Q&A

1. How can you improve, stay happy and motivated while living in an isolated place?

It is all in the mind. if you create a strong, calm, non-creative mind and a mind without expectations then you can even live amongst the worst people or in an isolated place. Read books, practice meditation twice a day, enjoy the surroundings irrespective of anything and enjoy the nature around you. Nowadays you can do even normal office work from home itself with the use of technology. Accept the surrounding and situations as it is. Acceptance gives the much needed relief. Spend some time on visualising and write down whatever you want to achieve and do it as if you have achieved it. This will keep you motivated and help create opportunities and sources to make you go towards the achievements.

2. Why do I feel bored even after having everything which upsets me?

Man is greedy. Even after reaching the highest levels and enjoying life, they will think of acquiring more which is not there. So god brings them down to a lower level and makes them realise the higher level they have achieved. So be mute, when you have achieved your goals, don’t enjoy and get excited about it. This way you can avoid being upset when you back to lower level in life. Instead, You will be calm and mute there. Develop a calm mind which should be found in service without expectations, not reacting to unnecessary things and accepting things. Achieving this state of mind is possible using the practise of meditation twice a day. Now with this mind you won’t feel bored in any state.

3. What do I do with my life when I am full of opportunities?

Be happy that you are having so many opportunities in life. You are blessed. Be thankful to God. Meanwhile, prioritise your opportunities. Whatever is worth your time and effort, go for it. Among the busy schedule allot some time for your personal self too. Allot some time to help other people. Ultimately, everyone wants mind satisfaction. Money and fame can get you some satisfaction, But ultimately you will realise helping people is the real mind satisfaction. So go ahead and choose wisely.

4. What can I do to change my life?

Life is not about earning money, popularity and power. It’s overall about the mind satisfaction. You can achieve mind satisfaction through service to mankind. Develop a mind which should be calm, without expectations and accepting everything with calmness. If you develop your mind like this then it’s like you have fulfilled your life. To achieve this mind you have to learn meditation and practise twice a day.

5. How a person can stay happy Instead that person is going through lot of problems?

Face the problems whenever it’s required or at the time when it comes. Till then don’t think about it. In between if it comes leave your mind blank on that. Don’t develop it further. It will fade away by itself. So focus on the present or whatever you do and this attitude will help you stay focused and calm. Calmness is nothing but happiness.

6. How do I unlock more of my brain?

The brain will be unlocked or at its best when it’s calm and cool. You would have noticed the brain will be very calm and active in the early morning after a good night’s sleep. This is because it has had its rest. After a good rest and sleep it will be calm, cool and most importantly creative. So give rest to the mind by doing meditation. It gives the much needed rest for the brain and after meditation it will be very creative and will also be able to give good solutions to your long standing issues. It can give lot of ideas for various proposals and issues. Do regular meditation and you will be able to get more out of your brain and become more knowledgeable also.

7. I’m 25, a girl, jobless and depressed. My aim is to clear the SCC CGL this year. I have attempted the exam twice before. I’m so depressed and I’m losing hope. What should I do?

Try to give your best once again. Spend some time every day on visualising and writing down as if you have passed the SSC CGL. You have to visualise very positive thoughts and not negative about it. This will create the source and the opportunities to go towards achieving the target. Plan out well and find out the success mantra, various techniques from the known and unknown sources and adopt it. Everyday plan to finish some portion and see that you have completed it. Put in your efforts but be without expectations. Expectations gives the stress and pressure. After all your genuine efforts it will give the results and if still you are not able to achieve then you need to accept it. It’s all destined sometimes. Acceptance takes off your stress and gives the much needed relief.

8. What can I do when I want to choose either my dream or my parents? Because if I choose my dream, they told me that they will not support me in doing what I want to.

It’s not right on their part to force. But any how it’s not practically ok to oppose parents and live. So find out what’s their options and see whether it has good prospects. Or start liking it and study. Involve fully in that and after your studies get into employment immediately. Be on your own then start pursuing your dreams. Studying or working towards our passion or dreams can be started at any time I mean even at a later stage in life. Be practical and go ahead with this plan.

9. What makes you feel on the top?

For example, When you win a match , when you pass the IAS exam, when you get a big business order, when you buy a big house, when you buy a car, when your proposal to a girl/boy gets accepted etc; all these leads to you feeling like being on top of this world. But all these will be short lived, when you don’t have a calm, contented and strong mind, because there will be others always overtaking or overpowering your achievements. So it’s all in your mind. So, develop a mind which should be calm, doing service without expecting, should not react to unnecessary things, should accept even the negatives with a calm smile. If you have this kind of mind then you will be on top of this world always.

10. What do you do when you are bored?

Be focused on the present. Our human mind is greedy. If they get things easily it starts to get boring for them. When you do things monotonously then it’s boring. Change the style of the things what you are doing, then it will be interesting. Leave your mind blank whenever you feel it’s boring. At one point of time it will fade away from your mind. Enjoy, involve with the present in small things. Start helping or doing service to people then life will be very interesting.

11. Why do we get jealous? Is it good? How do we stop being jealous?

Because of insecurity or scared of someone giving more importance or love than you, there the jealousy enters over that person. We should treat everyone equally irrespective of their of status, appearance etc. Then we will also be treated like that. Then have a staunch belief that in front of the almighty all are equal. Then even some one praises you over someone, don’t get excited over that. Be cool and calm over that. And have an attitude no body is greater than anyone and believe always it’s between you and god. If you develop all these then you can control jealousy very easily.

12. Can I get rid of negative thoughts through meditation? If so, then how does it work?

100 percent you can avoid negative thoughts. Because, the core advantage of meditation is to focus on the present and blank the thoughts which is unwanted or unnecessary. Usually during meditation other thoughts will come. But the practise is to come to the present ( mantra) and after some experience you will realise you want to be in the present and blank the unnecessary or negative thoughts. But negative thoughts will come but very easily you can blank or will not develop those thoughts further.

13. I am 36 & I never had any positive elderly influence in my life. My parents and other elder relatives had done nothing but screwed up my life. How do I handle this?

Still there is no time lost. Your time zone will come. Be in the present. Past is a closed chapter. That memory of which is haunting and blocking your progress. Best solution is never think or develop the past. Whenever those thoughts come leave your mind blank on that and at some point of time it will fade away. Now start visualising positive things whatever you want to do or achieve and visualise as if you have achieved that. Spend some time on this every day. Meanwhile start practising meditation every day twice. It will keep your mind calm and helps you to leave your mind blank on the negative thoughts and realise the various facts. For free meditation training write to me at rajkumar23969@gmail.com

14. What is the secret to a good and a happy day?

Go to bed early the previous night so that you can have a good sleep. Get up early in the morning, do some physical exercise and meditation. Then start visualising and write down the things what you want to achieve and visualise positively as if it has happened. Then write down the activities what you are planning that day with priorities and see that at least you are attempting to completing it.
Be in the present. Don’t think about the problems you are going to face and face it when that moment comes. Only live for the present moment. If you follow all these then every day will be a happy and calm one.

15. Is it necessary to be a topper to be successful?

You need not have to be. In fact statistics shows that most of the successful people are average in academics. There are successful people in toppers too. But most of them are always under pressure to perform and retain the top slot. They are under stress and pressure to be in the top. With that mind set when it comes to job or business career, it will not work effectively. You need a calm and cool mind to perform. So, these average performers have nothing to lose. So, they will be cool and have the tendency to take risks and fast decisions. That’s why there is a good chance in average performers becoming successful.

16. If “money can’t buy happiness”, then why are poor people not happy and why don’t they have anything to take pleasure from? How is that statement justified?

Always human mind is towards what they don’t have or what they don’t get. Since they don’t have money poor people is after it and also by seeing the luxuries what money gets they feel like getting it. It’s all about mind. If you are contented then you can be happy with no money. A person earning Rs.10,000/- can eat 10 idlis, but you cannot expect a person earning 1 crore to eat 100 idlis right? Infact given the health condition he cannot eat even 4 idlis. Imagine a 100 crore worth guy having diabetes he cannot eat sweets. Now his whole life ambition will be to somehow get back to normal and have sweets. His interest is to somehow have sweets rather than earning more 100 crores. This clearly shows the human mind is towards what they don’t have or don’t get.

17. How do you get someone out of your mind?

Most of the people and the situations are temporary in our life. We are only creating the attachments and emotions. Forcibly if we are being moved to a new place we will forget the old ones and we get used to the new ones. So if you feel unnecessary to have friendship with someone, start moving away from that person. Out of sight is out of mind. If that person is still coming on your mind, leave your mind blank whenever that thoughts come. Leaving your mind blank whenever that thoughts come will lead to forgetting at some point of time, those unnecessary thoughts will fade away from your mind.

18. Why are we quick to judge someone? Aren’t we all imperfect beings?

Humans, they naturally like others stories and like to gossip around. By finding fault with others and judging, commenting on others they feel like a king. But actually nobody is perfect in this world. Even the so called good people make mistakes. By means of arrogance and self-glory they think it’s not a mistake. So gradually reduce commenting and criticising others because everyone under some situations & circumstances are committing mistakes. Before we criticise we will have to put ourselves into their shoes and find out whether it’s worth.

19. How do I control myself when someone is continuously insulting me in front of my family?

If you develop a strong, calm mind you need not have to react to it. Karma will take care of him. If you are bothered about your self-respect and are lacking a strong mind, call him separately and tell him to stop this. Mostly he should stop it. But you have to develop a non-reacting mind in which you will be calm and not affected by anything. If you skip here and go to a new group then there will be someone else in some other group.

20. Why do we sometimes become sad for no reason?

Mind always has got a tendency even if you don’t have issues it will think like as if we have some problems. Because it will be always filled with plenty of thoughts that will always bring some negativity. So best thing is blank your thoughts or mind when you feel sad in spite of there are no issues. Whenever those thoughts like you feel sad comes, blank it instead of developing or solving it. Over a period of time it will fade away.

21. I am quite emotionless these days. I am not feeling regret, pain, happiness or anything. What should I do?

Only a spiritual guy with calm mind, without expectations and of acceptance nature should get this state of mind you mentioned. Many people won’t get this muted mind-set that easily. If you are okay with it then just leave it. We should have emotions but not to the level of affecting you.

22. How do I control my anger and be more patient?

You don’t have to react. If you react then he comes to know that you are getting hurt. So whenever he wants to hurt you he can do that. Your life will be in his hands then. Just don’t bother. It’s not easy to be calm. But if you develop a calm and non-reacting mind by practising meditation then it’s possible do that. For the wrong things he does, he has to face the karma. Otherwise tell him politely not to do that. Still if he continues to do that then you adopt the non-reacting attitude. To control anger and make your mind calm instantly you can go deep inhaling and exhaling of (Suga Pranayama)for some 5 to 20 minutes.

23. Should it matter what others think of you as everyone talks negative at your back? How can this be avoided?

You are good and others if they talk bad about you, can you change it? Firmly believe your goodness is between you and god and move on. If you react to others comments then they lead your life. When you are happy suddenly they can pass some comments and change your happiness. Your happiness should be in your hands and not others can determine that. So don’t react to others comments or any other thing.

24. How do I overcome extreme separation anxiety? It has been chronic, inherent and I fear it will stay for life.

Anxiety comes in when your mind is disturbed and not calm. The character of anxiety also gives you the much needed relief from anxiety. Make your mind calm by practising meditation regularly. The anxiety level goes down. More over if you develop a calm and strong mind without expectations and of non-reactive nature then you need not have to depend on others. You can live independently, separately and happily with the above mind if you want.
Moreover whenever the separation based anxiety thoughts come, leave your mind blank on that. Consecutively leaving blank whenever it comes will lead to at some point of time it will fade away from your mind.

25. What could I do to keep my spirit alive? I have been feeling sad and lonely (I’m 25). I have been deceived. My parents were not very supportive too. Though I loved my high-paying job, I have left it. I don’t see any other way than dying.

First thing you have to do is to ACCEPT all these. Then immediately the stress level goes down. Most of our life is destined. Only thing you have to accept it and go with the motions. Life is a circle. Your time zone and opportunity must come. Wait patiently for it. Even during these negative times you can lead a calm beautiful life by making your mind calm, strong, without expectations, non-reactive to unnecessary things and accepting everything with a smile. To create this mind you need to practise meditation at least twice a day. Believe that everything is happening for a reason. Firmly believe in almighty and it’s between you and the almighty. Then nothing will disturb you. Live for the present and for the present moment. Don’t think about the past or the future. Live through the motions. Life will be beautiful. Leave your mind blank whenever the negative unnecessary thoughts come.
All the best!

26. Is it normal that I’m going through hell with a lot of emotions on any given day? It’s like one time, I feel like I can win the world or achieve anything I want, the other time, I feel like I have hit the rock bottom and everything seems impossible.

It’s like you think both the sides extreme. Instead of thinking and building castle in the air, why don’t you get down and act. Plan and get in to the act, so that you will be occupied and unnecessary thoughts will not have time to enter. It’s like a scientific theory only, if you are able to think the extreme positive imagination, it will also be able to think the extreme negative imagination. So when these kind of thoughts come, mute your mind and don’t allow it to develop. Meanwhile think, visualise positively and practically for some time and start implementing it. This will lead to the unnecessary thoughts what you get.

27. What do people actually mean when they advise you to not take life so seriously?

Yes life is there to take things casually, enjoy instead of being serious. Be focussed, planned and positive. Start working on your ambitions or works or duties with this attitude. In spite of all these attitude and your hard work if you are facing a negative situation, ACCEPT it. Don’t take it seriously. Any failures or success you learn things from that. If you are able to have the character of acceptance and doing service without expectations then your life will be amazing and you won’t take life seriously.

28. What should we do when the people whom we trust the most and are the only people around us in our life betray us at a point in time?

Expectations always lead to disappointments. Develop your mind to live without expectations. Then you will never have this problem. Do your duties, service but without expectations. Then your life will be amazing.

29. How can I get rid of overthinking? Whenever I decide to do something new, I think too much about it and then I get nervous.

Too much of thinking on a subject will lead to confusion and indecisiveness. So when the mind is calm and creative think about the issue and get a solution. Then implement it immediately. Procrastination will lead to overthinking and you will never get solutions. Because our mind will always have an opposite thought for a solved thought if you do overthinking. Achieve a calm and creative mind by practising meditation regularly.

30. If love is in the air, then why is the world full of hatred and jealousy?

Love is in the air and obviously everywhere. But when it’s connected with expectations and when the people are failing against expectations then misunderstanding enters. Then misunderstanding later on becomes hatred. Solution is love without expectations. Do your duties and service without expectations. This will solve 90 percent of the problems in the universe. Again jealousy is also about ego and insecurity. When you like or love someone you expect him to give the maximum importance to you. When someone else is given that importance, then jealousy on that person enters. Loving without expectations again solves this.

31. Have you ever felt that the face is the reflection of the mind?

Yes, face is the reflection of your mind. When you are happy or depressed it shows. Some people not to feel let down in front of others, they hide it. But it’s difficult. But it’s good to hide when you are in a sad mood. If you hide and practise or act it to be shown in a positive way, sometimes it forgets the sad situation and Change in to a positive one.

32. How do I stop being too sensitive, too emotional, overthink upon a matter and expect less from everything in life?

When your body and mind is calm, it picturises the reality for any issue. The realisation takes place. When the realisation takes place you feel it’s unnecessary to be emotional, sensitive and even you feel like not having expectations. So keeping your mind calm is important. That can be achieved by practising meditation and some breathing based pranayama. For free meditation training write to at rajkumar23969@gmail.com

33. I’m into a depression since many months because of my personal problems. I feel like running away from everyone. Right now I’m in office but I cannot express what I’m feeling right now. How to get out of this feeling?

I don’t know what kind of personal problem you are undergoing. Put your efforts to solve it. Still if it’s prolonging then accept it. Acceptance gives the much needed relief. It’s all destined, so live in the present. Don’t think about those problems always. Face it when it comes. Never treat those as problems. Visualise those are happening for good and learn from it. Live and enjoy the present moment. Sometimes tomorrow’s problems will never come. Blank your mind whenever these problem related or depressed thoughts come and don’t develop that. Do meditation twice a day to get these kind of attitude easily.

34. Why do we get angry?

Expectations cause you the anger. In every activity you have expectations. When it’s not happening then you get angry. Anything in office work, while playing a game, bringing up the child, talking to someone, your mind expect something to happen favourably, but when it’s failing you get anger. Expectations are natural for a human mind. But you should train your mind to do anything without expectations. If you fulfil it then your life will be amazing. Otherwise another solution is once anything fails your expectations then you accept it. It gives the much needed relief and reduce the stress and anger levels

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35. What must I do? I talk to almost everyone about my depression and struggles. Now, I’m feeling like I must isolate myself and nobody loves me.

