solutions or justifying our feelings. By simply not trying to give much heed to your emotions, you can blank your mind. This is often practiced during meditation. It is as simple as living in the present moment and doing what is required just for that specific moment.
53. Why does a person get angrier when I do not want to fight and keep silent?
What we need to understand is that it is human nature to get irritated when you do not receive response from the other person. While you might look at it as a way to calm down the situation, the other may take it as a trigger that they are right and you have nothing to say and thus amplify their angry more.
54. How should I spend my 20 minutes every day to learn something really valuable?
Never stop learning, because life never stops teaching. If you look around your daily surroundings, there are several things that you can learn from. While learning can happen by simply observing the good and the bad of every situation, there are several other ways to learn. The most common practice of learning turns out to be reading, which is a great method. However, maximum learning happens through your interactions with people around you as people are the biggest packages of information and knowledge being carried around from their experiences.
55. Why do too many health-conscious people get more health issues?
Thinking too much, obsessing or being over-conscious about things will cause to develop a fear or anxiety towards it. These feelings of fear and anxiety are negative thoughts that manifests into negative realities. Moreover, everything in moderation is what you need for a healthy body, mind and soul. So visualise only the good things in life and allow it to manifest itself into reality.
56. How do I overcome frustration about not having time for things I love to do?
It all boils down to your priorities. With the world moving fast-paced, it is understandable that you need to work in order to survive. Unless, you are struggling for a living itself, there could be no excuse such as having no time for something you love. Firstly, why is it that you are doing a job that you don’t love? For the money? Well, then take out your planner and organize your days better. Jot down things in priority wise and figure out what you enjoy doing and what you don’t. Not everything you do everyday has to be enjoyable, there are things you have got to do for a living. But make sure you allot time for small simple pleasures in life on a daily basis and don’t let anything else take over that time. Once you are organised, you will soon see how you begin to even enjoy things you previously didn’t like doing, because you are looking forward for other things that you do enjoy as well.
57. Is it possible to be happy compromising?
Compromising can unfold in so many different ways. If you are talking about sacrificing for someone else, it is most of the times for someone you love. Thus, you find happiness in giving happiness to the other person. However, there is a limit to everything. Compromising on every small thing for someone else might rip off the happiness within you. And the very fact that you can keep your loved ones happy only if you are happy yourself, stands true over here. Thus they say, “You can’t pour from an empty tea pot”! Understand the boundaries of sacrificing and do what you can to keep others happy, without letting it steal your joy.
58. How do I handle people who take advantage of my kindness and then come back again only when they need me?
While giving, don’t expect. Expectations ruin a lot of things in all kinds of relationships. You need to remember that being kind and helping others will only add to your karma and talks about the person you are. How others react or treat you is theirs. While being kind doesn’t have to go with any expectations in return, when it comes to doing someone a favour, make sure it doesn’t hinder with any of your activities or priorities. Unless, you can actually afford the time and effort to help them out, do not commit to it because then it only feels more like a burden to you than you trying to help someone.
59. My biggest problem is that I get offended easily. I mean even the single minute thing ruins my whole day. How do I overcome this problem?
The key to helping yourself with this problem is to understand that others actions and words have nothing to do with you, but everything to do with their own state of mind. All you need to practice in the beginning is to not react! Be reacting, you are being vulnerable to the other person and displaying that what they do affects you. This gives them an upper-hand, triggering them to accelerate the action more. Getting offended easily only means that you are able to feel so deeply for yourself. It is not a negative thing. You just need to focus on practicing self control and not take others state of mind to your heart. This can be done through meditation practices and being conscious about the way you react to others.
60. In the race of making others happy, I have lost myself, I have forgotten who I used to be. How can I find myself?
Firstly, remember that you cannot pour from an empty cup. You need to be fulfilled and happy in life to pass on that energy and joy to others around you. However, what you haven’t realised is that you haven’t lost yourself, but in fact have found yourself. Recognize that your nature is to help others and keep them happy which in turn will keep you happy. Do not have expectations and this will avoid them from taking away the happiness from you. Believe in Almighty and karma and continue helping others around you. What goes around, comes around. You will experience this sooner or later!