Why do you go share your depression with everyone? Of course it has to be shared with some very close ones or to a professional counsellor. Because most of the people they will be happy that you have problem. Because they have problems so, they will be happy to know that you have a problem and gets satisfied. About your struggles put your efforts to overcome it. Still if it happens then accept it. Acceptance gives you the much needed relief. More over live in the present. Don’t think about the depressed experiences you have. Whenever it comes to your mind, just blank and don’t develop it. If you are taking a bath or eating or talking to someone, focus and enjoy only on that. Other though will come but comeback to your presence. If this is the way you live in the present then you can live very peacefully. Whenever the problem comes face during that time. If you have this mind set then sometimes the problem may never come. Even the problem comes don’t take or look at it as a problem. Take it as a happening and go with it. In fact you should make your mind in such a way that lot of problems should come, face it, challenge it and solve it. Otherwise accept it. Because, you gain excellent knowledge and experience out of it. Meanwhile do meditation twice a day so that your mind will be calm and it’s the best way to go out of depression. For free training on meditation write to me at rajkumar23969@gmail.com

36. What is the best way to motivate yourself to do impossible?

Spend some time on Visualising and writing down whatever you want to achieve. You should visualise and write down as if you have achieved like. This will create the sources, miracles and opportunities for you to go towards achieving that. But you should be 100 percent positive.

37. How do I motivate people around me?

First foundation is always important for a building. For humans, it’s our mind. Make your mind calm by practising meditation. Once the mind is calm and now any negativity or emotions will not affect you.
Now about motivation, surround yourself only with positive minded people. So that you will be tempted or forced to do only positive things. Spend some time on visualising and writing down the things what you want to achieve and visualise as if you have achieved like. This will create the sources and opportunities to achieve your goals. Planning is very important. Write down whatever you want to do in a day and see that you are at least attempting to do it.
Do all this, you will be successful.

38. Why am I always feeling like “not good enough for anyone”?

It’s nothing like that. I think you have faced lot of negative things and that has created a nervousness in you. Start visualising you are capable, smart and people are speaking very positive about you. Spend this visualising every day for some time like 10 to 15 minutes and it will change your life. It will create the sources and opportunities for you to achieve your goals. Surround yourself with positive people. All are equally talented. So don’t worry you will be successful.

39. How can you live happily after destroying me emotionally?

That’s a temporary happiness only for the person who destroy others happiness. They have to face the karma. Though they are happy outside right now they will start feeling the nervousness for having done the guilt. But you at least be positive. Don’t think bad for that person. That creates a karma for you also. So you be positive and calm. Don’t think about the negative happened. Just leave blank on those negative thoughts and don’t develop if it repeatedly comes. It will fade away from your mind. Overall karma will take care of people’s misdeeds.

40. How do we be true to ourselves?

Do believe in karma 100 percent. Then you won’t do anything wrong. Karma is 100 percent true. Meanwhile when your mind is calm and clear you can link the connectivity of karma and when the mind is calm you can figure out what is right and wrong. Accordingly you can be true to yourselves. Calm mind can be achieved by practising meditation and breathing based pranayamas.

41. Why is it important to face failure?

Failure gives you more strength and failures are the stepping stones for success. actually you learn from the failures and make it a perfect stage to launch success without any mistakes. if you gain success without any failures then that will not stand for a long time. but if you achieve success after a lot of failures then it will last for long time. because in case of any crisis comes also they know to tackle due to their good experience.

42. How do I get control on my desires?

Desire should be there, only then life will be interesting. But fix a limit and be contented with that. Fix some desires and achieve that. If it continues more keep your mind mute on those thoughts. Don’t develop that. Start doing social service to people. Seeing the plight of so many people your desires will be controlled. Have unlimited desire in doing social service. That’s good, but see that it’s not affecting your family life. Spend time with family. That’s also important.

43. How do I stop comparing myself to others for good? How do I practice this? What should I do when my mind starts thinking about it?

Comparison is one of the major causes of depression and unhappiness in human life. Comparing is a stupidity and how come you can compare people with different genetic factors, different brought up under different circumstances, different financial status, different health factors, different moods at a given time, different IQ levels for different subjects? Comparing people with similar nature, qualities, character, brought up, physical stature, finance status, taste etc. Is acceptable. It’s impossible to get people of above specified similar nature, then why to compare? Realise this and stop comparing.

44. How do you handle yourself when you are stressed?

Usually the stress related thoughts will come. I will leave blank on those and I will not develop that. Whenever it comes I will leave my mind blank on that. Over a period of time it will fade.

45. Everyone is hurting my feelings. How do I get rid of them?

Best way is not to react to it. But it’s difficult not to react. Because you create a calm and non-reactive mind to solve this. To create a calm and non-reactive mind practise meditation and meditation and breathing based pranayamas every day. For free meditation training and technique write to rajkumar23969@gmail.com

46. What are the determinants of a happy and fulfilling life?

We people take happiness is something joy, getting excited, winning something etc. …it’s not that. Being calm, enjoying the calmness, not getting affected due to anything irrespective of whether it’s good or bad is called the real happiness.
Make the mind calm, unemotional and non-reactive to lead a peaceful life. It’s the best way to lead a life. Practise meditation twice a day to get this mind.
The fulfilled life is not about making money, buying a beautiful house and earning fame, it’s about having a calm, non-reactive and unemotional state of mind in spite of repeated failures. And it’s also about serving people without expectation.

47. Will my life be better and happier if I change myself for the world?

Don’t change for others. Then they will lead your life. If people think that you have some bad characters and you also think that it has to be changed. Then change for them and yourself. Always you have to realise that you need to be changed. Then it’s ok, otherwise for others sake alone don’t change. Because, your life should be in your hands and not with others directions. They cannot direct your life.

48. How can one increase his/her concentration power?

Basically if you have a calm and undiluted mind, your focus and concentration power will be good. To get the concentration / focus you have to practise meditation at least twice a day. It basically improves your focus and keeps away from distractions. It gives a calm and undiluted mind.

49. What are some daily habits that can change my life?

Visualise and writing down positively whatever you want to achieve as if it has happened. Practise every day for some time. Write down your plan for the day and see that you are at least attempting to it. This will give an excellent result. Calm and unemotional mind will give creativity and clarity to do things effectively. By practising meditation and breathing based pranayamas you will get it. All these habits will give a different improved life 100%.

50. What are the top 5 Habits to develop which helps someone become a better version of him/herself?

  1. Be positive always.
  2. Be ethical. Don’t achieve or get anything by any wrong means.
  3. Plan and write down the activities what you want to do and see that 80 percent of it at least attempted.
  4. Involve yourself in some sports activity or do some yoga because health is the second most important thing.
  5. Keep your mind calm, strong, unemotional and non-reactive by practising meditation everyday twice at least.
  6. If you make all these as habits then your life will be amazing.

51. Can your words fix my anxiety?

Nothing but your mind and thoughts can fix your anxiety. You need use your mind to visualise or think positively in order to manifest what you want into reality. Learn to let go off what is not in your control and simply give only your genuine efforts into all that you want or need. If you are anxious about something not happening for you, accept it and believe that the Almighty has something better in store for you.

52. Is it possible that my mind can be completely blank for 2 days or more?

This is absolutely possible by simply not entertaining thoughts of any kind. For example: when we get upset or angry over something, we tend to immediately jump into finding solutions or justifying our feelings. By simply not trying to give much heed to your emotions, you can blank your mind. This is often practiced during meditation. It is as simple as living in the present moment and doing what is required just for that specific moment.

53. Why does a person get angrier when I do not want to fight and keep silent?

What we need to understand is that it is human nature to get irritated when you do not receive response from the other person. While you might look at it as a way to calm down the situation, the other may take it as a trigger that they are right and you have nothing to say and thus amplify their angry more.

54. How should I spend my 20 minutes every day to learn something really valuable?

Never stop learning, because life never stops teaching. If you look around your daily surroundings, there are several things that you can learn from. While learning can happen by simply observing the good and the bad of every situation, there are several other ways to learn. The most common practice of learning turns out to be reading, which is a great method. However, maximum learning happens through your interactions with people around you as people are the biggest packages of information and knowledge being carried around from their experiences.

55. Why do too many health-conscious people get more health issues?

Thinking too much, obsessing or being over-conscious about things will cause to develop a fear or anxiety towards it. These feelings of fear and anxiety are negative thoughts that manifests into negative realities. Moreover, everything in moderation is what you need for a healthy body, mind and soul. So visualise only the good things in life and allow it to manifest itself into reality.

56. How do I overcome frustration about not having time for things I love to do?

It all boils down to your priorities. With the world moving fast-paced, it is understandable that you need to work in order to survive. Unless, you are struggling for a living itself, there could be no excuse such as having no time for something you love. Firstly, why is it that you are doing a job that you don’t love? For the money? Well, then take out your planner and organize your days better. Jot down things in priority wise and figure out what you enjoy doing and what you don’t. Not everything you do everyday has to be enjoyable, there are things you have got to do for a living. But make sure you allot time for small simple pleasures in life on a daily basis and don’t let anything else take over that time. Once you are organised, you will soon see how you begin to even enjoy things you previously didn’t like doing, because you are looking forward for other things that you do enjoy as well.

57. Is it possible to be happy compromising?

Compromising can unfold in so many different ways. If you are talking about sacrificing for someone else, it is most of the times for someone you love. Thus, you find happiness in giving happiness to the other person. However, there is a limit to everything. Compromising on every small thing for someone else might rip off the happiness within you. And the very fact that you can keep your loved ones happy only if you are happy yourself, stands true over here. Thus they say, “You can’t pour from an empty tea pot”! Understand the boundaries of sacrificing and do what you can to keep others happy, without letting it steal your joy.

58. How do I handle people who take advantage of my kindness and then come back again only when they need me?

While giving, don’t expect. Expectations ruin a lot of things in all kinds of relationships. You need to remember that being kind and helping others will only add to your karma and talks about the person you are. How others react or treat you is theirs. While being kind doesn’t have to go with any expectations in return, when it comes to doing someone a favour, make sure it doesn’t hinder with any of your activities or priorities. Unless, you can actually afford the time and effort to help them out, do not commit to it because then it only feels more like a burden to you than you trying to help someone.

59. My biggest problem is that I get offended easily. I mean even the single minute thing ruins my whole day. How do I overcome this problem?

The key to helping yourself with this problem is to understand that others actions and words have nothing to do with you, but everything to do with their own state of mind. All you need to practice in the beginning is to not react! Be reacting, you are being vulnerable to the other person and displaying that what they do affects you. This gives them an upper-hand, triggering them to accelerate the action more. Getting offended easily only means that you are able to feel so deeply for yourself. It is not a negative thing. You just need to focus on practicing self control and not take others state of mind to your heart. This can be done through meditation practices and being conscious about the way you react to others.

60. In the race of making others happy, I have lost myself, I have forgotten who I used to be. How can I find myself?

Firstly, remember that you cannot pour from an empty cup. You need to be fulfilled and happy in life to pass on that energy and joy to others around you. However, what you haven’t realised is that you haven’t lost yourself, but in fact have found yourself. Recognize that your nature is to help others and keep them happy which in turn will keep you happy. Do not have expectations and this will avoid them from taking away the happiness from you. Believe in Almighty and karma and continue helping others around you. What goes around, comes around. You will experience this sooner or later!

61. What are disadvantages of being meticulous?

There are certain situations where you have to be meticulous. For instance, if you work as a software designer or doing some kind of research work, etc., then you have to flawless to the core or else will not be successful.  But in general, no one can be perfect. If you are that, then you expect the same from others as well. It creates a pressure for all and others and results in so much of the stress. So you will have to put your efforts genuinely to make things perfect. If not just accept what is  happening.

62. How to stop the feeling of getting hurt frequently?

Getting hurt frequently means you are very emotional and live ion others actions. If you be the same, then this can make you both happy and unhappy as well. Don’t allow others to lead your life, be non reactive and control your emotions. These can help you to not get hurt. You can also try doing some meditation and breathing exercises to overcome such feeling and you will eventually learn to be non reactive.

63. Does personal ignorance make you unhappy?

This totally depends on the person. If you are a selfless nature, then you will never have to think about it. But usually effective leaders or who want to be perfect, they take self – searching at regular breaks to satisfy themselves and to lead a useful and smart effective way of life. So this sort of people are not quite happy about personal ignorance.

64. I Don’t have feelings is that bad?

You will be perfectly spiritual when you are emotionless, be all have expectations and worries since we are linked, emotionless makes you uncomitted. You should also have a nice heart if you are emotionless to help people when there is a need. Or else being emotionless becomes useless. There are nice people who have a huge space in their heart. But with emotions they might not be able to grow or they go down badly.

65. Does hard work really show you great results?

Plan with priorities, hard work and smart work, these three can give you excellent results. Also try to meditate at least twice a day which will also help you to calm your mind. With this mind, mixed with creativity and clarity can do wonders. These three will give you hundred percent success.

66. How to maintain happiness?

Once you have developed happiness you must not get excited and celebrate it. You must be calm ad observe it. Happiness is nothing but calmness. Now this can be maintained even when there is a negative situation. So instead of getting excited its better if you observe the calmness and happiness, then it can be maintained.

67. How to stay stress free and happy 24*7?

You can actually lead a mind for that. You will have to mute all your unwanted negative thoughts when it appears. Maintaining a bland mind when the negative comes, it might lead you to some point of time where there unwanted thoughts will wash away from your mind. Keeping your mind blank can happen when you meditate regularly.

68. How to overcome the fear of thinking that something might happen if we are happy?

Instead of being super happy, just be calm, calmness is also a part happiness. Human life is bound to face sorrows. If your mind is cheerful and happy then you must understand that this is the theory of equality, so you are being super happy or excited over some time, feel the calmness and be calm. Obviously the thoughts of sorrows and bad things might not come. So the theory is that if you are really excited, you should must be ready to face the negative effect situation also.

69. How to control over thoughts?

Sometimes you can and most of the times you might not be able to control the thoughts. Unless you have a relaxed and calm mind. It’s very hard to control human minds are crafted to go the way very unpredictable towards the sensual pleasures through all kinds of senses.  To have to control on these you have to have the sense of realization and that can be possible only when your mind is calm and targeted.

70. Believing in gods… why do we do that?

Its proven that a positive vibe will be created when we have belief and trust in something. This positive vibrations can make source and help us attain whatever we plan. Also, people visit temples because there is a positive vibration in it. As people come there with positive wishes and calmness so the theory is that when you have trust on something irrespective of reality, it happens.

71. Keeping the negativity away and motivating yourself

Just battling on those when it comes, you might feel like developing or solving those thoughts, but you might not do that. Just defeating it when it comes will lead you to a point of time where the unwanted thoughts will wash away from the mind.

72. What are the cons of Anger?

When you are in anger, people might be away from you, even it its right on your side. As people love only faces that are beaming faces and also when you are in anger, there is a great chance of using hurting and unethical words as an intention to revenge and also there are chances of people getting conveyed in a politer matter. But when you the pass the information when in anger, you might not be able to convince even when it’s true. Because by nature the minds might have an ego when its explained in a dominated angry manner.

73. How to deal with Shyness?

People are more concerned about how they look and it depends on others to know how they look, are liable to shyness. They are so much worried about how they appreciate their looks. If they say good then that’s fine. If they say they are bad they might be so worried. Most of our life depends on other comments. Others might be easily directed their life by saying some kind of nonsense.

74. Do you like hectic and peaceful life?

If the busy life is great for someone then you must follow it. While having a busy life you can be tranquil also. This life is about having an excellent satisfied mind. That is possible even when we are busy. It’s all about the mind. If you are so muted, calm, non – reactive mind, then you can be peaceful while leading a busy life.

75. How to relax yourself from mental stress?

Breathing and meditation based yoga techniques are an excellent ways to have your body and mind relaxed immediately. Especially after doing the yoga poses, you will feel so refreshed and relaxed. You can also hear to melodious music and visit places that have beautiful landscapes.

76. Does depression and overthinking are related?

Yes, consider a situation for instance happening with ninety percent positive and ten percent negative, you might take only the positive and think again, here overthinking about this one leads to going through each and every thing that happens. So when it goes though the ten percent negative part, most of the time will really be hard, sometime this ten percent negative might also overtake the ninety percent positive which gets you depressed. So overthinking can lead to depression.

77. Can comparison reduce happiness?

You might be really happy when you are being compared to a better person you are elated, but you will be under pressure to retain that status. You might become anxious when you being compared, inspite they are better and you might become unhappy when you are being compared lesser that someone. So in any case you are unhappy when compared.

78. Can a person’s mentality cure itself?

To be honest, yes! Make your mind peaceful and try to do some meditation that you can. Once you make your mind peaceful and realized, then your mind becomes less emotional, expects no expectations and does not react to things that are unwanted.

79. Can I avoid negative thoughts after failure?

Keep your mind an empty space for those thoughts. You might feel think solving and developing it. Just don’t do things that do all. Also leaving blank on those thoughts when it comes, will take you to a point of time where these unwanted thoughts will wash away from the mind.

80. What to do when you feel empty inside?

Lets consider this into two sections, one is good when we have  loads of problems.  When there are so many issues and still feeling empty in the mind and still targeted in whatever you perform which is good. The other one is you might have so much of work and responsibilities to be done. But you might still feel the emptiness in the mind which is not good. The solution is to find the responsibility of the work when you have. This way you can blank the thoughts of empty feeling.

81. Can I follow meditation to deal with negative thoughts?

One of the best ways, the base of mediation is to target on mantra and get away from unwanted thoughts. This way you can keep your mind blank at a specific time. You can follow mediation to get rid of negative thoughts when its needed.

82. Tips for making life stress free

Remember to live for the moment, don’t consider the past. If you have issues to face in the future, think how to deal it. Jot down what has to be done. Just spend some time but with real efforts. Spend some time on positive visualizing and don’t consider the outcome. Target on all the moment.

83. Why am I losing respect for someone immediately?

If you consider the positives of a person and identify with whatever the negative has to be done, then the person immediately gets respect. If you think only about a person’s negative and don’t identify with it, then the person immediately loses respect.

84. Reasons for being emotionless

You will be emotionless swiftly if you are attracted to people. If you are not attracted then you will be with no emotions. There are people who live for themselves can be  less emotional. The people who follow spirituality can also be with no emotions. Be ethical, do your duties and be emotionless by practicing breathing exercises and meditate regularly.

85. How to express my worthiness?

You need not express it. If your own consciences quench its thirst, then that’s totally fine. As you have done something very worthy and also you want others to appreciate. Which leads you to have expectations.  When it fails to appreciate them you might get angry with the person. So don’t take it hard and do worthy things without any expectation.

86. Why people don’t enjoy their own company?

Humans are naturally emotionless and they will have to connect with people. Even if a person is so reserved or introvent will be allured to someone. They might not move with people but still they have some close friends. Person who does meditation can have control over their mind and they can stay without people around. You will be attracted to nature. So to a specific limit they enjoy their own company.

87. Why is life so hard for some people?

Believe in Karma. Struggles happen in all relations with the previous birth karma.  That’s the reason why some excellent souls struggle but remember to be calm and cool. Your debts will be cleared soon.

88. Does hard work have results?

Try to plan the priorities and also work smart and hard to get excellent results. Also try to do meditation to keep your mind peaceful and stress free.

89. Can my mind read by a psychologist?

Yes, they know lots of techniques to read a person’s mind. They must be calm and relaxed to do this. Also, if you are also a person who is calm and relaxed, you can also read a person’s mind easily.

90. How to keep myself contented in the noons?

Your mind needs rest for sure. Once this is achieved, your mind will be calm and active. Meditation will give you the rest needed. Do meditation a couple of hours after the lunch for just 15 minutes. Your mind will be super active after that.

91. Is it essential to have someone when you succeed or fail?

You might have seen people approaching you, when you are successful. Which is a positive aspect? So if you are emotional and weak minded it’s better to have people near you when you face failure. But when you are mute to success, be calm and cool when facing failure. You will never expect people to be around you.

92. How to control our anger?

Remember about good things that a person or a thing has done to you. It takes only the positive vibe. Highlight with people or situation about what had put them to do this. In any situation, it can happen. The mindset will lessen the anger for sure.

93. The motivation to be successful or failure

Success will be only motivated, where there is no negative intention as you just want to lead a successful way. To avoid failure, you must consider the negativity and the ways to omit it.

94. I envy fancy life of others? What should I do?

If that is the case, then remember you are seeing only their positive sides. Most of us don’t see the negative side of people like when they have sorrow or in a depressed state. Try to be happy with what you have.

95. Feelings and thoughts – Can we have thoughts without feelings?

You might have planned for something when thinking to do something. When it comes out to be successful you might have cherished it a lot and when it becomes failure you become depressed. I have also spoken about this on my Quora posts.

96. Getting out of depression when there is nothing negative in my life

Always stay on the present state and focus on that. Mute your thoughts when your thoughts are about past, future and negative. If you feel like developing and solving it never do it. Try to do a couple of breathing exercise to calm down your mind.

97. Happiness is a comparative term?

It’s not a comparative term; it totally varies with people as everyone’s nature is not the same. Since people’s contentment levels and metabolism are not the same. So does the happiness, it cannot be compared.

98. The difference between sadness and solitude

There are people who love to be alone or in a state of solitude, they are so strong mentally. There are people who feel bored in the state of solitude and alone and get into sadness. Solitude can be both.

99. The benefit of positive thinking

You can reach heights spending time on visualizing positively. Whatever you want to attain just imagine as if it has happened before and it must be a hundred percent. It must be real like it’s happening for real.

100. Depression and overthinking are related?

Yes, they are if a situation is 90 percent positive and ten percent negative. You might take it as positive and might think again about it.  And overthinking means, scanning through the ten percent negative parts. So if overthinking happens, you feel depressed.

101. Can my mentality cure myself?

Yes for sure, try to calm your mind and start following meditation religiously. Once you can control your mind, then it will become less emotional, without non – reactive and expectations to unwanted things.

102. How to stop negative thought after failure?

Try to mute mind and thoughts, you might feel like developing or solving it. Just don’t do all that leave blank on those thoughts when it comes constantly which will lead to a point of time where these unwanted thoughts might fade away your mind.

103. What is emotionless feeling?

If you are attached to people, then you might be emotionless. If you are not, then you are a person without emotions. People who live themselves can be less emotional while on the other hand people who are spiritual are the ones with fewer emotions.

104. How to express myself worthy?

You don’t have to show it actually. If you are satisfied then that fine. As you have done something that is really worthy and you seek attention of others, this might lead to expectations. Do worthy things and don’t expect returns.

105. I don’t have feelings, is it bad?

No, it actually leads a way to spirituality, as we have sorrows and expectations associated, emotionless makes it unassociated. But remember to have a nice hear if you are emotionless if there is any situation arises.

106. I forgot the things which I have to do in a little time. What is the reason behind this? How can I overcome this problem?

Sometimes it’s due to anxiety… it will develop a fear in you that “i will forget it “ “ I will forget it” .… the more you think about the anxiety of “ I will forget “ I will forget” can make it happen really…when this kind of anxious thoughts come, just blank those don’t develop it…

So when you want to remember something , tell your brain to remember that… your brain can work even like an alarm once its practised… consciously tell your brain to remember a particular information at a particular time … definitely it will happen… make your brain to inform you some particular information at a particular time every day , it will make it happen absolutely… only thing you should have a mind focused to be in the present then you can ask why it’s not being used often … Whenever it reminds us at a particular time , we dont implement it due to laziness or the activity becomes lesser importance … then it takes that into mind and makes it regular… this is the way we lose way in achieving goals…

Another way to overcome this problem is to write down immediately whatever comes to your mind … it’s a master sheet… put priority 1 , 2, 3 like … then accordingly every day select from that and implement it… every day if you do this , then it becomes a habit .. you will never have a chance of forgetting things.

106. Why does my mind think unnecessary things? And how to get over?

Our minds are designed to go into unwanted thoughts by default. You don’t have to take an effort to get these unwanted thoughts. But remember to take an effort to make positive thoughts. Mind is egoistic and proud by nature. When we think about us, it takes both accusation and appreciation.

107. How to be peaceful?

Try to control your emotions and be without expectations, be non – reactive and accept things as If it is happening for a good cause, then you will be the most stress-free person. Also remember not to take things just like that.  You can also try breathing exercise like as pranayama which can calm your body and mind. Once it becomes calm then you can get into realization.

108. How to train your mind to stay unaffected from negative stimulus?

If you wish to control emotions, be without expectation, don’t react and to accept things as if it happening for good, then you can be unaffected also don’t be just like that try meditation to calm down your mind and body.

109. Can I expect miracles? Are they true?

Expectation miracles makes you depressed and lazy. Be ambitious, plan and do it consistent, disciplined. Success will be near you. Miracle will also happen. If you don’t work perfectly this can never happen at an expected time. It just makes you depressed and lose cream of your life.

110. How to differentiate emotional and rational mind?

Emotional mind usually goes into the facts but when it weighs more than the facts, then it might go with emotions. Usually it might land in trouble. Rational mind goes into facts and win the situations and it depends on the person, situation of emotions. For instance, if you want to sign a big deal but you face a kind of hurdle in the middle, here you have to make use of the rational mind.  The karma will act here and will reward you.

111. What causes conflict in your mind?

The two things that causes conflict in your mind is negativity and negative thoughts, this happens in the mind by default. When its depressed and weak these thoughts can get in. When your mind is confused and calm these thoughts will enter easily challenging the positive outlook.112Can I be free from psychological fear?

Always visualize like you are playing well against them in any circumstances. Then take it slowly as if you have taken the first step. When you have psychological fear try to free your mind with no thoughts. This will lead to a point of time where all these thoughts will go away from your mind.

112. Can emotions bring out the best in me?

Love, humbleness and selflessness brings out the best in you. You might follow such character if they inspire you. As this is an excellent attitude and mindset you must have. When you are surrounded with such people, then you will also be forced to be the same.

113. I consider things near me are not proper. How to find peace in such circumstances?

First you must make yourself proper then things will be perfect. If we find something or someone is disturbing you, then at any time they can do all kinds of stuff to disturb us. So, the control must be in your hand. So be non – reactive to specific unwanted things.  If someone is passing on some comments unwantedly, try to be non – reactive. If you are reacting to it then they can make you react.  Accept it if its true and find a way to overcome it.

114. Suggest advice on mental peace

I always suggest people to be calm and meditate. Be it present. Blank the unwanted thoughts whenever it comes. Meditation can help you to be calm and relaxed. It also gives you mental peace. Follow meditation regularly for at least 30 minutes a day and you will feel the difference.

115. Do you really think you control your own thoughts and feelings? If yes, how do you know that anything you think is actually your own thought?

Whether it is good or bad and whether it is distracted or not distracted, thoughts come due to your perception and your control on it…

Thoughts can be bad when you have negative mindset… it can be good when you have positive mindset … it can be distracted when you lose focus and not in the present…it can be anger based when you are reactive… it can be an irritated one when you are confused… it can be an empathizing and non reactive one when your mind is calm … it can be even a suicidal one when your mind is very depressed…

So it’s all your own thoughts and depends on how you keep your mind.. An open platform for spiritual and self-realization discussions..its all about mind..

116. Why do you care about society if society doesn’t care about you?

It’s all mutual… if you start caring about the society then it will start caring about you… need not have to be emotional… come out of emotions and be practical… first understand the fact that you have to be mutual , vocal and a sensible person to be noticed by the society… even parents love towards their children can remain, if you are mutual to a little bit extent atleast… they can compromise for you to a greater extent…. Still if you are troubling them in a big way, they may also try to keep a distance … they will prefer the children who are mutual and not troublesome … so you have to be vocal , should be noticed to make society bother about you…

Even if you are being cheated or not being selected on meritorial grounds , do not blame the society… accept and move on… there are various opportunities awaiting for you on merit somewhere… if your efforts are good , genuine then somewhere surprisingly you will get the reward… accept and move on…. Do your duties to the society without expectations and definitely you will be rewarded at some point of time …

117. I just ran over a rat while driving and I can’t stop thinking. What should I do to remove this from my mind?

Obviously it was accidental and without intentions… you don’t have to feel guilty as it is that rat’s fate to die ….

To remove these thoughts you have to blank these thoughts whenever it comes to your mind… you feel like developing or justifying it… simply dont do that…consecutively blanking it whenever it comes will lead to a point of time , where these thoughts will fade away it’s all about mind… meditation helps you to blank the unnecessary thoughts easily.

118. Why mind is having double standards?

You can advise someone being good and follow good … most of the people act bad due to their situations and circumstances… but you are good as long as you dont meet the situation… if you meet the situation and still if you are found to be good , then you can pitch in for an advice…. So as long as they meet the situation they certify themselves as good and advise others…

Another reason in having double standards is the justification.. any human’s greatest love is themselves… they love themselves the most..

if others do anything, they find fault in that… but if that similar situation comes to them and if they are unable to overcome it due to certain sensory things , then they go to a big extent to justify it… they will go to any extent to justify what they did is right to satisfy ego and not to have guilt .. this I’d the major reason people are into double standards

119. Why do we have much more empathy for ourselves than that for others?

Because we love ourselves the most… when I love myself the most ,it blinds me .. take any person whom you like so much whether it’s a celebrity or a sports personality, you go to any extent to support, defend them… when you like a person, whatever he does it looks right for you… this is the nature of human beings … same way since I love myself the most , I will go to any extent to justify my mistakes…I will emphathise with whatever i do irrespective of whether it’s right or wrong……

120. How do I get used to good habits?

Anything forcibly make it and start doing it … doing it regularly at a particular time or during the course of the day will become a discipline … do it consecutively, consistently for a month can make your body , mind get used to that … at any cost except for some emergencies doing it regularly will make your mind work like an alarm to implement that activity…

For example excercising, meditation, avoiding excessive usage of mobile phones , studying , going to sleep in right time …

Even bad habits can be avoided by forcibly making it regular… for example smoking, drinking alchohol etc… forgetting a person which can bring positive to you , can also be possible if you move away from them .. out of sight becomes out of mind… mind gets used to anything if it becomes a regular practice ..

121. How do I get over the fear of the future and overcome unnecessary anxiety and tension?

Be in the present… if you plan something to be achieved, write down total master plan with schedule, priority of related activities… everyday from that plan you do whatever that is planned for that particular day….see that atleast its attempted… now start focussing only in the activity slated for that moment or day.. whenever anxious thoughts relate to your future comes , just blank those thoughts… you feel like developing or justifying it … dont do all that… blanking it whenever it comes will lead to a point of time where these thoughts will fade away from your mind… keep your mind calm realised by practicing meditation regularly…

Develop the attitude of acceptance… anything put in your efforts genuinely and mostly you shall get it.. if you are not getting it , then accept it.. acceptance gives instant relief… face any issue as and when it comes… now if you think about that it will look big and you get anxiety… focus in the present and when the date arrives to face that issue you are scared , it will look nothing… you will feel so silly about why you wasted all these days thinking about it . ..never get immersed in the past glories as it will affect the present and future… past will feel good most of the time as the results are known already…

122. Some of my friends are going abroad, and they are uploading pics on FB. I’m feeling depressed and jealous due to inferiority complex because I want to be like them. I don’t have the money. What should I do to get rid of it?

Mind always wants what its deprived of… mind wants what it doesn’t have or what it’s not able to , irrespective of whether its required or not…working abroad or going abroad is another happening for people…. They will get bored after sometime and they feel like coming back home … infact after some time looking at the cultural / town / village life here they feel like coming and being here… they envy our life and once they come here , they will post the pictures of being here very proudly … if they are unable to come here , they will envy whoever is posting such pictures ..

So it’s always greener on the other side….you have to realise this and act accordingly… if it is required or really needed put in your efforts to get it… if it’s not required leave it… just for the sake of others having it , dont go for it… if you succumb to others actions , then its like they are only leading your life…

123. Why can’t humans stop comparing themselves to others?

By nature humans want to be on safer side… if a student get some lower marks, immediately he check whether someone’s mark is lower or equal to his … if its lower or in the same range then he is ok with it… even a working person gets some salary , he immediately compares it with someone… if he is in the same range or lower than , then he is ok with it …but when he goes to the lowest level in comparison with others, gets panicked… certain people who are strong in.mind they work on that and come out of it successfully.. some people who are weak in.mind become depressed and never come out of it…

Most of the people wants to lead a normal ordinary life .. very few ones want to be on top or to be the odd one out….f they are in equal comparison with others then they feel the life is ok… for this reason alone they need comparison very badly …this is the reason most of the humans cant be without comparing with others

124. How should one avoid jealousy, especially with neighbours?

Jealousy is a kind of insecurity in which you always feel the other person would be given more importance than you … the more you think about it , it happens… you get tensed , stressed, irritated and shout with others… this is not only a concern with neighbours and it’s even with relatives , colleagues etc…

How to get over it..

Firmly think that all are equal and infact it’s TRUE 100 percent…. treat every one equally so that you will also be treated equally.,.. its karma based … firmly believe it’s been you and god ..firmly believe in all are equally talented and god gives you the opportunity to make it happen for your achievement…. this makes you humble .. don’t take it to your head ..when a winning or favourable situation happens don’t get excited and celebrate it.. .. be mute .. dedicate the positive situation to the almighty… so that you will be quiet when a negative situation happens…

according to the almighty success is not about making money , having power , popularity… humans only created success level in terms of gaining money , power, popularity etc… according to the almighty success is about the genuine efforts you are taking , how ethical you are to various situations and the service you are doing to others..

If you develop all these attitudes , jealousy will run away from you…

125. Have you wanted to have no emotions?

By nature humans have emotions.. life won… life won’t be interesting without emotions… but see that the emotions are not affecting you or not putting you down.. how to have controllable emotions… practise meditation and breathing based pranayamas to keep your body, mind in a calm state .. once the body , mind in calm state then you can have controllable emotions.

126. Is 40 years of age too late to begin a sorting life out?

If Life can be started at any age … it’s all mind only .. it’s not the age or physique counts . May be age and physique will have some impact after 75 years naturally.. till then with a calm mind which is of no expectations, emotions , non reactive and acceptance nature , the life can be amazing… infact after 40 you have the advantage of maturity, experience to achieve anything easily.

127.What is a no-nonsense attitude? How do you develop one?

No nonsense attitude is developing a calm mind with no expectations, controllable emotions, non reacting and acceptance nature … if you are able to develop this then you will be the happiest person..

You can get this mind only by practising meditation and breathing based pranayamas regularly.. meditation do it twice a day.

128. A man is only as good as his word. How true is this?

I believe it is a golden rule. If a man can’t be trusted to do what he says he can do or will do then he isn’t worth much to me. It’s really a matter of perspective though. I have friends that never carry out what they say they will do but they will come get you if you’re broke down and help you out of a bind every time but if you expect them to show up to help paint your house like they said they would.. It isn’t happening… they will say that they are going to help but never show. I still count them as friends. So I am flexible on that saying.

129. How do I cope up by getting hurt again and again just because I take things so personally from the people?

Because you are emotional, you have expectations , you react to unnecessary things , you have this problem..

Practise meditation and breathing based pranayamas so that your mind becomes realised , calm .. now create a mind without expectations, without much emotions , of non reactive nature.. with this you can solve and be happy.

130. What are some mind-changing concepts or facts?

Too much of emotions, positive or negative vibes, the mindset of people surrounding you , having expectations, immediate but temporary pleasures, impatience to wait for a permanent solution, having too much anger , physical fitness and of course food , these all play a crucial role in influencing your mind…

131. What are some of the best ways to quit the habit of over-analysing people?

First of all everyone’s nature is different and due to so many factors it happens… genetically, biologically, the nature of people surrounded, situation, circumstances these all play the major part in determining one’s character.. with this obviously you cannot expect what you expect from people…

So study someone to a minimum even to medium extent since it helps to take certain decisions and analyzing too much is a criminal waste… it kills your precious time.. by way of ethical tell them what you expect from them and if its happening, it’s ok… if it’s not happening ACCEPT, EMPHATHISE them with their nature..

Accept as if its happening for good

132. When everything is okay, I still suddenly feel demotivated or depressed. Why does this happen?

This usually happens when you leave the mind to go it’s way… when you feel everything is ok, your mind starts thinking that some issue should be there to get disturbed… it searches searches searches and think about issues to be developed, worried… even some issues are solved , it can be still developed and worried… never think that you dont have issues and everything is ok… go with the motions, keep your mind calm through meditation , live in the present and blank the unnecessary thoughts whenever it comes… consecutively leaving blank on unnecessary thoughts whenever it comes will lead to a point of time where these thoughts will fade away from your mind…

133. How do I control my mind?

You dont have to control forcibly… that’s the reason meditation is taught in a very relaxed way…. While thinking about a mantra during meditation if your mind goes to other thoughts, we teach them to let it go… but slowly you have to realise and comeback to mantra… we suggest not to forcibly think about mantra… mind is like a monkey and it jumps to so many thoughts… we teach them to let it go to other thoughts, realise and comeback to mantra… consistent practice of this mind excercise of meditation will help you to relax and over a period of time you will start being focused in mantra.. through this regular practice you will start focussing on certain things if you want to…

Herein you get the control of your mind… you will start being focused on certain things and can get away easily from unnecessary thoughts…

Also the technique of blanking the unnecessary thoughts can help you to focus on certain things.. according to this technique , you have to blank mind whenever you get unnecessary thoughts… consecutively leaving blank on those thoughts whenever it comes will lead to a point of time where these thoughts will fade away from your mind… meditation forms the basis for learning this technique easily…

These are the ways you can control your mind easily…

134. Are we responsible for the way we think or what we think?

Yes… sometimes we will have negative situations and it leads us to have negative thinking.. but there are situations where the almighty gives opportunities , realisation and people to think positively… some people take it positively and change… some people out of laziness , impatience ( lot ones want pleasures immediately)and inability to overcome instant pleasures are unable to take advantage out of it… you can call it’s their responsibility to know it’s good or bad… but still some people are going towards it , inspite of almighty gives an opportunity to know it’s bad… so you think negative, bad inspite of the realization you get…

From this clearly its shown that you are clearly responsible for the way you think and what you think..

135. Why did I lose my confidence in my studies (after I left my coaching institute)? I used to be the topper of my class and now I have left with merely a month for my exams. What should I do to bring my confidence and my concentration back?

The reason of coaching institute can be a psychological factor.. coaching institute is not a constant factor… type of coaching , tutors vary from place to place .. but not your mind which is a constant factor.. if you have the chance of joining again that institute is there , join… otherwise plan yourself… plan everyday how many chapters to study and set strictly some time for that ….don’t study throughout the day… give rest to mind for some time… listen to music and talk to your favourites friends for sometime…have some physical activity like walking , sports for sometime.. if you allot 6 hours for study in your plan, strictly study only for 6 hours … now whenever you get fearful , anxious thoughts about your exams or about your confidence levels, simply blank those thoughts… simply blanking these unnecessary negative thoughts whenever it comes, will lead to a point of time where these thoughts will fade away from your mind…

Spend some time everyday on visualizing as if you have done the exams well and coming out with flying colors.. now this will create sources , confidence, mind for you to study well…

Learn ,practice meditation regularly to get concentration and focus on what you do…

136. Can you write something that will make me believe in karma?

Karma is very simple and 100 percent true in this Principle “ if you do good , you shall face good .. do bad face bad…” but some question may arise .. even people doing good karma are facing bad karmas … it can be karmas of previous births according to some religions and of course there is some validity in that … leave alone there is validity or invalidity… irrespective of good or bad karmas a good karma doing person face , he has to continue doing good karmas only.. if he gets dejected over facing bad karmas and start doing bad , then his bad karma account will have more credits… but if he continues doing good karmas , there is a chance that his bad karma account will get debited.. and more over for the good karmas , his future of facing good karmas are guaranteed..

but you can ask how a good karma doing person in the present has to face the bad karmas which relates to his previous birth without getting affected emotionally.. here the Spiritual excercises help to overcome this… meditation, pranayamas help you to keep your body mind calm and accept when these kind of things happen… you will accept , be calm irrespective of anything and continue doing good things.

137. What are some priceless aspects of life ignored by most people?

Simple thing what we usually have ignorance is that our minds are so blissful, calm in the mornings after a good sleep… so when the mind is given much needed rest its becoming calm and blissful… when the mind is calm, the mind has great creativity and clarity and even going into realization of so many things.. so the same way how to make your mind calm in larger part of the day… give rest to the mind at regular intervals… meditation is the best way to give rest to the mind… at regular intervals if you do meditation, mind becomes calm , creative and has lot of clarity in whatever we decide and do…

Ultimately your life becomes calm and amazing throughout irrespective of anything.

138. What are the signs of a weak minded person and a strong minded person?

Strong minded person will be able to control emotions and keep calm… he will be non reactive to unnecessary things and will not have much expectations..they will accept things as if its happening for good…

the following is a myth

People think that those who are very ethical , perfect, having excellent character, having tendencies to help others are very strong minded ..
Same way the people who are doing bad things , having bad characters , wrong attitudes , negativity are all weak minded …

mind strength relates to only controlling the emotions , being non reactive to unnecessary things, not having expectations.. ethical good people can still be affected if they dont possess the above mind strength characters
Same way a bad character person having the above mentioned mind strength characters will never be affected .. he will be a strong minded personality except for having to face karma related issues …

139. How important is the mindset in achieving success?

Creating the mindset is the most important aspect to achieve success..its almost 99 percent reason for becoming a successful person..

First you need the right calm mind to know what’s your real purpose , ambition… this you get only when your mind is calm… once its finalized then you need a calm mind to have clarity and creativity about your proposal … then you need the right mind to write down the planning with priority of the proposal to achieve… then comes very important one… the implementation… lot of people fail at this… negativity, confusion comes here… here you have a very big calm realised mind with courage and real drive to go for the implementation… then discipline comes… again you need a very calm consistent mindset to follow the discipline…

If all these done then 100 percent you are SUCCESSFUL

look at the process above .. throughout it requires the right calm mindset…

140. How important is the mindset in achieving success?

Creating the mindset is the most important aspect to achieve success..its almost 99 percent reason for becoming a successful person..

First you need the right calm mind to know what’s your real purpose , ambition… this you get only when your mind is calm… once its finalized then you need a calm mind to have clarity and creativity about your proposal … then you need the right mind to write down the planning with priority of the proposal to achieve… then comes very important one… the implementation… lot of people fail at this… negativity, confusion comes here… here you have a very big calm realised mind with courage and real drive to go for the implementation… then discipline comes… again you need a very calm consistent mindset to follow the discipline…

If all these done then 100 percent you are SUCCESSFUL

look at the process above .. throughout it requires the right calm mindset…

141. How can I stay calm when someone scolds or blames me?

This is the best case to learn how to be non reactive to unnecessary things… if you react to this, then they have a control on you.. they can say anything to make you stressed and react…

Create a good connect between you and the almighty as if he knows the truth and he is watching everything… .. if the person’s blame is right and ethical , you will try to correct it.. if it’s wrong then you dont have to bother as karma theory will take care of his actions…

Reacting to others comments is like throwing stone on a dirty water…. It will splash on you only…

Again sometimes even if others blame is true too instead of taking corrective measures, you will get affected emotionally.. do meditation and breathing based pranayamas regularly to control your emotions.. practice of meditation and breathing based pranayamas makes you calm , non reactive to unnecessary things…

142. What are some differences between rich people’s mindsets and poor people’s mindsets?

Most of the rich ( in terms of money only) people think that it’s their luck , talent and destiny have made them rich…they think that others are not destined and talented… they become arrogant through the respect they get in the society… They think that they can buy health, happiness , popularity, power through money… but health and happiness which are the most important aspects of life cannot be bought through money…though they realise that they have to face the other half of the circle , they are unable to accept it when it comes to reality… they cannot bear the other half of the circle coming up that too in terms of money … they are so anxious about retaining the status , develops a fear and stressed.. sometimes they lose the status out of fear…. Though they have money , power their mind thinks about what they don’t have which is likely to be happiness , health

Most of the poor people long for money which they dont have … they think that only money can buy happiness , though they get good affection , love…. they think that they are unlucky and destined to be poor.. they are depressed over this… because of this their status declines more… they never count on what they have and they want only money…they think that money can buy everything…..most of them have very lower confidence levels…though they are healthy due to the physical strain they undergo , do not give value to the fact that they are healthy….positive aspect is that they have the drive somehow to come up…

143. How do I change someone’s views and attitude toward me?

Whatever you do andif if it’s wrong,.then definitely others view would be negative… here you have to change yourself… go into realization , make your mind calm by doing meditation regularly… once you are into realization with a calm mind then you can change yourself… after this others view towards you will change… if it’s not changing too dont bother about it.. because when you are ethical, doing good things most of them will be good towards you. But still some people has not changed their view , then its their mistake . Once you are good , ethical you dont have to bother about others views.. because its everyone’s nature and the way they look at things differs … if you change according to others views then its them leading your life and not you.. eachone’s situations and circumstances make them to look at a particular oblect/situation/ person in various dimensions.. live according to your views subject to it’s being ethical.

144. How do I change someone’s views and attitude toward me?

Whatever you do andif if it’s wrong,.then definitely others view would be negative… here you have to change yourself… go into realization , make your mind calm by doing meditation regularly… once you are into realization with a calm mind then you can change yourself… after this others view towards you will change… if it’s not changing too dont bother about it.. because when you are ethical, doing good things most of them will be good towards you. But still some people has not changed their view , then its their mistake . Once you are good , ethical you dont have to bother about others views.. because its everyone’s nature and the way they look at things differs … if you change according to others views then its them leading your life and not you.. eachone’s situations and circumstances make them to look at a particular oblect/situation/ person in various dimensions.. live according to your views subject to it’s being ethical.

145. Is worry/anxiety a just thought of mind or is it a deep feeling of heart?

Anxiety is the base for worries…

There are two anxiety based worries.. one is about your future or about any issues which gets formed out of your negative thoughts , emotions , expectations, which can be a deep feeling of your heart…and this takes some time to get formed…this happens with people who have negativity, weak.minded and of high emotions

The second anxiety happens with both people of positivity/ negativity and strong minded / weak minded.. this happens instantly… for example a freak accident happens or suddenly some one close to you becoming critical.. here both the positive/negative, strong minded/weak minded guy can become anxious and will turn into worries … here it’s just a thought of mind.

146. Why do children refuse to listen to their parents’ advice?

Children listen to others but not listening to parents these are the reasons mostly
1. Close proximity and they know what parents are doing each and every moment…. so you may not be able to be 100 percent perfect…. so when you say to be perfect they will not , because they see you being imperfect in some situations which is natural..

2. Easy availability…they will not be excited with you… but you go out of country and come back after a month , then they will be excited to see you… whereas others they are seeing very rarely … so it looks exciting when they see them… but when they come to live with them throughout then they too look boring…

3. And third emotions… you are closely associated with them and emotionally they take advantage of you…. you are emotionally attached to them so you can’t be strict with them…. when children say emotionally something inspite of it’s being wrong parents do that… fail to say NO leads to lot of complications over a period… later on they use this emotional black mail to have their things done … it’s natural that when you are so emotionally close that there will be arguments , expectations, possessiveness ,which leads to being not listening to you , not behaving with you properly

But overall children should get into realization that parents are the best well wishers and start listening to them..

147. How can I see and feel positivity in every little thing?

Develop the attitude of ACCEPTANCE… put in your efforts to make things happen your way.. ..most of the time it happens .. if it’s not happening , accept as if its happening for good…. Same way you want your favourite person/ team to win… have your wish… it happens… if it’s not happening accept as if its happening for good.

If you have this attitude , then you would start seeing positivity in everything.

148. How do doctors remain calm when something unexpected happens?

Acceptance is the best one to make you calm when something unexpected happens… we always want things to happen our way… if it’s not happening then we go in to kind of depression or upset… put in your efforts genuinely to make things happen your way … still if it’s not happening then ACCEPT it … acceptance gives the much needed instant relief…accept as if its happening for good and of course it is… when you see ultimately after some time, you feel as if it had happened for good… because we are used to the new unexpected situation and after sometime we feel the new unexpected situation is better than before …

149. How can I eliminate fear from my mind completely?

Logically speaking it can be overcome by developing confidence, knowledge, courage, rigorous practice which leads to experience and discipline…

Spiritually speaking meditation can help overcome this fear as it gives you a good realization not to get fear…consistent practice of meditation can help you to implement the technique of blanking these fear, unnecessary thoughts… consistently blanking whenever these thoughts come , can lead to a point of time where these thoughts will fade away from your mind…..

150. How do thoughts affect or change our lives?

100 percent thoughts change our lives… life is very simple …situations are simple…. Emotions are simple… we are only making it complicated by making it big or by being reactive… when you have your body – mind calm , the emotions being realised, controlled… with this every thing will look simple , easy to take it.. now after body- mind is calm it’s very easy to empathize with people for their minuses… you will start looking at them positively and your thoughts too become very positive… now with this mindset you will start looking positive even at a negative situation… you will start learning from that… when you have positive thoughts, you will befriended by positive people and the vibrations of positive thoughts makes it for you…

Even thoughts of visualizing whatever you want to become, would make you become like that… practice this every day for 5 to 10 miniutes of visualizing thought of whatever you want to become… you have to visualize as if you have become like that…it will create the sources and opportunities for you to achieve the goal…

Even surprisingly a person who hates you, can turn your way , if you start a thought of visualizing good about him … start visualizing good things he has done to you… send positive vibrations to him… visualize as if he is becoming close to you every day… definitely it will start happening through law of attraction… but these things will work out only for positive, good intentions

So thoughts have the ultimate say in our lives… think good … you become good… think bad … you become bad…

151. What are the phrases to calm yourself in tough situations?

Be in the present… you will get negative depressed and thoughts related to this… blank those thoughts whenever it comes… consecutively blanking it will lead to a point of time where these thoughts will fade away from your mind… do meditation and get a calm mind… when you have calm mind , think about certain strategies, ways to handle this tough situation… write down and implement that…

acceptance is the immediate way to come out of any problems, stress… accept this situation and think as if everything is happening for good… later on you will realise that it has happened for good and you will learn a lot from these situations..

Do meditation regularly and keep your mind calm … it makes your mind body calm… life , situations, emotions will all look simple when your mind is calm…

152. How can I discipline my mind?

A calm realised mind can easily become a very disciplined mind… once you get in to realization through a calm mind , you will start being ethical in everything and you would start believing 100 percent in karma theory… so you will think twice to do a wrong karma as you will get back that effect… you will start doing your duties without expectations… you will have absolute belief in almighty .. these will all lead you to have a disciplined mind…

To get the calm realised mind practice meditation regularly…

153. Why is our mind “the greatest asset”?

It’s mind mind mind only…. The whole life is based on your mind… if you visualise positive things , then you become like that … if you talk positively, then your confidence is increasing… if you move with positive people, you will be among positive developments…what you think what you become … the challenge is there will be so many negative situations and people around… to overcome this you need to have a calm mind which is inclined to positive things .. it’s completely mind… if your mind thinks you are strong , then you are strong… if your mind think you are weak, then you are weak… if you visualise like you want to become an entrepreneur then your brain starts working becoming an entrepreneur….all this is possible only if the mind is calm…

The best way to keep your mind calm is to practise meditation and breathing based pranayamas… it will keep your mind calm and strong. You will become unemotional…When your mind is calm, you will feel worthless to react or think most of the things and you will become calm and stress free… whenever these depressed or negative thoughts come, keep your mind blank and don’t develop. Consecutively leaving mind blank whenever these negative thoughts come , will lead to these thoughts fade away from your mind…

154. Every day so many thoughts come in my mind that I can’t think about them patiently and these thoughts (about my inferiority) come anytime and they start bothering me. I can’t enjoy life and I’m distracted from the work I was doing. What should I do?

These thoughts are unwanted unnecessary thoughts… you have to be focused in the present for this…

You will have to blank these kind of thoughts.. you feel like developing it or solving it.. simply don’t do that… just blank your mind on these thoughts whenever it comes… consecutively blanking it whenever it comes will lead to a point of time where these thoughts will fade away from your mind…this is the way you can control your mind and get away from unwanted thoughts

155. Why do too many health-conscious people get more health issues?

Too much of thinking, bothering and conscious about anything will develop a fear , anxiety about whether we would get that…. fear leads to a kind of negative thought that whether the expected things will happen perfectly .. then the negative thought will lead to a negative happening only.,..so if you want to be healthy , plan the food , excercises in a disciplined manner and do it regularly.. don’t think about the end result.. if you are disciplined with your plan , automatically it will happen.. you don’t have to be conscious about that always ..probably you can spend some time on visualising positively about your health as if everything is perfect.. this will keep your health always in a positive manner … so other rest of the time you don’t have to think about that ..

156. How do we control our minds from doing bad habits?

First the realization should come … then we can have the willpower to implement that…usually people take alcohol to get some intoxication to forget something or to talk openly about something… but once the effect comes down , then it affects your body … you will have indigestion or you will not have proper sleep. .. they want the mind to be calm by taking alchohol… by doing regular meditation practices you can get calm mind… by consistent practice of meditation you can have calm mind throughout… it’s like having alcohol for ever… another advantage of having calm mind is that you will have lot of realization to get into positive mode..

Once you get the realization then it’s relatively easier for you to overcome bad habits… I wanted to stop non vegetarian foods… I got in to a realization that why should I enjoy eating by killing some thing or by inducing some pain to a living being… I believe in karma theory strongly… so when you are part of some living being getting pain , then you too face that pain… so I realized and decided to stop… any thing you can’t all of a sudden … usually I have it twice in a week.. then I made it once in a week … then once in 15 days … then once in a month… then.once in 3 months… now my body is used to a new food system where non.vegetarian is a very rare part .. adding to a strong realization I totally stopped now… any bad habit you can gradually reduce the frequency and your body gets used to that… now totally you can be out of that bad habit totally..

157. How can someone control over being influenced?

When you are not attached to emotions, you can not be influenced… still you will be ethical , be loving , doing your duties and will not be rigid… if it’s right you will accept it and if it’s wrong you will not… this is irrespective of anything, anybody which you feel you are closer..

Meditation and breathing based pranayamas helps you to control emotions , when you have to… it keeps your body, mind calm and realises to overcome unnecessary emotions..

When you have a calm, realised mind you can never be influenced… do meditation and pranayamas consistently…

158. I have accepted all my flaws and imperfections but still I have been feeling depressed when I thinking about what others say about my flaws. How do I overcome this?

Though you have accepted your mistakes , you have not accepted others comments…you are still bothered about others comments, which will never make your kind peaceful.. irrespective of you do good or bad there are certain people will have their own comments… if you are bothering about that then you will start living according to their convenient actions… this is all about failure to control emotions… consistent practice of meditation and breathing based pranayamas will make you to control emotions, have acceptance and be non reactive to unnecessary things… meditation even helps you to be focused in the present and blank these kind of unnecessary thoughts…

159. What made us stop thinking about wrong things?

One thing is when you have a calm realised mind , you would definitely stop thinking about doing wrong ….because you get in to realization…

During realization another theory you will start having great belief into is KARMA… when you have calm mind with the consistent practice of meditation , you will be able to relate to karma theory with the activities you do.. do good .. face good.. do bad … face bad… this you will start believing in 100 percent… obviously you stop doing wrong things

160. How can I improve my presence of mind?

Presence of mind will be excellent when you are focused completely in the activities what you do… focus is nothing but concentrating on the present…

Concentration/ focus/ presence of mind is the one we have to learn through meditation and pranayamas too help… meditation helps you to be focused.. the base of meditation is to focus on mantra , divine light and get away from unnecessary thoughts… consistent practice of meditation helps you to concenrate on studies or any activity easily…

whereas breathing based pranayamas help you to calm your breathing whenever its required.. breathing can reduce the anger as your thoughts are diverted to negative situations and it leads to uneasiness in breathing.. now consciously you can calm your breathing to bring back the concentration where you want to , thus improving the presence of mind

161. What’s the most misunderstood thing about discipline?

Some thing you practice very consistently becomes a discipline… and you become even confident over that.. any one does a planning by writing down and simply attempting/ following it becomes a successful person most of the times..

Subject to, the activity has to be ethical and for the betterment for the person/ society… because practicing a bad activity consistently too become a discipline…

At some situations even the discipline has to be flexible… if it requires emotions and certain deviations from discipline , then it has to be compromised to fulfill the priority…..mostly discipline require rational mind… sometimes it requires even emotional mind to be a human… you cannot be rigid on a discipline sometimes to become inhuman…

So discipline is 90 percent practice, consistency subject to ethics, humanness

162. How does a person discipline his/her life?

To bring discipline into life planning is required… write down your personal / official activities to be done on a master sheet… whatever comes to your mind which is important/ dutiful has to be written down on a master sheet … for example if has 100 activities, take that particular days related activities with priority and do it .. or atleast attempt to it… you will become successful 100 percent.. you will become disciplined…

163. I have never met anyone who had a healthy parent and child relationship, is it possible?

You have not met… there are some parents- children relationships which are good because of their acceptance nature . Irrespective of however sweet you both to each other, there will be certain hardships, drawbacks … it’s a reality and if you both have attitude of acceptance then you have good relationship… parents have to embed this culture into their children… infact I will tell certain facts below for parents to realise and accept

Some parents first of all stop thinking about getting kids after marriage like task oriented… some people want it for society sake as if it’s a proof of their physical, ego skills… some people wants to have it because others have it.. kill this attitude totally… try having child whole heartedly as an offspring of you both and have wholesome , exciting interests in having a child for your sake… not for the society sake…
Though it’s your genetics , blood of yours dont try to own it too much .. dont think that it has emotions, feelings of you … the child has it’s own emotions, privacy, interests… dont think that child should have all your characters, features, attitudes… at a recently developed stage the child has it’s own way… your body was just a carrier , security of the child to this world… certainly the child will have the influence of you but not not to the extent you think .. give all your love but without expectations.. because at some point the child will be busy and will have little time for you… you have to accept this… at a stage even you gave little time for your parents… realise this and live accordingly… too much of ownership and expectations will make you upset..

164. How do I get over anxiety?

Anxiety is a negative attitude as you are not sure of the happening… it’s all about your mind…

If you want things to.happen your way, then.start visualizing positively about , what do you want to become/ get… it will create the sources and opportunities for you to achieve whatever you desire..

You put in your genuine efforts… if it’s not happening then ACCEPT it.. Acceptance is the best solution to overcome anxiety…

you are scared of some judgement which is going to be pronounced next sunday….your mind will be anxious to know whether it will happen your way…so till next sunday every moment, you will have anxiety, stress.. instead of being worried till that day ,start being focused in the present and face that issue on the day of happening… now you need not have to be anxious, stressed and when that particular day comes, most of the times it would be positive to you or will look very simple… even if it turns negative, that will look to you very simple…

Being focused in the present is another great solution to overcome anxiety…

165. What are the benefits of meditation? How do you meditate?

Meditation is not only about closing your eyes , mouth and it’s even about closing your thoughts.. create the necessary base for meditation to happen… it’s not about every day you will have effective meditation… sometimes it happens and sometimes will not… dont be result orientated immediately… irrespective of it’s boring and sometimes ineffective meditation , continue to do that as a discipline at any cost.. 100 percent you will start ruling it , there will be a good change in your attitude and people will see a good personality in you… and that will change your whole life . .. it’s also about giving much needed rest to the mind at regular intervals … after regular meditation practice you will have clarity in your thoughts of handling each issue.. it helps to be focused in what you do and helps you to blank the unnecessary thoughts…another great advantage is you get into realization of important issues and it will lead you to do things in right spirits

166. What are the 3 ways to be organized and not forget anything?

Consciously tell your mind that you have to do this without forgetting it today… most of the time it reminds you perfectly… if not , atleast next day it will remind you to do… make this as a regular practice and it leads to being you will never forget anything…making this a regular practice can make you be reminded of those things at exact time ….

Second one is

Not to forget anything in life , planning and writing down is required… write down your personal / official activities to be done on a master sheet… whatever comes to your mind which is important/ dutiful has to be written down on a master sheet … for example if has 100 activities, take that particular days related activities with priority and do it .. or atleast attempt to it… you will become successful 100 percent.. if this becomes a practice you will never forget anything..

167. What have you achieved with discipline?

Discipline with consistency will make your brain like alarm .. perfectly it will indicate you to do an activity at a particular time .. unless you decide to make a change consciously by means of improvement or something , it will go on indicating you…. regular practice through discipline makes you confident on that subject whatever…

discipline with planning will bring 100 percent success to you… write down your personal / official activities to be done on a master sheet… whatever comes to your mind which is important/ dutiful has to be written down on a master sheet … for example if has 100 activities, take that particular days related activities with priority and do it .. or atleast attempt to it… you will become successful 100 percent.. you will become disciplined…

These things I achieved

168. How do I get over my anxiety living in a new environment?

Visualize positively about the new place as if its happening good… accept this as the best place… if you are unable to accept this place , then you cant accept any place … mind is like that… even if you are given the best suitable place , mind will start finding the loopholes with this kind of mindset..

when you start accepting things you will overcome anxiety…think positive always .. even the negative happens accept it .. this will lead to your anxiety levels go away…

The best way to stay calm and anxiety free is to practise meditation and breathing based pranayamas… it will keep your mind calm and strong. You will become unemotional…When your mind is calm, you will feel worthless to react to unnecessary thoughts..

169. How can I stop obsessing over what others think of me?

People make a mess of their lives by thinking always that they are being watched and they think that as if others have interest on their lives… taking into this, they spoil their lives by living according to others expectations, comments .. sometimes they dont do even anything because of this phobia… even feel shy about going to a stage to speak , or about doing so many things …even a rich guy think twice about taking a bus, celebrity think about going to a small shop close by , taking a public transport or mingling with normal public…the reason is about what others think…
Reality is nobody is interested in you , no body bothers you most of the times , unless they have a connection or benefit to that… so come out of your shyness and do whatever you incline to… they watch you when you have a negative happening…because they have negative happening with them or they want you to turn negative.. not because they are interested in you , its because they dont want to be alone in that negative group… life is simple and you are 0.000000000001 times are needed , watched….if you are acting according to others thinking/comments , then its them leading your life…

Have all these realization and stop thinking about what others think….

170. Why are human minds much focused on unnecessary things rather than useful things?

You get unnecessary thoughts by default in mind… whereas an useful thought you have to take an effort to think about it.. unless you are conscious about your usefulness of time , value and ambitions, you will be flooded with these unnecessary thoughts and it will take you wherever it wants…greatest example is today’s social media…..once you open face book / whatsapp/ you tube/ Twitter, it tempts you to see so many videos and most of the time it connects you to unnecessary images / info / videos .. you will be lost after sometime and the worst part is that it changes , corrupts your mind with those informational influences….

be mindful of your value , time , ambition and it will lead to focussing only on useful things…..

171. Can the mind be quiet?

It cannot be quiet unless you take an effort to make it quiet… usually considering the present scenario in the world with fast technology , cultural changes and highest intelligence energy levels , it’s very very difficult to keep your mind quiet… materialistic levels and comfort levels are at the highest to pose a big challenge to the human existence with calmness… unless a disciplined Spiritual excercises are done consistently it’s very difficult to keep your mind quiet… kriyas / pranayamas keep your body calm and its setting the platform to do an effective meditation… if both are done consistently then it keeps your mind to realise and be ethical .. being ethical is very important… otherwise the effects of karma will spoil your calmness.. so it’s a chain of events … kriyas / pranayamas and meditation can keep your mind calm.. but some people after even doing this they act against realizations and face the respective karmas.. ultimate it’s back to square… so its important to maintain this chain … kriyas / pranayamas, meditation, realizations, good karmasl and ultimately leads to a beautiful calm quiet mind.

172. Why do some people stop themselves from achieving greatness?

Lot of people are good… they will be ethical .. but when it comes to a difficult situation, they will find it difficult to manage… if there is a short cut or an unethical way to solve or overcome the situation, then they take that way… they think compromising certain things once in a while , not a big sin… the reason being unable to take in big pain…

Moreover for achieving greatness the so called good people have to sacrifice lot of things… they have to take lot of responsibilities, do lot of hard work and very importantly have to sacrifice lot of materialistic, sensory pleasures … these things normal good people will hesitate to do… only people with greatest ambitions, goals , leadership skills will do this to achieve greatness…

173. How do you control your emotions and focus on your goal?

Make your body and mind calm, then obviously you will start feeling that becoming emotional is pointless…practise breathing based pranayamas like art of living’s kriyas regularly, then you realise that it’s senseless to become emotional… when your body and mind are calm then it’s very easy to control emotions and still it gives a realization to do your duties perfectly

Second one is you have to practice meditation regularly and you get focused on whatever you do.. because the base of meditation is to focus on mantra and get away from unnecessary thoughts.. consistent and constant practice of meditation helps you to get focused and it helps to achieve your goals.. because focus is the main mantra to achieve goals..

These are the two Spiritual excercises to control emotions and focus on achieving the goal

174. What are the biological and psychological causes of my shyness and how can I overcome it?

People make a mess of their lives because they always think that they are being watched by others and they think that as if others have interests on their lives… taking into this they spoil their lives by living according to others expectations, comments etc.. and they dont do even anything sometimes because of this… even going to a stage to speak , feeling shy about doing certain things , even the richest guy think twice about taking a bus, even a celebrity dont do going to a close by small shop , taking a public transport or mingling with normal public , because what others think…
Reality is nobody is interested in you , no body bothers you most of the times , unless they have a connection or benefit to that… so come out of your shyness and do whatever you incline to… they watch you when you have a negative happening, because they have negative happening with them or they want you to turn negative.. not because they are interested in you , because they dont want to be alone in that negative group… life is do simple and you are …………0000000000001 times are needed , watched

175. How can we reduce or eliminate our anxiety?

Visualise or think positively about the things what you want it to happen supported by your 100 percent genuine efforts.. if it’s not happening then ACCEPT it .. you need not have to be anxious about it .. if it’s not happening then almighty thinks that this is not the time for you and is planning better things.. attitude of developing ACCEPTANCE gives you the much needed instant relief from anxiety..

another attitude of being without expectations too helps you to be out of anxiety… Do your work in helping or showing affection perfectly but without expectations..

Keeping your body , mind calm helps to develop these attitudes of acceptance/ being without expectations easily , which are instrumental in overcoming anxiety.. meditation helps you to maintain your mind, body calm..

176. How do you keep yourself away from the stress/panic of coronavirus?

Spend 5 minutes of visualizing … sit in a calm place and start visualizing that Corona virus has left the universe like… visualize as if a television news reader announcing that Corona virus has left the world or corona virus cases considerably getting reduced… visualize as if the media announcing that all the corona viruses have been cured and vaccine been found to cure corona virus… visualize as if you are very healthy and energetic… now after all these visualizing open your eyes , you will feel energized and the fear would have gone by……

Meanwhile when you get these corona fear based thoughts just blank your mind on those thoughts …… you feel.like developing it or solving it.. dont do all that…consecutively leaving blank or ignoring these thoughts whenever it comes, will lead to a point of time where these thoughts will fade away from your mind… leaving blank you can do it easily if you have a practice of meditation regularly … because the base of meditation is to focus on the mantra and get away from unnecessary thoughts…..

Non practitioners of meditation please simply blank these thoughts whenever it comes…simply blanking it whenever it comes will lead to a point of time where these thoughts will fade away from your mind……

175. What’s one thing you could do forever, and never get bored of?

There are certain daytoday activities which comes by nature like sleeping , brushing , eating, bathing etc … these all you are doing it as a discipline and duty… you will never get bored since you are doing it as a duty ..but only minus is that it will not be interesting..

Anything if you are doing out of interest, excitement, passion ,it will not be boring… but anything even if its done out of interest , passion cannot be boring to certain level only… once it exceeds that level even passion will start boring only… it applies to even your close friendship,.relationship , passion everything ….life is a mixture of adjustments, realizations and act accordingly to survive happily.

176. How do I think positive after facing lots and lots of failures in life?

It is one of the most misunderstood words. We tend to confuse ‘set backs’ with ‘failures’. We all suffer from various set backs in our lives but we don’t actually fail until we give up.

Any situation or outcome is not actually a failure situation. Our reaction to that situation decides where we are failure or not.

For example one might apparently ‘fail’ in an examination in school. But that doesn’t classify as failure, it is just a set back. We need to analyze what we could have done to avert it, what we can do to avert it in future and continue our studies. The goal of school is not ‘just’ passing examinations but also learning. So if one continues to learn even after apparent failure in examination and eventually ‘passes’ the examination, we should not consider it as failure.

Remember : When you face a set back, don’t sit back. Get up and Bounce back.

Any situation is not good or bad, your response to that situation makes it good or bad.

We all have faced set backs while learning to walk, we fell, we got hurt and then again we tried to walk. Our response should be the same with any set back.

But sometimes we have to ‘give up’, our goals, our ambitions. What should we do then? We should, in such situations, learn to be ‘flexible’. Being flexible with ourselves, with our goals, our ambition will help us handle failures more efficiently. Use your experience in your future endeavours. Aim big again in a new domain, set new goals, have bigger ambitions. May be, although you worked hard, the goals you set earlier were not appropriate according to your nature.

So if you ever fail, admit it graciously, be flexible with your goals and embark on a new journey with new goals empowered with the past experiences.

Dont let a failure stop you from setting new goals or aiming new heights.

177.  Why am I never excited about anything nor curious about new things in life? I am not depressed, this is since birth.

This status is something like a Spiritual person searches and get.. you have it naturally… be cool with it… this mute status usually a Spiritual person advises others.. when you dont celebrate a positive situation or a winning occasion, obviously you are not excited… so this attitude helps you to remain cool when the negative situation happens.. in other way when you get excited , celebrate over a positive situation, obviously when the negative situation happens , mind will celebrate that too.. so it leads to depression… this is the natural theory.. this happens to you perfectly… since you are not excited over anything, you are not becoming depressed….

Perfectly you have a beautiful Spiritual attitude by nature.. so enjoy that… about the need to know new curious things, it’s not required really…most of the humans wants to gain knowledge to get appreciation and increase their commercial well being… actually speaking we have to know knowledge about certain things only , when we directly come into contact with it …or in other way when its required compulsorily… so you dont have to bother about that too…

178. Does overthinking about a person you love so much lead to negative, bad, and waste thoughts for that person? Will that negative , bad and waste thoughts is going to affect or happens to that person in realilty?

Mind always think positives and negatives of anything if you leave it to think naturally… because it is minds nature … so thinking about someone leads to positives and negatives of that person.. so obviously overthinking does not have stuff to think positives, since it finished thinking all the positives.. it will think negatives and the next step will be to develop those negatives Into mega ones ..

Now because of these huge negatives, you will start questioning , doubting that concerned persons activities.. though he is good generally, too much overthinking, research .intelligence of yours will analyse his every activity.. it leads to questioning and obviously start casting doubts.. so he will get irritated and strain develops… unless you change your attitude to rectify this , the relationship will get affected very badly… if they are good , have a strong mind they will not change and will never get affected by negative thoughts of others….but if their minds are not that strong , then sometimes out of irritation they even start doing that.. sometimes it is to have the vengeance on you or to satisfy their own ego…..

179. How do I beat social anxiety?

take precautionary measures if it’s going to affect you… follow what the government machinery says.. that’s it.. once in a while just watch or hear what government says and follow it …

otherwise dont watch these media stuff or social media stuff throughout.. everyone says according to their own convenience without any authentication.. it confuses you.. it creates unnecessary panic fear in you… fear makes you totally nil.. though you may not have fever / sore throat/ cough , fear/anxiety makes you feel like you have that… it creates unnecessary panic / anxiety in you… the more you think about something you become that… that’s the power of thoughts.. have positive thoughts and forcefully start doing your regular works though you dont feel like..

Do the below to get positive vibration

Spend 5 minutes of visualizing … sit in a calm place and start visualizing that social anxiety of Corona virus has left the universe like… visualize as if a television news reader announcing that Corona virus has left the world or corona virus cases considerably getting reduced… visualize as if the media announcing that all the corona viruses have been cured and vaccine been found to cure corona virus… visualize as if you are very healthy and energetic… now after all these visualizing open your eyes you will feel energized and the fear would have gone by…

Meanhile when you get social anxiety based thoughts just blank your mind on those thoughts ….. you feel.like developing it or solving it.. dont do all that…consecutively leaving blank or ignoring these thoughts whenever it comes, will lead to a point of time where these thoughts will fade away from your mind… leaving blank you can do it easily if you have a practice of meditation regularly … because the base of meditation is to focus on the mantra and get away from unnecessary thoughts..

180. How do you beat anxiety when you are alone in a 21-day lockdown?

Live and focused in the present… we get anxiety about the disease , future and even whether this lock down will continue more… about the disease follow the preventive measures prescribed by the government and have foods which will strengthen the immune system… simplest thing is to have hot water throughout the day at regular intervals or whenever you feel like taking water..

About how to kill time for the next 21days ..

Dont think in longer version.. ie dont think about 21days… think about only today like how to spend.. plan the day… spend some time on book reading.. we have the advantage of internet luckily nowadays..watch good you tube , WhatsApp videos of positive information… spend some time on that… nature of our body , mind is that when you focused on something intensely, you tend to get sleep .. enjoy the sleep .. during these times, you start even sleeping in the afternoon.. especially after lunch your body tends to get sleep easily, if you take an effort.. plan for listening to music sometime.. that’s a very good positive energy… Even you have smile app, karaoke version of songs .. you can enjoy singing even if you are not a professional…

finally since you have the internet, gain knowledge by searching and even about your future you can plan… if you want to enter into some career planning or start some business, gather information and list down the plan how to go about it.. spend some time on visualizing about what you want to achieve… visualize as if you have achieved like… it will create the opportunities and sources for you to achieve the goal…

Visualize anything positively, be focused in the present moment and acceptance of anything is the best way to overcome anxiety… acceptance gives the much needed instant relief from anything.. we always think why its happening to me , instead of accepting the status… start accepting even the present situation of 21 days lock down and being alone … immediately you will come out of that anxiety atleast for sometime… continue thinking that and you will come out of it for ever.

To sum up this, I want to tell one important fact is mind will get used to any situation.. because we are new to this we are confused, irritated… see after 7 or 10 days more we will get used to this and the complaints too will get decreased..

Take advantage of this situation and use it in a wiser way

181. What have people forgotten during the coronavirus crisis?

They have forgotten religion, caste , money , status , everything except the fight to stay alive …

The survival of their physical life has become important and they dont even thinking about anything else… this clearly shows when you are given comforts and assurance of your most important basic thing , then you start focussing on unnecessary things of religious/ caste craze , greed of more money and useless status … it’s not that I am advocating people should not be given assurance / comfort of the most important basic thing.. give them but they should realise of not going into crazy levels about those not so important ones ..

Get into realization atleast now and dont continue those stupid earlier mindset about those 4 mentioned… have it for needy and dont become greedy …

182. Why is overthinking considered a psychological problem?

You would have decided on something after an analysis , but still your wavering mind questions that and more thoughts will come to disturb that what you finalized …this leads to.procastination and being indecisive..

even after deciding on something firmly , if thoughts are coming to disturb that decision , then it creates always doubts about that.. this shows some kind of doubt about your mind strength and lot of negativity in your subconscious.. this is clearly a psychological issue only…

How to overcome this

When you have a calm mind or after a good sleep , you think about some issue which needs to be decided.. when your mind is calm you have the creativity, clarity on your thoughts and now write down the process or various ways to achieve it..now start implementing it immediately … after this any thought comes to question the finalized one , theses thoughts are called overthinking based ones… just ignore those thoughts unless some issues come to disturb during implementation… when issues come to disturb during implementation then those things need to be given a thought and get solved…

Starting implementation is important after you finalized on something..

183. Are fan followings of celebrities or cricketers good or bad? Why or why not?

For this reason just get inspired or just take positives from whomever you like whether it’s a sportstar or a film star or a politician or a Spiritual guy…

Dont become crazy about them… especially about film stars you become so crazy and you are only making them big… they themselves feel that they are not that big… but the craziness of fans make them as if they are some divine.. it’s your fault and not theirs… infact in certain aspects you are bigger than them.. you are unique in something… because of this crazything towards celebrities , you are losing your identity, values..

Have this value of all are equal and no one is bigger than any one … firmly believe in this and its 100 percent true .. no body can be slightly bigger by means of money , popularity ,.power .. in front of almighty all are equal and all are allotted roles to undergo certain tests…

Moreover craziness nullifies your talent and you become biased because of the craziness towards your leader … you try justifying whatever they do , even if its wrong.. so it even makes your character, attitude bit doubtful.. get inspired and take positives from them… that’s it…

184. How can I get over a breakup in 1 day?

Usually its thoughts and emotions which are the ones to be controlled…. Otherwise you can be looking at each other even for years together… thoughts with emotions which instigate you to go crazy … these thoughts should be controlled or in other ways it should be blanked…

Just blank these breakup related thoughts, whenever it comes… you feel like developing it or solving it or justifying it… never do that… just blanking it whenever it comes will lead to a point of time where these thoughts fade away from your mind…

This you try it for a day… then you will be able to overcome that particular day… start even doing for the forthcoming days .. then you will be out of it.. out of sight is out of mind… over a period of time you will get used to this and you will start finding new friends.. truth is there is always a better life waiting after every crisis…

185. I am getting fear of nearly everything that comes to my mind since a week ago. I am feeling like my mind and heart has become very weak. What is this? How can I deal with this?

This is the effect of your idle mind… adding to the fear mongering created by this Corona virus and the media , this will happen definitely.. keep yourself forcibly occupied by reading some books or watching you tube videos of positive information… avoid watching news about Corona for sometime but follow the preventive measures prescribed by the government… keep yourself occupied with some thing can make you get away from these unnecessary thoughts… another solution is blank these fear based thoughts whenever it comes… blanking it consecutively whenever it comes will lead to a point of time where these thoughts will fade away from your mind… meditation helps you to blank these unnecessary thoughts easily….if possible follow these meditation instructions

Sit down preferably in a calm place with preferably casual loose dresses…. slowly close your eyes , take deep breath ( deep inhale and slowly exhale) for at least 5 times and observe the breathing for 1 miniute…approximately after 1 miniute start thinking about the mantra ( it can be ohm or you can think about your favourite god also… ) usually your mind will go to different thoughts… let it go… at some point of time you will realise that you are going away from mantra and you should come back to mantra…. this is a chain of process … going away from mantra and coming back to mantra… and finally the meditation will happen… do this for 20 miniutes and after 20 minutes slowly open your eyes and be calm for 2 more miniutes in the same posture… that’s it

187. I feel very lazy. I am not able to meditate because I am lazy. What should I do?

People think that once they start doing meditation they will become calm instantly… meditation is a discipline.. sometimes it will be boring and ineffective… sometimes even you get headaches… adding to that the results too take some time.. because of all these people will feel lazy, boring and hesitate to do it regularly… this is the reason for your question..

Meditation is a discipline… you should do it like how you brush or take bath every day… once it becomes a habit by discipline then you will start getting the benefits of that… you will get into realization and be without much emotions, expectations.. once you start feeling the effects of it , then you will never leave it…

Moreover instead of taking meditation as a Spiritual excercise, practice meditation to give your mind much needed rest , which has a scientific base … once the rest is given to mind through meditation, then mind becomes creative and will have thoughts filled with clarity… this too gets into realization of being without emotions, expectations and mind becomes very effective ..

So irrespective of boring , sometimes ineffective and late results continue to practice every day and make it as a discipline ie habit… then you wont feel lazy and start getting the benefits of it…

Following is the instructions for doing meditation

Sit down preferably in a calm place with preferably casual loose dresses…. slowly close your eyes , take deep breath ( deep inhale and slowly exhale) for at least 5 times and observe the breathing for 1 miniute…approximately after 1 miniute start thinking about the mantra ( it can be ohm or you can think about your favourite god also… ) usually your mind will go to different thoughts… let it go… at some point of time you will realise that you are going away from mantra and you should come back to mantra…. this is a chain of process … going away from mantra and coming back to mantra… and finally the meditation will happen… do this for 20 miniutes and after 20 minutes slowly open your eyes and be calm for 2 more miniutes in the same posture… that’s it

188. I feel too relaxed and unmotivated. This is creating issues for me in learning and remembering new things. I find myself having nothing to say in conversations too. Is there any solution for this?

When it comes to a situation of survival, you need smartness to survive… to become smart you need to be knowledgeable… you may have money to survive and you can be relaxed, unmotivated because of that… but sometimes to protect money too you need knowledge… it’s not only money sometimes you need knowledge to survive physically,.mentally… so you have to develop needed knowledge to survive…

The best way to become motivated is to take up responsibilities… once you take up responsibilities then it’s a must to gather knowledge.. otherwise you can’t fulfill responsibilities.. to start with take up small responsibilities to become active and motivated

189. What is the difference between stress and anxiety?

Anxiety happens before it forms in to stress.. if the result of your anxiety is negative , it forms into stress.. anxiety is about you expect something to happen your way… simultaneously you will be worried about the expectations are going opposite directions too.. stress happens even when you are anxious about something… but it develops into a real stress once your expectations turn negative..

190. Why am I always not happy seeing my stupid close friend being happy and getting along with everyone and here I am always depressed that no one cares about me? I actually envy everyone.

Life is very simple, easy as we only take it in a harder way… first of all have great belief in everybody is unique in some way and no one is bigger than any one… we have worries when others are compared better than us… , this leads us to think that people will look you down.. this is the major reason we have complex of inferior/ superior… so have strong belief in no one is bigger than anyone… infact this is 100 percent true…

Next one is about emotions and expectations.. both are connected to our breathing and mind… when you have negative emotions and anxiety , have you watched our body have uneasiness in breathing… another effect is a kind of burning sensation in the back side of head… here you have to make your body ,.mind cool… breathing based kriyas / pranayamas and meditation helps you to achieve this… once your body , mind are cool , you get into realization of life is cool and you start controlling emotions and being without expectations… now you realise attachment too becomes a minor issue and still you will continue to do your duties perfectly…

Your issue of possessiveness over someone too will go , as you will start thinking attachments are temporary and mutual based.. no one cares about anyone unless relationship has some benefits and you will get into this realization too… everyone is closer to some one because of certain benefits mentally/ physically… once that loosens up there will be a crack in the relationship….. I am not discouraging you from having relationships.. have relationships with this realization, then it will continue for ever.. you will never be broken in case of anything negative…

you are scared someone look you down when someone doing better…this is the reason for envying others…instead of envying someone , be happy with others wellbeing…it develops a positive vibration in you and helps you to achieve certain things… again you dont have to envy as everyone in unique in their own way and nobody is greater than any one…

191. What I want I don’t understand. I don’t want to share my secret to others, but every time someone seems nice to me, I omit everything and after that, I regret it. What should I do?

It’s all about emotions… when you are close to someone or someone talking to you very closely , your emotions will open up grandly and you feel like telling it very badly irrespective of its nature… this is normal only… but try to develop a mindset that it is conscious always… when your mind is conscious of what you are saying and its consequences, then you can control what you are saying…

This is natural… everyone does this… but depends on the nature of confidentiality/ secret… if it’s of serious nature and has serious consequences then never tell it out…. Same way if it’s about hurting someone’s character and if its without any authentication, have control in sharing it… have in mind that this is very strongly related to karma… if something without authentication is passed on by you , then you will have to face a similar karma…

192. How do I motivate myself to not sit back and work productively in these quarantine days?

Biggest secret most of the people yet to know is that they will get used to any situation … infact most of them will start feeling better than before

Acceptance is another great solution… just accept the present situation and you will have no regrets…

Focus being in the presentand focus only about today …dont think about the longer periods of lock down …

Write what are all the possible personal , official tasks totally to be done during this lockdown … from the overall tasks take every day some priority based ones and do it…

spend this time for improving your health by doing some yoga , meditation which is available online… I am giving some instructions for doing meditation at the end … spend good quality time with your parents , children as this is the biggest opportunity to know them better..listen to music for some time as that gives a big positive energy and vibration …

There are bigger positive things happening as people are able to live without junk foods .. no body is talking about religion, caste as they are interested only in protecting their physical being… people are spending good quality time with their families.. we are able to have a pollution free life…

Following is the simple instruction to be followed for doing meditation regularly

Sit down preferably in a calm place with preferably casual loose dresses…. slowly close your eyes , take deep breath ( deep inhale and slowly exhale) for at least 5 times and observe the breathing for 1 miniute…approximately after 1 miniute start thinking about the mantra ( it can be ohm or you can think about your favourite god also… ) usually your mind will go to different thoughts… let it go… at some point of time you will realise that you are going away from mantra and you should come back to mantra…. this is a chain of process … going away from mantra and coming back to mantra… and finally the meditation will happen… do this for 20 miniutes and after 20 minutes slowly open your eyes and be calm for 2 more miniutes in the same posture… that’s it

193. Why do I feel low unless I keep myself busy?

When you are busy your mind is occupied…. So there is no chance of any unnecessary thoughts entering your mind… when your mind is not occupied, then mind is idle… when the mind is idle , it has the natural tendency to go towards unnecessary thoughts unless consciously efforts are taken to think positively…

Dont leave your mind idle and keep it occupied with work and positive thoughts… thougts of fantasy , past memories too , do not have it often… because it leads to laziness and will spoil the present.. consciously visualizing can be done to achieve your goals , ambitions and that too can be done for few minutes…

194. How do I control my mind? Is it possible to control it every time? What should I do?

Controlling mind is nothing but avoiding certain unwanted thoughts… people wants to be away from those thoughts… but everyone generally thinks that by solving , justifying you can move on to the next thought / activity… its not required… just force yourself to focus on whatever you feel important… that’s it… after some time you will forget those earlier negative unwanted thoughts … if you do this whenever its required , then you can be focused in whatever you are doing … this is called controlling the mind.. mind has got a beautiful way of forgetting people or unnecessary things through this method…

195. I have lost all joy and hope in life. How can I end it so that I will no longer suffer?

If you have a place to stay and are able to eat twice a day , then you are one of the luckiest…see that you are getting this.. that’s it… if you are worried about other things in which you have failed , just forget it…

Success is about keeping your mind calm , undisturbed irrespective of any thing… even if you get , overcoming it immediately is called success…

leave alone money , relationships,.materialistic pleasures… all these if you are not getting , dont worry about it…just be in the present moment and don’t think about past or future…. Just keep praying to almighty and keep your mind calm , undisturbed by practicing meditation, breathing based pranayamas regularly… that’s it .. life will be amazing even if you have past negative history…

196. Why does my mood suddenly deteriorate?

Mood is nothing but your mind… good mood is that you have a happy mind … it’s a resultant of some happy situation occured , occurring… it is also a resultant of thinking about some positive situations happened earlier… situations could have happened days back , months back or even years back…

Mind has a nature of thinking about both positive situations and negative situations.. when your mind is happy, suddenly it thinks that you cannot be happier as you have some problems too.. it searches for it and obviously will get it… it has a nature to convert even forgotten problems to make it active, if you let it’s way… this is the reason your mind suddenly deteriorates…

Solution..

  1. Keep your mind balanced … dont get excited over a positive happening or thinking about a positive happening…. Dont think about the positive happening for a longer time… just come out of it .. this practice enables you to come out of even a negative situation immediately…

2. Learn and practice meditation.. mind deteriorates when have unnecessary negative thoughts…meditation helps you to blank unnecessary negative thoughts easily.. base of meditation is to focus on the mantra given and get away from unnecessary thoughts….

195. My mind is not able to work on one thing for a long time. If I start something, in some days I feel it repulsive or boring. How do I get rid of it?

Anything whether it’s a sport , movie watching , passion , studies ,.your closest friend, spouse, and even your children can become a boring subject , if it becomes a overdose.. that’s the reason husband sometimes gets irritated with wife and even wife gets irritated with husband…. In tamil there’s beautiful proverb “ alavukku meerinal amirdhamum nanju” means.. even the tastiest food becomes poison if its taken overdose. .

Here the point is, involve in all kind of activities and give importance to other habits , activities, responsibilities too… dont spend too much time on a single activity.. plan a day with your passion for some time, family time for sometime, yoga meditation sports for sometime, music for sometime, friends for some time… mind naturally gets bored with lot of time spent on a single activity… take some time off from your favourite one and come back to it after doing several other ones… it will be interesting and more over creativity, clarity is brought to that…

196. How can I be positive thinking, I am a emotional person and easily influence by anyone . Some times I have being too emotional and crying .how can I stop it?

Some one likes you so much and you too like him… you want to be the closest one to that person .. so you have high expectations from that person… even if its reduced by some percentage or in some situations you feel that he is not giving that importance to you.. so you become emotional, feel low and you fight with him to get back that.. so your positive emotions, negative emotions and happiness depends on his actions now… suddenly due to certain situations , circumstances he moves away from you… he is upset and emotional for sometime .. after sometime he becomes ok with the new situations and relationships… you were also upset and emotional for sometime …. you too become ok with new situations, relationships ..

The above happening is a reality and what’s the use of being emotional then… emotions should be there .. but there is a time comes where you have to realise and control emotions… controlling emotions can be done when the body , mind are calm.. breathing based kriyas and meditation helps you to keep your mind body calm , then control emotions..

Now after controlling emotions, surround yourself with people of positive mindset and spend every day 10 miniutes on positive visualizing… positive visualizing is about visualizing whatever you want to do and visualize as if it has happened like… it will create the sources and opportunities for you to achieve the goal and be positive always… these two things can keep you positive for ever…

197. What is it like to grow up an orphan?

Take that as an advantage… to lead a beautiful calm life , you have to be unattached… major cause of worries are expectations and emotions… if you are attached then expectations arise… and more over you will be strong as you have grown up independently… so take all that as an advantage… in life situations and people are temporary only … have in mind… all the best

198. How do you come to the terms with the fact that you’re not in charge of everyone’s happiness?

You do something good to somebody and they are happy now.. they have a good relationship with you now… another situation is developing as again that same person seek money or some help from you… now you are not in a position to help and obviously they become unhappy now… this clearly shows that you can’t be in charge of others’ happiness..

Second case

You are happy now … suppose someone wants to spoil your happiness.. they make some accusation against you.. you become angry and stressed by reacting to that… now their mission of making you unhappy is done… instead of that you could have been non reactive to that… by being non reactive to it , you could have been calm and their purpose of making you unhappy is too defeated …

How to be non reactive .. create a connect between you and almighty that as if he is watching it or he knows the real truth… since almighty knows the real truth , you don’t have the necessity to react to it. ..

And the above one clearly shows that your happiness is in your hands and not in others hands..

199. Sometimes we are sad and depressed, at that moment your close friend shared his happiness, so how to react now? Be happy for them simply faking or be sad as usual. If we r sad it’s like ruining their moment. What to do?

Be happy for your friend’s happiness.. even if it’s fake , that gives a positivity in you … there is a big chance that you would forget your sorrows for little time , since you are focused in your friends moment of happiness. This is karma related too.. this will pay back you some good things some time

Just imagine this one moment makes you forget your worries for little time… why dont you focus and add other moments to forget sorrows, depression… its very simple … if this little moment makes you forget worries, add focus some other moments to lessen your time of worries. .. if you practice this habit , you will be out of worries for ever.. this is about be occupied with positive situations to chase negative thinking, depression, worries etc

200. Will the marriage of a beautiful girl and an ugly looking guy sustain?

Have you ever experienced this… poongatru thirumbuma a tamil film song sung by Malaysia vasudevan was a masterpiece by ilayaraja…even take veeramanis voice for the pallikattu sabarimalaikku song….. Malaysia vasudevan’s voice was 100pc aptly suitable to that song…. I used to think malaysiavasudevan is an ordinary singer and he is without an excellent sound like how jesudoss or spb have … then I used to think why did ilayaraja choose Malaysia for this song… he could have put spb or jesudoss’s sound very easily… but I started visualizing spb jesudoss’s voice for that song… it did not look great and song would have lost charm if they had sung that… it surprised me.. then I went deep into that.. first realization is this… once mind is used to certain things and feel comfortable with that…then nothing can replace that … if you replace anything even let it be the best in the world with that . ..it will never look suitable…second realization is this. ilayaraja is a like a music god and he knows which will look suitable … this is the way god chooses people / situations for every one …

Same way you would have seen a beautiful woman paired with an very ordinary looking guy or a very beautiful guy with an ordinary looking girl.. she / he can get very easily easily beautiful looking ones… but their mind suits only with certain people and they are happy only with those people.. those people bother only about the suitability of their nature and these ordinary people will look beautiful to them .. after they get used to them they will look the most beautiful though they are ordinary looking…. another reason too is that the almighty choose the suitable person for a boy/ girl.. like how ilayaraja chose Malaysia for poongatru thirumbuma or aasai nooruvagai song… so it has a good chance to sustain…

201. How do I become emotionally strong in my studies?

First of all choose to study what you like and this leads to create great interest in studies… when the teacher asks you a question and if you are able to answer as a first one, that kindles excitement in you…

Never byheart and write your subject … may be it can get you marks…understand and study or write… such studies create knowledge and you can never forget in your life time…

Dont be Marks oriented as in real life it never makes you win… because it creates stress in you to retain the topper status always.. very less percent of toppers become successful as they are always under pressure to retain the image… they never take risks and they become impractical too.

Focus on the subject is very important… you can be in the class but your mind will be somewhere… meditation helps you to be focused… the base of meditation is to focus on the mantra and get away from unnecessary thoughts..meditation helps you to become emotionally stronger too…

Fix a plan to complete the whole study and write down the timings of study … the portions and their respective time of study too you have to write…put some plan practically and see that you are completing that particular portion within that particular time…if you follow this then you can spend lesser time on studies and you will have time to do other activities.. you will be out of stress too… Coming back to studies after doing other activities can create interest in studies

Next issue what you get during this exam time is , about fear of forgetting what you studied , fear of questions from non syllabus , fear of going to exam in time and the fear of whether you will be in right health….whenever these fear based thoughts come leave your mind blank on those thoughts … you feel like developing it or solving it.. simply don’t do that… consecutively blanking it whenever it comes will lead to a point of time where these thoughts will fade away from your mind…

202. Why do we have negative thoughts even when we know we should not have them?

When the mind is allowed to go it’s way or if it’s being uncontrolled then obviously it will go towards negatives omly.. by default it will always be towards negative thoughts only .. we need to take an effort to bring it to positive mindset..

So you have to blank the unnecessary negative thoughts and focus in the present.. all these can be done by doing meditation regularly.. meditating regularly can lead to be focussed in the present and blank the negative thoughts.. the base of meditation practices is to focus on a mantra and get away from unnecessary negative thoughts ..

203. How do you handle your thoughts? Do you let them take the better part of you?

It’s about controlling your mind… once you get the control , you can easily avoid negative thoughts or unnecessary thoughts which too leads to trouble…

There are two types of thoughts .. one is a direct negative thought which is born out of negative situations happened or out of your mind weakness…

Second type is a thought which will start in a nice way … like it may be about your positive memories of the past or imagining yourself in a superior way over others without any efforts( that’s about you are always achieving big thing over others and everyone is appreciating you like ) … too much of allowing your mind to be in this will lead to even negative memories of the concerned people and situations…

consciously visualizing to create positive vibration is different from these as it is done to create sources , opportunities to achieve our goals…

So our mind should be trained in such a way that to do the following

  1. It should blank the unnecessary or negative thoughts whenever it comes
  2. Do not allow the mind to stay long in past memories or thoughts which is about appreciation of you
  3. Avoid imagining about yourself in situations, where you are always above others and the whole world is appreciating you over others…
  4. Visualizing can be done to create the sources for achieving goals , but should be supported by efforts

People can try doing these , but again can be done easily through a consistent, constant practice of meditation and breathing based kriyas.. we are teaching both these… consistent, constant practice of meditation, kriyas can make your body , mind calm realised and best advantage is about controlling emotions wherever its required..

204. Why do I perceive some people as beautiful while some as ugly? How does the brain distinguish between beautiful and ugly, and what is the psychological and evolutionary basis for it?

BEAUTY IS WHAT WE CREATE AND WHAT WE LOOK AT

Can you go back to our olden days in which we think bad sad and sometime ugly too about some one wearing torn clothes … it was looked at someone’s penniless status.. that was the main reason it was looked upon as bad sad ugly ones … but consciously when a rich person started wearing it , it became beautiful and passion… so how come the same subject became beautiful… so its clearly shows that when the status was seen without money became ugly and the same status with money became beautiful.. it’s all about eyes and most importantly mind which sees through the eyes…
same way When we used to scribble on the wall , elders used to scold us about making it ugly… but later on when architecture became one of the key points of construction, they scribbled some on the wall and suddenly we started looking through our art eyes and made it beautiful .. how come suddenly art eyes came into existence… even they introduced unfinished brick walls without plastering as Partitions in offices , which was looked upon as a passion.. whatever they did, we started looking at it in a different view… earlier days unfinished brickwork without plastering were seen as construction without funds..

So it’s all about our mind how it looks at things and some times it changes its outlook according to the popular theory ..
Again it also depends and varies according to each ones nature… for most of them one object may look very beautiful and the same may look unattractive to rest of them . So again it’s the almightys design to mix and fix the right ones..

205. Why can too much positive thinking be counterproductive?

Everytime you dont have to take an effort to think positively… when your mind is normal / calm , you tend to think positively… so that’s by default… any thought, which makes you anxious, stressed is mostly a negative thought.. here , consciously take an effort to think positively and convert it… so everytime and every thought , if you try to make it positive then , it becomes counterproductive sometimes….

206. What are the benefits of writing down all your problems?

Planning ,writing down and executing makes you not to forget anything … write down your personal / official activities to be done on a master sheet… both official / personal.. whatever comes to your mind ,which is important/ dutiful has to be written down on a master sheet …

If the master sheet has totally 100 activities, from that take today’s related activities with priority and do it .. atleast attempt it…

If you start doing this, you will never forget anything… again this has to be done with priority… otherwise everyday you will be inclined to do everything and you will be stressed over some uncompleted ones …if you do this regularly , you will become successful 100 percent personally , officially…if this becomes a practice, you will never forget anything..

Write down your worries / problems … find a way how to solve it .. if there is no solution , atleast you will know how to handle it further… half of your problems would’ve gone and , your mind becomes cooler when you write down…some people being introverts, will not share their problems with friends/relatives… if they have this habit , they become cooler by writing down… by writing down ,it’s like SHARING WITH SOMEONE … once you write down your problems, it leads you to even start writing solutions too…

The last advantage is when you start writing , by default flow comes in the mind… psychologically it connects to your brain , inner consciousness and comes out with ideas , solutions etc..it helps you to be in the present moment , occupied and get away from unnecessary thoughts…

207. I had fought with someone last year and since then I have been feeling regular anxiety and having recurring thought. Why am I re-living the past though it is irrelevant now? It feels like I m not living the present.

If you leave the mind idle , it has the tendency to go to various thoughts… by default it goes to unnecessary, negative thoughts… The person you had fought, could have been a close person to you..that’s the reason, its affecting you badly… after that whatever negative things happened, it would have had less impact only… hereafter any negativity happens and if the concerned person happens to be closer than the previous person , then this issue’s impact will overtake the previous one… so the previous issue will be forgotten… once the new issue is solved , then mind goes to the next bigger issue available… mind’s nature is like this…

Solution is , be occupied with anything.. if you focus on something extensively, your mind will not wander… another way to get over this issue, is to blank these unnecessary thoughts.. you feel like developing or solving it.. simply don’t do all that… consecutively leaving blank whenever it comes , will lead to a point of time where these thoughts will fade away from your mind..

208. Is there any solution to stop thinking that I am useless in the world and never successful in life?

No body is useless in this world.. every one is unique in their nature and every one has some talent… only thing we need to identify it.. when your mind is calm , cool just think about that… you will be narrowing down on something…

Success is not about having big money , popularity and power.. it’s about keeping your mind calm irrespective of anything , subject to doing our responsibilities correctly… a person working as a daily wage labourer , will have sometime bigger mind satisfaction than the most powerful person/ richest person of a country..

So identify what you are good in.. then gather knowledge, plan and put genuine efforts on that… most of the times , it should turn successful.. otherwise too, your genuine efforts are important.. almighty one day will reward you… anything happens too , accept as if its happening for ggood… practice meditation regularly , which will keep your kind calm , realized irrespective of anything..

209. Why do we hang onto problems even when we are well aware of them?

We create problems and forget it , when it is solved.. most of the time , it never gets solved … why it’s not solved .. some one appreciates you… we become close to them .. we expect similar level of appreciation, always from them… when there is a decrease in level , we get stressed.. suppose suddenly that person making a U turn , and start criticizing you.. we become more stressed… we start thinking about this problem always .. we develop that , try to justify that , solve that… nothing happens… now another problem arises .. if the problem is bigger than the previous one , then the recent one overtakes… luckily if this gets solved , then mind goes to the next available emotionally connected problem… this all happens, because of our ego , expectations and emotions.. unless these problems are not taken as problems, it is a never ending issue.. if you take it as nothing or very easier ones , you will be surrounded by only problems… it’s all your mind set…

Another case of we are being surrounded by problem is the following

Suppose you have x y z of 3 problems , your mind always think about that .. your mind gets stressed… meanwhile there are some happy situations happening .. your mind will be happy for some time … then it thinks that , i am happy now and looks as if i dont have worries…. checks whether you have worries existing… now mind obviously start thinking about x y z problems.. suddenly when you are conscious of all these x y z problems, your mind will start thinking that , you cannot be happy now since you have x y z problems… it says you can be happy only , after all these problems are solved … so it will start thinking about those issues.. the happy situation gone now.. its nothing like you can be happy, after the existing issues are over ….. though you have hundreds of problems, you can be happier for any positive happy situation happening after that… insead of consciously being happy, enjoy the calmness.. you should be in that particular moment to enjoy that calmness… if you develop this attitude, at some point of time , you will not feel like you have any problems ( though you have) .. anything we only create, and make it look like a problem..

acceptance is one of the greatest solutions for anything.. accept things as if its happening for good… if you are able to control your emotions, do your duties without expectations and accept things as if its happening for good, then every problem will look nothing to you .. kriyas and meditation helps you to achieve this status.

210. How true is the statement ‘bitter stuff is good for you’?

Always best things happen after bitter taste , bitter big pain , bitter toughest situations, bittter boring things…

Get used to it… if doing 5 excercises make you painful , tired , uninteresting …dont stop with 4… somehow try doing 6 … 5 will be easier for you and will get used to it.. practice it regularly.. system is formed… you will be successful…

face the bitter toughest situation.. instead of asking why .. accept it.. you will get used to it.. you will become stronger…

People say some food will be good to your health and most likely , it will be of bitter taste.. start eating it… will get used to.. you will be healthy…

Even doing meditation will be boring,, sometimes ineffective, even get headaches…. benefits will take time… but still keep doing it… it becomes a discipline and part of your system… will start getting the greatest advantages of your life… because it involves mind… mind gets you into realization and decide everything..

So in the entire universe, best things are designed to get , after you get used to bitter taste , bitter pain , bitter tough situations and bitter boredom…

211. I was clean for 9 months and relapsed. What should I do?

Since you are able to form a discipline, it’s easy to continue that… any thing we practice it consistently, a system gets formed… so we will get used to that… make use of this and continue doing that… but there will be lot of disturbing thoughts, to question and spoil that… always there will be thoughts ,questioning any system( even if its ethical/ good) in the form of improvisation to your career/money/popularity/power … thoughts of boredom too will question that..

Give a clean thought to that , when your mind is calm… if it is worth/ethical consider it … if you feel those are unnecessary, just blank those thoughts by not developing it… meditation helps you to get you away from unnecessary thoughts…

212. How do I deal with “friends” talking behind my back?

Talking about others behind, is normally most of them do… you cannot say it’s good… but not that so bad… most of the people do not want to hurt people directly, and more over fearing retaliation, bad consequences, fearing loss of relationship , leads to being like this… The inner consciousness says they want to be practical, diplomatic and unsure of their opponent’s behaviour, comments, attitude etc…
Sometimes what happen , when they meet in person there is a chance of sudden good understanding, and even have a good chance of good patch up… it again depends on the situations, circumstances of each concerned to have led to these misunderstanding and reversal of misunderstanding… sometimes it’s better not to have openness in talks , which may lead to aggressive criticism and permanent disconnection of relationships… as long as trying to be diplomatic whenever they meet , it’s good… sudden turn of mood , understanding may lead to a strong relationship..

But the people to be blamed are the mediators , who comes and says the second person whatever the first person commented / criticized … again says the first person whatever the second person commented/ criticized… this will do real harm to the relationship between the first person and second person.. so even if you want to be diplomatic and dont have the openness to criticize directly, it’s okay… but share your comments with someone, whom you find reliable and confident… this will ensure the relationship retain and sharing reduce your stress too…

213. How do I get over the anxiety of something happening in the future? Weird question I know but I am obsessed that someone might do something in future (an ex has blackmail material) and can’t get this thought out of my head.

By thinking , worrying about some future happening, we make that more complicated.. subsequent action based on those worries, will lead to lot of complications.. For example certain people will be anxious about , whether their parents will give the right share of property to them or will they be biased towards/ favouring someone.. that may happen even after 5 , 10 years… but they start worrying about that now itself… they will be anxious, and start behaving differently with the parents favored ones and spoil the relationship with them… by thinking, worrying about that now , you are not going to improve that happening… infact it will get worsened more… whats going to happen will happen.. another devastating effect is that you are spoiling the present activities, work etc..

Do your duties , be ethical , blank those unnecessary thoughts, be focused in the present and everything will come your way..meditation helps you to be in the present and get away from unnecessary thoughts.

214. How do I get my mind out of thoughtless thoughts? I am a student. I shouldn’t do that. My exams are going to be in July and I have to prepare harder but I am not able to.

We will all always be in some thoughts. You cannot stop it. Only a thing, you should not have thoughts on multiple subjects at the same time.While thinking about something, simultaneously you shouldn’t think about anything else.This is about bringing the focus to one. Focusing on one can bring clarity, creativity to that.

Meditation helps you to get focused on one thing. Even during meditation, you will have thoughts and have to take an effort to come back to mantra. Usually during meditation, they give a mantra and you have to focus on it. Even thinking about the mantra is also a thought. Only time you go thoughtless, when the most effective meditation happens. But you will be away from your conscious mind. Again we are doing all these, to get back to our thoughts becoming focused, creative and with clarity. Even going thoughtless is to make the thoughts effective and focused. So, having thoughts always is natural and it’s happening by default. Only needed thing is to make it effective, and creative.

The best way to control, use your thoughts is to control your mind. Once you get the control, you can easily get rid of negative thoughts or unnecessary thoughts, which too leads to trouble.

There are two types of thoughts.

One is a direct negative thought, which is born either out of negative situations happened or out of your weak mind.

The second one is a thought which will start in a nice way. Like it may be about either positive memories of the past or imagining yourself in a superior way over others. Too much of allowing the mind being in that, will lead to even negative memories of the concerned people and situations.Consciously visualizing to create positive energy is different from these, as it is done to create sources, opportunities to achieve our tasks.

Hence, our mind should be trained in such a way, to do the following

1. It should blank the unnecessary, negative thoughts, whenever it comes

2 Don’t allow mind staying longer either in memories or thoughts which is about appreciation of yourself.

3. Avoid imagining about yourself in situations, where you are always above others and the whole world is appreciating you like.

4. Visualizing can be done, to create the sources for achieving tasks. But should be supported by efforts

People should try doing these, but again can be done easily through a consistent constant practice of meditation and breathing based kriyas. We are teaching both these. Consistent constant practice of meditation, kriyas can make your body, mind calm, realized and even controls emotions whenever its required.215.

Acceptance is not about accepting negative thoughts.. when you try to achieve or do something, obviously you take some efforts.. inspite of your genuine efforts, things are not happening… Now you are depressed, disappointed… Not to get into this , you need to have acceptance as an attitude to become normal.. when things are happening beyond your control like loss of some one close to you, or something happening against your expectations, this acceptance tool can be used to calm your mind

Otherwise negative thoughts can be stopped using blanking the unnecessary thoughts technique.. consecutively blanking it whenever it comes will lead to a point of time where these thoughts will fade away from your mind… meditation helps to blank unnecessary thoughts easily..

217. Few years ago my mom passed away due to cancer my life has been a hell since then as I was only the single child and now My dad is changed after his second marriage I don’t want what to do in my life I am depressed I feel worthless what should I do?

Very unfortunate things have happened to you.. it’s very difficult not to think about this… but the greatest advantage is that, you become stronger over these happenings psychologically, which you wouldnt have noticed … because the thought of non acceptance and “why its happening to me alone” will overcome that…

Again it all depends on your mind… if you create a calm , realized mind then you will have the greatest advantage over this situation… it’s all about mind.. relationships and friendships are all mutual and temporary… if you are not giving back your quota of love , money , respect , anything, you are at a disadvantage… everything is conditional… even parents love towards you is conditional…

For example You happen to do some criminal acts.. it lands your parents in trouble . first time they advise and protect you… you are going on doing that , thanks to some addictive habits.. one or two times they will see… if you continue that still , then slowly they will start distancing from you… so every one has to live their life for themselves with some ethical things , duties , service for others , love, money etc… if you deviate from this, you will not be spared even from your closest emotions …

so then what’s the advantage of having parents , wife , children ,friends etc … having them or not having them are same only ,if you go deep into… rules are same for both .. having all them is just a support only.. infact it makes you lethargic, lazy sometimes for some people..

So now without any support you have the greatest advantage of becoming stronger… ACCEPTANCE is a big solution for your problems… accept whatever happened in your life… it gives instant relief from stress , anxiety… whenever you get depressed,.negative thoughts just , blank it … you feel like developing it or solving it… simply blank those thoughts… consecutively leaving blank whenever it comes , will lead to a point of time , where these thoughts fade away from your mind.. meditation helps you to do this blanking the unnecessary thoughts easily… meditation, breathing based kriyas help you to be in the present, control emotions, do your duties without expectations, accept things as if its happening for good…

Get in to calm , realized mind by practicing meditation and breathing based kriyas regularly.. when you have calm mind after a sound sleep or meditation, just close your eyes and start thinking about what to be done… think various options , finalize , put a plan and start implementing it… you will be 100 percent successful…

218. I think being around people with bad mindsets will make your mindset bad and make you poor and have a bad life. Is this true?

Do You know which is the fastest way to achieve your goal / ambition… JOIN / MOVE / BECOME FRiENDS with similar people…

If you want to steal money and become rich , go join with those people..If you want to become a drunkard , just move with people who regularly take alchohol… though these are bad , still it’s the fastest way to achieve what you aspire..
Even you dont have to join a school / institute or find a teacher to learn anything.. just join people with similar nature … you will end up becoming that fastest… it is the fastest way of learning ..

Make use of this mind realization…Same concept, why dont you do in a positive way.. if you want to become an IAS officer , just join those coaching institutes and make friends with your classmates… move only with them, who vigorously want to become… for some time dont move with any other friends… your world will become only that… you will become 100 percent an IAS officer…
Have you ever noticed this. .. mind works this way… if your neighbor has bought a car , then your mind somehow incline towards buying a car, and start working on that… power goes off in your house , you will not check with electricity board… you will check with neighbours , whether they have power… if they dont have power , you will be okay… if they have , then you become worried slightly… have you ever noticed… mind works this way… if some close friend of you has something, even you feel like having that…
Take this mindset in a positive way and join with people of positive mindset to achieve positive things… join with ambitious people to achieve your ambitions… join with people of social service and you will be inclined to do social service… join with good people to become good…

219. I am driven by envy and get success when I compete with others, otherwise I procrastinate. How do I not become envy driven? If I do not, will I get success?

As long as it is getting you success , it’s okay… but in life , there will be negative situations too… when you are unable to win inspite of envying with some one , there comes the trouble… you will go down very badly… the earlier wins too would become nothing … envying ,jealousy all comes into us , when we are insecure and , unable to take in when others are given more importance…

How to overcome this..

  1. Think firmly that all are equal irrespective of money ,.popularity ,.power … infact it is 100 percent true..
  2. People become successful due to opportunities, situations, circumstances and never think that unsuccessful people are dumb… they devoid of all the above…
  3. Success is not about having big popularity, money and power… it’s about the genuine efforts taken , duties done , service to others and very importantly being ethical … infact it is humans created this success level in terms of money, popularity and power.
  4. Start appreciating others genuinely and by doing that you are not going to become inferior..
  5. If people pour appreciation on some one and making them big , doesn’t mean he is bigger than everyone..
  6. Set a goal for yourself and start achieving.. your achievements should not be done to overcome someone… it should be done to satisfy yourself

Firmly have all these developed in you, you will overcome this issue

220. What should I do as I am bored of my married life?

People get into love with one person and when physical pleasures are over , then they get into boredom…since women are used to be sincere to one partner for centuries together and due to cultural compulsions , they stay with one partner formula… but that’s too now subject to husband’s treatment toward them… if it is bad , then they also think about quitting it.. if some one is friendly towards, then they too get into another relationship…

Even during a relationship before marriage, both get excited in seeing each other as they meet rarely due to parental , society control.. they put a wrong calculation that even few meetings are interesting for few hours , then being together 24×7 , it would be exciting 24x 7 .. they decide to get married… the moment you are available 24×7 and physical pleasures decline due to the same partner, mind searches for slight space to get irritated… then argument, protecting their respective parents all lead to total irritation.. so if you look overall, initially it is interesting , but after sometime everything gets bored due to easy availability, fulfillment of certain pleasures…
Unless understanding of marriages are going to be this way, and then get married can make the stay longer … staying or not staying with the relationship depends on the sex interest , culture binding , fear of name in the society and most importantly the welfare of children, emotions, love towards children..

Marriages can be saved by understanding, accepting the following

1.have an understanding that after marriage it will be arguments and possessiveness happening often..

2. Easy availability of 24×7 makes it boring, as the earlier excitement will be definitely lacking

3. Sex is just a minor part of life and it’s not everything

4. Choosing a partner with good conscience, so that love, emotions , welfare towards the children make them stay together

5. Choosing a partner who has a fear of name in the society

6. Choosing a partner who incline towards culture

7. Most importantly Husband and wife relationship is about getting emotional support, whenever its required.. this is the major reason for the marriage concept … most of the humans require this emotional support to survive and that’s the reason marriage

8. Especially after they become old , sexual interests may not be there… they need perfectly emotional support from each other to live happily…

221. Which is more important in life, money or good character?

People think that by earning, having money more , they are fortunate, talented , powerful, gods favourite, ahead of others etc…
But earning good name , good character is the greatest earning … infact its richer , it has got more value than money… after death it’s not the money speaks ,.. it’s the name they earned … infact this earning of good name , character makes them richer than the people who have lots of money..

This is validated by the fact that money can be even earned by stealing, fraudulent means to become richer…

But earning name, character can be earned only by means of your ethics, hardwork, fulfillment of responsibilities, the service you render , good attitude, showing real love , showing empathy , etc.. it cannot be earned by stealing or fraudulent means…Dr abdul kalaim, mahatma gandhi, Kamaraj didn’t have money… but they were considered the richest, since they earned the best name and character..

223. How do I overcome my fear of the future and go on living life in present?

My friend came to me with a problem … he wanted my suggestion to solve it… he is very close to his sister and his sister was going to deliver a baby in 2months time. He wanted to gift her in a big way with some gold chain… his wife was objecting to it , as his sister was not maintaining a good relationship with her …. she was suggesting a small amount of gift… arguments led to some fights between them.. but my friend doesn’t like quarrelling in the house… By forcibly doing that he anticipated a big quarrelling situation… if he does in a small way , he feared his sister might mistake him .. he didn’t want that to happen too..he was confused and worried over that… that thought came often and used to irritate him.. that was the time he came to me… I suggested him to certain ideas ..

But he didn’t follow that… those thoughts continued to disturb him…

Meanwhile after 2 months his sister delivered a baby.. he was stressed about what to do..

Suddenly that particular day his wife’s parents came and they wanted to stay with her for a week… they gifted her a big latest washing machine .. their washing machine was under repair for some time … she was so happy with their arrival and got excited with their gift too.. she became happy and her mood suddenly became ecstatic .. suddenly seeing her husband out of mood , she asked why he is out of mood… he told about sister babys gifting issue … out of the joyous mood , she wanted to see him happy… she told him whatever you plan to gift , just go ahead. He became happy , bought the planned one and both went to see the baby… my friend became happy..

The next day while getting up from bed , it seems he thought about this how all became good suddenly… then another thought came to him about why he went through suffering for those those 2 months ,worrying about this issue… suddenly he thought about me.. he thought that if he had followed my suggestions, he couldn’t have spoiled those 2months… he came to me later and shared all these..
He said to me this ” you told me to visualise positively about that , blank those thoughts whenever it comes and focus in the present moment .. I ignored and suffered those 2 months badly… he said he should have followed that… he had big regrets..

Any problem/ issue which is going to come up after some time, handle this way….visualise positive about that..Always be in the present , blank the unnecessary thoughts regarding that… good things will happen most of the time ..

The most surprising fact is that , if it happens the opposite way , you will accept it … you will even get used to it… you will even regret about your suffering during that period… you will even sometimes feel comfortable than before…

224. What are some instances when negative thinking can actually help?

At certain places , situations and with some people negative thinking helps.. it helps us to be extra alert in not facing the negative consequences…

For example you are going for trekking or to some steep places , you need to be extra careful… thinking about the negative consequences, it can make you bit extra careful …

You happen to become friends with some negative people , who are notorious with certain activities … here negative thinking about them and the consequences can help you disconnected from them .

Suddenly you are lazy , sluggish and totally depressed… continuing like this and thinking about the negative consequences may help you to revive and come out of it… fearing the consequences, you will start finding solutions to come out of it…

Negative thinking can only be used only to change yourself, become alert and avoid facing the bad consequences of it…

Otherwise when you have no issues and normal , your mind should never go into negative thoughts..